Apr 13 2007, 08:57 PM
my bf and i work at the same place 3 days a week. But he also have a currently new full time morning job at 45 hrs a week.. i can't help but feel jealous, because he is spending more time with his coworkers than me. even thou we see each other almost everyday, almost always at night. i still feel left out!!! is it normal to feel this way? last week he blurted out how this slutty girl at work was hitting on him. arg why he even bother telling me that. i then told him how i rather not know about stuff like this. so he stopped. and so now i wanna know more!!
im just so curious who he hangs out with. who he talks to. im not usually the jealous type, but i cant help this one. Is this a trust issue?? i do trust him, i know he would never do that to me and would never break my heart. But sometimes when i think about it, it would bother me for a few hours. Is it me? or is it something else?? he dont like to talk about his job either. hmph!!!! help!![color=#330033]
Apr 13 2007, 10:31 PM
I think it's normal to be a bit suspicious if your boyfriend starts doing something else for a significant amount of time every week.
But hey, he's your boyfriend. You know if you can trust him or not, right?
If you're really curious, you should ask him what's up at work...
Talk to him about how sometimes you get a bit jealous and/or worry about him...
Apr 13 2007, 11:14 PM
If he still maintains his feelings for you, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. I suppose it is normal, but calm down a little, don't get jealous when he simply comes into contact with another girl.
Apr 14 2007, 01:49 AM
I used to be the type to get jealous over a guy spending more time on his job (or on other things, for that matter) than on me, but then I got my first full-time job and realized how stressful it is to manage that along with a relationship. If you get overly jealous, it'll just be more stressful for him and I can bet pretty confidently that it'll push him away. However, if he's not making time for you, then ultimately you're just not going to be very happy and that's something you need to work out. Speaking as someone who tends to shut people in relationships out when the juggling becomes too much stress, if you feel like this is happening, maybe he's not in the right mindset for a relationship right now.
All that having been said, try to be understanding as much as possible but not at the expense of your own happiness. Do what's best for you.
Apr 14 2007, 01:09 PM
It's ok to be jealous. The fact that you are shows that you care for him and like him alot. Talk to him about how you feel genuinely. Oh and Libertie has made some very good points about how difficult it can be when you have a full time job especially if he's doing 45hrs a week.
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