I belive it's a lil too young

i lost my virginity when i was 14... it was the ideal situation, but it wasn't anything catastrophic... i think that if you're being safe and actually thinking things through before you do it, then it's your decision to make... besides, everything happens for a reason right?

Definitely yes.

It doesn't matter how mature the 14 year olds are, at that age there is no way a baby can be brought up in an acceptable environment.

There's also the risk of STI's, which I don't think a 14 year old would be able to cope with.

I say no, but this is a question that's always going to be answered with opinion, it's based on a belief, instead of an open idea. No matter what happens, there's always someone, thats going to say, 14 year olds having sex is wrong, than there saying having sex before marriage is wrong, and a sin, etc. etc.

I say, who cares, you only live once, you might as well live it the best way yousee fit.

Also, if you asked me, a 14 year old having sex, with someone a few years older, I would say yes, that is wrong, but thats just what I believe, because some guys are pathetic and like to fondle like girls, because there easy, and those guys are disgusting.

EDIT: I love how everyone says 14 year old are all immature, well in a way this is very true, but not every 14 year old is immature, and sex is usually a act that releases immaturity, or makes them more immature. In every way nobody is mature anyways, because the fact is, no body, can take care of them selves and immaturity is like a disease that you won't grow out of, so really, your always going to be a immature kid, even if you think your mature as you could possibly be.

Also, who cares about the age your having sex at, honestly?
It's like underage smoking, drinking, swearing, looking at pornography, etc. etc.
Your not going to stop it.

Maybe, if people's parents started acting like parents.

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!
Way too young. At 14 you should be learning and enjoying yourself before society rips your innocnece out of you.

Besides, the ONLY reason why people think its allright to have sex even in middle school and high school is our chanigng views that have been influenced by modern tv and music.

Now a days, we are gaing a casual outlook on sex. We see sex on t.v., implied sex, we are even writing sex on the interent. Think about it. Did this stuff happen back in the old days? Of course not! No 14 year old would even think about sex, never the less performiong it. Yet, the 60's created a change reaction, casual sex was a good thing. From there, it increased to intermingle with society to acceptance.
What is a 14 year old suppose to do when everyone around her discusses sex in various ways?
It becomes so common to hear that it only becomes natural! Of course, its so NATURAL that they can only tell their friends if they had sex (not their parents, they'd get in trouble!)

Its like growing up in a house where everyone smokes. Chances are, the kid is going to smoke too. Or if your smoking pot, and your parents would kill you if they found out.

At 14 years old, the kid knows that they shouldnt be having sex, since they WILL get in trouble. Yet, they do it anyways since its a common act and it gives them a thrill of exictment.

Love isnt involved. A 14 year old hasnt been in enough realtionships to understand the concept fully. They just rely on their expereince and feelings they have gained from their three years in middle school

i dont think its too young if you know what youre doing


well
yeah it is too young

but if you want to have sex when youre 14, just be knowledgeable abotu what youre doing

i was 14 when i lost it

ok so what age would you guys say is good??

Perfectly said. I doubt any 14-year-old has the financial resources or sound mind to raise a child. Other than that, don't they have anything better to do?

There are so many perspectives on this.

I'll stick with a yes. I don't think you would have experienced life enough to understand that deep kind of thing sex is intended to be between two people.

If you feel you're responsible enough for it, then hey, that's you I suppose. But again, many fourteen year olds don't have their lives in order, prepared to deal with consequences if anything goes wrong.

Most guys haven't even developed fully by that age, so...

Right when you hit puberty, ya no, test your body limits. Its like when you're picking something really heavy up. Lock your knees and use your back, wanna see how much thumpin youre body can handle.

Why would you even be thinking about it? I think eventually you'll regret it and wish you waited.

well i was 14 when i lost it, technally to the wrong person, its just hard not to be wat you r if you try to change for your family sake.

i said no.
just because i feel no right to judge when somebody else feels "ready" to lose it.
my cousin (who i love and is one of my VERY close friends) had her baby when she was 14. i don't think any less of her for it, she's a wonderful mom, she still goes to school, and she still has a life.
it's not up to someone else to say what's right or wrong, it's up to the individual.

if they are mature...
but still they are 14.
so..ITS WRONG

So what does that make you then?

my boyfriend was 12 going on 13 and i was 16 when we lost our virginities.

i know that sounds horrible,
but hes REALLY mature, and i'm kind of immature.
we've been together for over a year,
and now his parents are trying to get me put in jail for rape,
so be careful.

