Haven't been on a bit, some stuff came up, talking about making me eat my words about the whole don't usually use a condom and never got my girl pregnant...she told me today she took a pregnancy test and it's positive, she's gonna tell her aunt because her mom won't understand and im going to go with her to get the abortion I have mixed emotions about the whole thing...

what exactly are your views on abortion?

I've had friends that that has happened to, after a while you guys wont even remember, you would probably regret it more, if you don't get the abortion.

How long have you been with your girlfriend?

As long as you two both agree on going along with the abortion, then I see no problem. Just make sure you both really want to do it or you'll regret it later.

Agreed.

I believe abortion is the right way to go, I can't support a child, and her mom will kick her out if she finds out, I don't belive in abortion after 6months, but the embroy is only 3weeks old, so it's mainly tissue removal..

and we have only been together for about 4 months.

When did her last period start?

I think that at your age aborting the baby is your best choice, regardless of what other pro-life people might say. [I think I read somewhere] You're only 16 and obviously a smart kid (well, aside from not using protection ) and have a lot of potential in the future that could be dampened by a baby.

Hopefully you will have learned your lesson from this whole ordeal and wont let this happen again.

I'm not really sure but we got into a fight and haven't had sex in about 3 weeks, she took the test 2 days ago.

& yea, this was a big lesson to learn, but could have been bigger, I'm not saying I would have abandoned my child, but It definitely would have changed my life.

I have another question, haha.

Did you not pull out?

I pulled out every time, but you can get pregnant from pre-cum, I guess it was just bad luck..

... Wow.

Thanks for the input.

Wow, so you just got lucky.

I might be in the same situation as you. I am late and although the first test was negative, I am still scared. I took the test a few days before my missed period and am waiting until the end of the week to take the second one. Basically I am praying for another negative.

If it is positive, I am going to get an abortion for the reasons you've stated.

Take another test ASAP, Rachel!

//I learned my lesson the hard way also. Although I didn't have an abortion.

I was going to continue with the pregnancy, but I had a miscarriage.

well....you probably wont like my opinion. but you guys made the mistake of having sex without protection before you were ready to have a kid... its not the childs fault that you two made a mistake. he/she shouldnt have to suffer because of you. think of it this way, if she gets an abortion, she's ending a life. she's keeping a child from living...from experiancing life: the good and the bad. if she is actually pregnant, there is a life inside of her. a life that doesnt share her exact same dna. a life that is not hers to take away.

personally, i dont think she should get an abortion mainly because i dont believe its the right thing to do. abortion is only an acceptable option if being pregnant could in a way kill her or if she was raped... but thats my beliefs. idc (well i guess i do cuz it saddens me that some1 could take it lightly) but its her choice, both of you guys' choice what to do

i only encourage you to look up everything you can about abortions and make sure you know that there are things that could happen. a lot of risks come with it and many people become depressed after having an abortion. one of my friends miscarried and she feels so horrible about it even tho she didnt really want the child and it wasnt her fault, how would she feel if she made a consious decision?

but look everything up. consider adoption.

I don't really think abortions are the best thing to do. I mean, it's a life you're taking away, not a thing, and I definitely don't support that, but if it's what's best for the two of you, then I guess you have no other choice.

If you both agree that its the right thing to do then so be it. I suppose its a good reason for the trouble you have been put in to.

I suppose I'm just one of those people that if I know I can't support a child or ready to have one at all then I won't have sex. Just my point of view though

i think you're doing the right thing.

random question...how much does one cost?

Wow, that's tough. I think you're doing the right choice for your girlfriend and yourself; I hope all goes well and that this kind of situation never arises for you two again.

I think the average is around $400.

Yes that's about right, she's going through with the abortion and I agree with her decision, I'm taking her and paying for it, just have to figure out when we can schedule it now.

You should take her to go get Medi-Cal so the state pays for her abortion. It'll save you the money.

First off, So sorry hunny.

Secondly, I couldn't sleep (hmm, wonder why!) and I just took the second test: NEGATIVE!!

Agreed.

Yay. Don't have unprotected sex again. Go get the bc pills or something if you wanna go bareback

I was kind of tricked by that I was under the assumption my gf was on BC, but after the fact when I asked she told me she was getting BC what she was on while we were having sex was only a small dose to help with menstruation, not to prevent pregnancy...i was a little pissed to say the least..

Awwh i'm sorry dear :( Your child would have been beautiful. :)

anyways, although i'm not a strong supporter of abortion, i think that it was better for you to go through with it anyways since you can't really support a baby at the moment. there was really nothing you could do i guess. i would just hope that you've learned your lesson and will have protected sex. :)

Haha ya, I have been on BC for a few years but during Spring Break it got messed up so I went off of it until I came home. And a silly boyfriend got annoyed with condoms and a silly girl let him do his thing and pull out. Needless to say, I started my new pack of BC asap after I took the second test.


