No.

My boyfriend and I of almost a year now, started having sex when he was almost 13 :S

i know that sounds horrible, but he's REALLY mature. And i'm not so much. I'm almost 17.

So it was my 15th birthday yesterday and i know ALOT of 14 year olds that have had sex, it isnt too bad because they had all been with each other for over a year, i think if it is rushed into it is wrong but if you have real feelings for the person then i dont see a problem, just remember though you dont always have to go all the way, you could always use types of foreplay to erm... satisfy yourselves :P toss him off, finger her, blow jobs, licked out??? hope i helped

Hahaha.

As for the original post. Their business, their risks.

if ur ready then do it if your not dont..thats how i feel!

It's just stupid. I mean, the kids aren't even fully developed physically, not to mention mentally. I feel sorry for them. Everyone should have a childhood/teen years. Why would you want to ruin it by trying to be all grown up?

yes ... way to young

i think it is but my friend 14 and she starting having sex and got pregnant and was going to keep but lost the baby in like the 5th or 6th month

This is a very important issue. One that you should talk to your parents about. Our opinion is that 14 is to young to handle the responsibility of a sexual relationship.

We believe that sex is a good thing that should be enjoyed and that everyone should be comfortable with. No matter what your sexuality you should be comfortable with it. You should be able to discuss sexual issues with your parents and not be ashamed of it.

This is not an issue of morality or right or wrong. It is an issue of responsibility. There is a reason fathers are so protective of their daughters especially at the vulnerable age of 14 through 18. Most don't want them to have a sexual relationship until a bit later than that.

Your bodies are starting to develop you are turning into a woman and your hormones are starting to flow. You get sexually aroused and curious about boys and for some even girls. Which is perfectly fine as well. You naturally want to experiment and experience new things. Most womens bodies will not be fully developed until they reach your mid 20s.

It is best to know your own body and how it reacts to sexual stimulus before you enter into a sexual relationship. Masturbation and discovering the different parts of your body and how they react to different stimulus is natural progression. Thats one reason privacy is such an important issue for young teens.

Bottom line. If you are still in school Middle / High school or even college. If you are still living under your parents roof. If your parents are still paying any of your bills (Thats Tuition / room and board / credit card ANY OF YOUR BILLS). If you are not able to handle any amount of alcohol in a responsible manner. If you do not have a job that you can support yourself and at least one other person on completely. If you do not have your own house and are on any type of government aid. You are too young for a sexual relationship.

You have to be ready to accept the responsibility of a sexual relationship and the consequences of it if your judgment is compromised. Such as with Alcohol.

What surprises me most about this thread is that everyone is talking about Pregnancy. While this is a Huge responsibility and a very important issue, and the ultimate reason for the human sexual desire. It is preventable by some measures (Birth Control is not 100% nor are condoms and any other contraceptive device).

Not one single person has brought up the subject of STDs. A Sexually Transmitted Disease can END YOUR LIFE. A pregnancy just complicates it. If you happen to get an STD you just don't get rid of it, many stay with you for the rest of your life, or worse KILL YOU.

You never know who has one. The person you are having sex may have an STD and not even know it. Herpes, HIV, and others stay with you for your entire life. You will be required to disclose your STD status to a prospective sexual partner. Now think how hard it will be to meet someone and devlope a lifelong rewarding loving relationship with a person if you have Herpes or HIV / Aids?

STDs can be transmitted through Oral sex and mutual masturbation (Fingering and manual stimulation by your sexual partner). You have to take many more precautions with new partners to avoid contracting an STD than you do getting pregnant.

It is not inappropriate to ask a prospective sexual partner to get tested. In fact it is a very responsible thing to do. If you desire to enter into a sexual relationship it would be responsible to go with that person and get tested together. Then go together to receive your individual results and share them with each other. If you are not ready to do that you are not ready for a sexual relationship.

Many teenagers have gotten drunk impairing their judgment, were convinced by someone, a boyfriend or even a stranger in the heat of the moment to have sex with them and ended yup with a Life threatening STD or pregnant.