^

*passes out* WTF?

Christ Almighty.

yeahhhhh
kind of a long story,
and this sounds so retarded,
but i love him.

it kind of runs in my family,
all the girls on my oms side have married like 16 years younger.

in reality we are only 3 years apart, but thats a big deal now.
who cares, we don't.
we're gonna wait out 3 years until we can 'legally' be together.

i think we can make it.

I'm not going to say yes and im not going to say no because i've done some things [not sex exactly] without thinking it throughly and it's hard to think because the only thing in your mind is i love this person and he loves me.

And then there's alchohal.

I think it is... I just think it's gross.Wait until your 16 or older.

well personally i think at 14 you may be physically ready to have sex, but not emotionally.
plus if u break up with your boyfriend, which in most cases at this age your going to break up one day, then you've just wasted your virginity for your whole life.
But i'm not sure really, i guess its a personal thing some could be ready, some may not be.
but as for being wrong, i dont think so.

i think its rly up to the ppl. i mean if they feel like they are ready for it then sure go ahead.

^ Interesting view coming from someone having a Bible quote as their signature.

yea i believe in god
but that doesn't mean
i can't say what i think.
i lost my virginity when i was 14.
and just because you believe in god doesn't mean you have the same views as other ppl who believe in god.

^ Nah. You have to have GOD'S view. Which is; no sex before marriage. Having sex at 14 is even worse.

ok well thats ur opinion not mine. i don't care. i wanted to do so i did it.

^ HAHA. I'm sure God is proud of you.

well whatever
im not going to argue with you.
i don't care what you think about me.

I don't think anything about you. I am not judging you. I think it's morally wrong for 14 year old BABIES to indulge into sexual activities but like you stated, that's my opinion.
I just find it hypocritical that you're a Christian yet choose to have sex at such a young age.

Anyway, I apologize if I came off offensive. It wasn't my intention.

pick and choose, pick and choose

Hum JC?

i don't think it matters if it's against her religion. most people pick and choose what they want to follow from the bible any way.

which i personally am pretty happy about considering some of the stuff in the bible.

But sex being one of the most essential things in the book should mean people ought to respect it.

Hmm...that's a tricky question...yes, and no. It all depends on the person(s) maturity level and if there really just simply mentally ready for that, personally I'm 16, and I wouldn't have sex with a 14 year old girl, I know it's only a 2 year difference, but we all know how big of a step that is to go from 14 to 16, mentally and physically, now a 14 year old and another 14 year old having sex..other than the fact it may be very quick and uncoordinated, I see nothing wrong with it, no matter what just do what you feel is right I guess

thank you so much for trying to explain that lol

Yes, and no, but of course, I'm biased.

It's fine, especially if it was consensual. I wouldn't recomend it or anything, but whatever, I can't talk.

Just remember: Babies having babies = Awkward.

Yes it is I think that you should be married before you have sex and what 14 year old would be married.

One in a third-world country.

Who am I to say it's wrong or not? A couple hundred years ago I would have been married away and popping out babies for a guy a couple decades older than me who I didn't really know. And that was considered right back then.
Sex is so taboo in America, but really, it ulitmately depends on the parties involved to decide whether or not it's right or wrong.

People do it anyways. I wouldn't find it wrong, honestly. I almost had sex... sigh.

At 14 ugh, I don't know but if you do it you will keep on doing it then no Boys will want to be with you = "Slut".

If it was so important, only married couples who saved themselves would go to Heaven, which isn't the case.

I didn't know you'd been up there, Podo. Put a good word in with the big guy for me.

If it's not, then what has this world come to.

I think that if you want to have sex then do it, but beware of the consequences.

This somewhat belongs in debate.

Yes it does.

Yes. I'm 14 and I know for a fact that I'm not ready.

I think for someone around that age, they see nothing wrong with it...but when you grow up and mature (not saying that I'm mature) you'll see it's pretty dumb, because most girls I know that age that have already had sex do it to seem cool infront of their peers, but really it just makes them seem like easy sluts.


And that's my view.