So kiddos, sex is fun, amazing, wonderful etc just wear a rubber or be on the pill!

Im so lucky that i cannot have children until Im ready to get my tubes untied (which will be a while).((They were tied due to a medical issue i had with my fallopian tube earlier in my teen years [13]))

But yeah thats the biggest thing that irks me about some girls getting BC is that alot of girls go on it to clear up acne and regulate your period.I think that you might as well go for the whole package and get one that will do all that AND prevent you from getting pregnant,But thats if your body can handle it.

I agree. It isn't this child's fault that you made some bad decisions. You shouldn't be stealing it's life just to benefit yourselves... how selfish.

Well here's my input on adoption. I'm adopted.I hate it. It's depressing. It's sad. I feel like I don't even belong in my family half the time. I know this may sound depressing right now, but I have rather of been "killed" rather then put up for adoption any day since I already have suicidal thoughts half the time.

My girlfriend will get kicked out of her family if they figured out she is pregnant, I can't care for a child, nor do I want to, I made a mistake, but this mistake is fixable and if some tissue and cells have to be killed and removed, so be it, you would have this child without anywhere to go and no financial security? I think not.

It would be selfish to have this child and give him/her a shitty life, and it would also be selfish to get my girlfriend kicked out of her home, have no place to go, and f**k up the rest of her life because I thought this was a better way to go.

And you think it benefits my life, ON WHAT f**king BASIS!?!? It makes me feel horrible to go through this, abortion doesn't benefit my life, and that was an outrageous thing to say...but I guess opinions are opinion no matter how ignorant they may be...

I'm sorry to hear that, I recently had an attempt at taking my life and died for about 4min a month and a half ago, but they were able to revive me thankfully, after rehab and the counselling I'm currently in, I realised I love my life and I want to live it, I hope you don't have to hit absolute rock bottom like I did or even worse before you figure out it's worth it, I take 150mg of Effexor XR once daily (pill), and it helps really well with depression.

If you ever want to talk about how you feel, please don't hesitate to send me an IM - ThatSoCalKid, or if you feel really f**ked up and it's at that place were you feel like all you can do is die, you can message me and I'll give you my phone number and we can talk about it.

well i kno it doesnt benifit your life. no offense, but maybe you should have thought about that before having unprotected sex. but i guess whats done is done. if you two are certain you wont have regrets about it, i guess i see no reason not to. just dont let that mistake happen again

If you read his others post, his girlfriend told him she was on the pill, so he thought he was having protected sex.

wow, woops. i had read them but i wasnt remembering that.

dont get an abortion
just put the kid up for adoption
then you both win
you and your girl dont have to raise the child
and the kid gets to live

dont let the kid suffer for your stupid actions
you wanted to have sex with out protection
what you think was going to happen
you guys shouldnt even be surprised about this

so just put the kid up for adoption please dont kill it

This is quite an interesting topic. I know you may have heard this enough times already, but you can't have too much protection. Abortion... hmm, well I think that abortion is "okay" until a certain period in time. Many people think that abortion would "kill" the baby. Though, you can't kill something that isn't living, and I don't consider something living until there is brain activity. I heard that this doesn't occur until about 3 months(if you happen to know, please tell me). So, hopefully this will make if you feel a little better about abortion.

P.S. I have a feeling that some people will disagree with me about abortion/ when life starts, that's fine, but please post in the appropriate section (Debates?). I would rather have this post remain on topic.

There is a topic in debate already, post your shit there people. Besides, screaming at him that he shouldn't get an abortion won't do you any good. His girlfriend is already going through with it. If you have read through the thread, let alone his first few posts, you'd see that a)he thought that they were having protected sex and b)she is only 3 weeks pregnant, hardly a life that she is taking away.

well i suppose the best he can do is support her through whatever she wants to do

i mean, even tho i wouldnt do what she was doing, i would want my bf to support me in whatever way i needed.

i'm sorry if i seem to be like hypocritical...trying to look at it from a differnt side of things than before

Well as long as you two agree then I suppose it's up to you. But honestly, you shouldn't base your descision on our opinions.

He's not. At all. If you have read anything in this topic, you would know that his girlfriend is already getting the abortion. He was simply saying he has mixed feelings about it.

@Anti-Abortion people, Go away. He has all the right to and in this situation it's quite appropriate.

@Elba, sex expert I see.

@Rachel, I hate that whole waiting thing. Makes you always stressed out and worried that your partner is pregnant! Horrible.

And finally @ Ryan lol.
Man that situation sucks. It does suck that it happened, but all I can say is best of luck to you man. I fully agree with you on this and I would do the same thing should it happen to my girlfriend. You're not doing anything wrong seeing as the "fetus" cannot really do much in the way of thinking/being haha.