Talk with your parents. Make sure they talk with you. Do not be embarrassed by the Sex talk. Make sure that you ask plenty of questions. Do not be afraid to ask questions. I would rather my daughter ask me or my wife about sexual issues that learn them from friends, on the Internet, or by watching porn.

Always remember Sex is good. You should be comfortable about your sexuality. If you are Bi-sexual or or gay you should feel comfortable and discuss those issues with your parents.

One thing we do well in our country (The USA) is repress sexual thought and feelings and make them something that is meant to be shared with no one. This is a problem. If you can not talk openly about sexual issues that you are curious about with your parents because they are embarrassed or offended, then they need help.

One of the reasons these questions about sex come up and young teenagers get themselves into trouble with sexual relationships is the serious lack of parental involvement in all aspects of their lives. Parents should be good Roll models, Guides, Mentors and best friends to their children.

I hope this helps. Remember Sex is a responsibility that should be enjoyd between two people who respect and trust each other. It is fun and should be shared openly with your partner only when you are old enough and ready to handle the responsibility of the end result.

SHOcouple

If you have any questions or feel like you need some advise or just want to discuss an issue feel free to PM us.

yes

^Agreed. People did it in the olden days at much younger ages

It may be too young for nowadays modern soceity, but never wrong. Why else would some people get their periods in 5th grade?

It depends.. really. But, at the age of 14, sex should be the last priority.

I don't understand why you would even want to think about that right now.

Why not just focus on school and have sex when it's more like an afterthought then a need?

Hm...I would nope not. :X

I'm 15. I love my boyfriend. We started discussing sex and i was kind of getting used to the idea and started being okay with it. Just recently he admitted to caring too much about sexual activities and probably not enough about me. We've changed that. I'm so glad we didn't have sex because once you have sex, there's no going back. Having sex in a young relationship increases the possibilty of people getting used and the relationship getting boring. If me and my boyfriend never would've stopped and discussed this issue, we probably would already be broken up.

So I'd so Yes. Don't do it, there's no rush. If he loves you, he'll understand and respect your decision.

I vote yes. I think 14 is wayyy to young to be having sex.

I think it depends. If that 14 year old is capable of handling the risks that come with sex, than go ahead, its your desicion.

Also, I think maturety have ALOT to do with it.

14 year olds shouldn't because 14 year olds aren't emotionally or [sometimes]physically ready to do that!



16 and 12?! gahh. [/horrified]

Thats not what she meant. :/

Yes. That is so wrong... in our country. ü

Yes. It's very wrong. It's very stupid. I don't care how mature you are. Be more mature and get married first.

i voted yes. but at the same time i wanted to vote no.

but i voted yes because i think it is a really young age to have sex.

um. i dont think it would be wrong at all. its their body and their choice. they may regret it when they get older but then it would be their fault for not thinking it over carefully.

But it's not their bodies just yet, lol. Not under the law it's not. It's not really your body till your 18. And why put your body through something like that anyway? It's not even fully developed.

It's shit like this (that children think about such as sex and drugs) that makes me sick to my stomach and only fuels my ambition to leave the United States. I would have to assume that if God indeed existed, God would sooner or later strike this country with a plague worst than AIDS.

But in all seriousness now, if I couldn't leave the country for whatever the reason may be... I'm not daring to have children. NEVER EVER! I've noticed all these younger generations are becoming worst and worst. I thought my generation was bad, till I found out my friend's lil brother (10 years old at the time) had sex with some lil skank. And my friend was all proud of his little brother like it was the norm, I felt like I was in a twilight zone.

lol in my opinion, i would like to say that, please do not have children... as already i can tell how badly you lack self respect, dignity, honor, morals, and any sort of parenting skills.

with that mentality, you'd only raise a human disease.

I respect any country who views children even thinkin of having sex as a bad thing. Just with your post alone, I can tell your country is very rich in morality.

Leave the united states...where they marry their children off illigaly at agaes like 5? Or, before they are born? So that once they hit their periods they can have children? Sometimes with 50 year old men?

