I met this guy ( lets call him Josh) about five years ago online, we became friends throughout that time. We finally get together and meet in person last year. I went to go visit him, he lives about four hours away from me. I come home after the visit and he doesnt have five minutes out of his day to talk to me. I always answer his calls night or day and yet he wont give me the same. I would talk to his roommates about our situation and what was going on. To make things short , I end up dating both of his roommates , not because of what he did to me, but maybe they had the five minutes that he didnt have. Josh and I have been recently talking again and he got a cellphone to call me. I have this guilt in me about dating his roommates, I don't know if I should tell him about what happened. It's killing me, I am always open with him, but with this situation I am hurting. We were broken up when this happend too, with the roommates, if that even matters. I don't know what to do, what do I do???

wow.. okay do you have feelings for the roommates?

does he still make time for you? if he doesn't then you should leave him. He's not emotionally interested. He wants you b/c of the long distance, but close together, he doesn't.

hope i make sense.

I guess they knew I was hurting about Josh and maybe they said the things I wanted to hear. I find out later that he was dating this girl, while i was dating him.

The other roommate, I he told me about the other roommate^^^up there...they are best buds. the roommates i cheated with. I stopped dating the second one, this one cause he was in the military and he came for 2 wks home. and I went to see him, then i ended it w/ him. I don't want to hurt him and find someone while hes over there and still be w/ him. so i ended it w/ him.

They both don't know I still talk to Josh.

So were you dating this Josh guy when you went out with his roommates? Since it just sounds like that you were friends online and then met up in person.

So complicated. He moved even further away from me, well to go to school in a different state, but I do want to visit him in the summer.
I dont want to make excuses. I know his work schedule is 2 or 3 am to afternoon then he has school to attend.

No we broke up. Then I dated the roommates.

but didnt you say Josh was going out with a girl, while seeing you?...was that after the roommates told him or before?

No that was the first guy Adam** that i dated, he was the one who was w/ another girl and i had no clue.
George*( military guy) was the one who told me about Adam.


Josh-ex
Adam-first roommate i dated
George- second. military guy

oh okay sorry didnt understand at first...

so do you really think this Josh guy is taking you seriously? b/c sometimes guys like long distance relationships so that they can have their own fun without the girl knowing you know?

Well i think you should just get over him beaucase do you really want to spend all your time driving to go visit him? Just find someone else, it wont end up working in the end with him anyway.

Who said she would be spending all her time driving up to see him.

Anyways, if you want this to work and if he does then it's cool. It seems like you want to be honest with him, you should tell him if you want.
It does also seem like he's content with the whole distance between you two. You've just got to weigh it all up and also find what's worth it in your heart.

Thats some backstabbing shit right there. Straight up on his roommates? I hope you talked it over with him first before ditching him!

well its not like you were dating his brothers now in my opinion thats a big no no. You should tell him if its bothering you but dont stress over it. If he didnt give you much attention then its no biggie.