Mmn yes, I can so see how America would seem like the most terrible place in this situation.

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No really, stfu, I'm tired of Americans getting pissed at there country when it's less the country and more the children. Look at the poll man, not everybody agrees.

Trust me I'd rather live in Iceland than the U.S.
I'd rather live in Dominican Republic where half the island of D.R. doesn't even have electricity. But guess what? At least my children won't look forward to having sex at the age of when I was playing with G.I. Joes, nor poppin pills, nor smokin drugs, nor cursing as if they were adults.

Let me ask you, name me a country... any country in the world other than the U.S. where children have parties (children 10-14 years old) and dip their hands in a big punch bowl filled with pills and they eat them like they were skittles.

When you can name me that country... maybe I'll feel better and not feel so ashamed of Americans and their parenting.


I don't know how you feel about your origins nor how you feel about America, but I can care less... let me know how life goes when you have kids. I'll be lookin forward to a laugh.

My point was that America isn't the worst, but it's not the best. Please don't misunderstand.

And I resent that you would like to laugh at my unborn children. For someone who seems to care so much about youth you have an interesting way of showing it.

Now a days kids are being influenced through radio and tv. Watch a cartoon on cartoon network, and I bet you you'll see a cartoon of these little kids wearing some skanky adult like clothes and acting flirtatious and perverted. That is one of the sources of where our kids get their minds washed and programmed.

And listen to some music, the stuff that's on the radio, specifically hip pop (rap), what do they talk about? Sex, drugs, guns, and money. Even Eminem couldn't have said it any better (and I dislike Eminem) that children are being influenced through music. If you haven't taken psychology, I advise you to, you'll get an understanding.

So I'd rather live in a financially poor country, but is rich in morality, honor, and respect. I can go without TV... heck I can go without a PC and internet. As long as I have fresh water, vegetation, and fish I'll be satisfied. And speaking of that dream, I might be moving to Kauai, 30 miles away from civilization... or the city life I should say :D

And about the whole laughing part, I didn't mean to disrespect you. Basically speaking, I dislike people who pretend to know it all (not that I'm sayin you're like this) about parenting and have everything under control and have nothing to worry about.

When right outside of their front door of their house, there's kids in the backyard touching each other's privates, there's kids down the street smoking a cig or even worst smoking a drug. There's kids who are planning to stab their parents or kids or their teacher. And there's kids right now who are watching a porn video on the internet.

I'm sick of people blaming it all on music. There are kids who have sex because they want to. I was that kid.
I'm also sick of people saying 'If they're mentally mature' (I was one of them). It's wrong, at fourteen? What do you know about sex? You're still a kid, you're still fragile, very fragile. It doesn't matter how phyiscally / mentally mature you are, you're still a baby.

Then again, in the world we live in, what is wrong?

You mean like when bugs bunny dresses up like a lady to trick Elmer Fudd? I'm not one of those people that blames anything else but bad parenting for bad parenting. Just turn off the TV, just not buy them a tv if you want to blame it on that. If they see it on another kid's tv then I guess that kid just prepared them fro the real world, where stuff happens and it's there choice as to what to do with that information.

I'm not a fan of saying kids are stupid sponges without a notion of right and wrong. If a kid is old enough to comprehend what's going on in a television show, he/she should be able to decipher whether they agree with it or not. Moral comes at an early age.



When I was a kid, I listened to alot of Barry White, thanks to my parents. But I've never wanted to rub up a lady.



You don't have to live in a poor country to do all that. Strong willed people give up all that all the time. But if you really fear for your children that much, I suppose giving up the chance of a better education works too.



Deff not a know it all, just a bitch with alot of personal opinions who isn't scared to voice them.



Alright, the touching privates thing? That's a kid thing. It has absolutely no affect on what culture you go to, young children will always be curious and act out what they see mommies, daddies, cousins and uncles do. Some of these poor kids live in a one room house with mommy and daddy, who have 8 kids. They have at least heard a little action.

In most poor countries most people smoke or are addicted to something,a nd that all the way includes children. I could rant about the children who work in coal mines who smoke crack leaves that cost as much as a pack of gum at the nearest store before they go to work to give them courage, but instead I'll just say I think your idealizing alot of poor countries.

And that kid that's watching porn? Where are HIS parents? Where are the parent locks? Bad parenting sir. The world has always, ALWAYS been a scary place. That's what parents of all animals are for, protection.

I'm sorry, I'm done with this small little debate. I either have sight beyond sight, or I see the bigger picture in psychological evolution in the mind of a child. Either one, you can pick or just both.

If nothing influences a child, culture wouldn't exist, a society wouldn't exist... I can't believe you guys are willing to make yourselves look... ignorant to try and debate this. Take a course in psychology and sociology. Then come back for a more depth debate.

Anyways, good luck with your kids. I know I'll be satisfied with my parenting :D

That isn't what I said at all. But sure, I'll keep being ignorant and you keep being the man with the insight. Whatever helps you sleep at night, big guy.

lol I'm just sayin, you're making excuses to justify wrong things. For example, children who are curious touch privates of other children? Uhm... not me nor any of my little cousins have done such a thing. I'm speaking of children who have a decision to make, not a little 3 year old who's bathing with his little brother or sister.

But anyways, I'm not tryin to act like I know it all... I was just brought up differently, very old fashioned with an Italian and Dominican culture. So forgive me for being a typical dick :D

nopeeeeeee ; because at the age of 14.. you're allow to have sex =]

yeah. i think that at such an early age, sex will just be viewed as only for pleasure or getting what you want... when it is a much deeper kind of thing shared between two people. plus there are those pregnancy-STD problems.

noh ive bin havin seex sinz i was 12
i neva got preggerz

No, it is their own choice. NOT ours

Honestly... You disgust me. Just sayin.

^ Do you even believe him / her? There are posts you should ignore. Really ... having sex since you're 12 isn't something to be proud of.

LOL A friend of mine, his little brother who at the time was only 10 years old. HE bragged about sleeping with his little girlfriend! But she was 12. And my friend sat there and cheered him on and congratulated him for having sex before highschool.

I definitely don't think that a 14 year old is prepared for sex!

So true. Sex outside of marriage is wrong no matter how old or "mature" you are. If the person who wants to have sex with you really loves you they'll wait. If not, then they never really loved you.

I have a question. Can someone define "wrong?" Because what's "wrong" to someone may not be "wrong" to somebody else.

For example, having sex at the age of 14 is not "wrong" to me. To me, sex doesn't really matter. It's not a huge deal...When it happens, it happens, whether or not it's at age 14.

i definetly think it's wrong.
and i'm turning 14 in a couple months.
i mean, yeah. it's just wrong.
there's this one tenth turning eleventh grader that's already pregnant.
(lol, my friends and i think my one friend's brother got her pregant because he was over at some 10th graders house during the weekend and we just heard the news a couple days later.......hmm )
yeah.

Hahaha yeah it does expecialy when its unwanted and all over the school the next day :/

Okay, if a 14 year old has sex, it's not making love. It's a young teen trying to act like a "grown-up" which gives sex a whole different purpose.

And also, there's a chance that you'll get pregnant. I'm 100% sure that a 14 year old girl can not take care of a baby. And I'm also 100% sure that the guy you had sex with will run away and never talk to you again because he's not mature enough to accept the responsibilities of taking care of a child.

People need to enjoy this thing called childhood and stop trying to grow up so fast.

^ Truth so hard it'll knock you on your ass and make you cry.

would one even know how to do it?

personally i think its kinda immature for a 14 year old to think that they understand the consequences and think that nothing will happen to them. i also think its kinda gross, its almost like child rape cause when you're 14, you havent even fully developed yet, physically and mentally. and you might think you're SOO IN LOVE with your boyfriend but 90% of the time, you will break up. dont think "oh, but me and my boyfriend have been going out for more than a year! so that means that i truly love him!" no, it means crap and rarely have i heard of middle schoolers staying together for more than 2 years because once you get into highschool, there are a lot more hot people.