how many of you know someone who says incredibly demeaning, degrading, insulting, etc. things to people but everyone ignores/deals with it because that someone is supposedly "funny"?

i have a friend like that and honestly, sometimes i wonder why i laugh at his jokes or encourage him or plain deal with him.

for example, his long running joke is that asians are useless, wrong, stupid, ugly, etc. apparently, we're to blame for everything bad that happened in the world. on several occcasions, he has said all asians should die or something bad should happen in asia to cut the population (i.e., he actually thought that hot 97 tsunami song was funny. in an tragedy where thousands of people died, i hardly see any humor in it). being chinese and recently actually having my grandfather die from terminal cancer, it really offends me. it would offend me if anyone said another should die when they clearly have done nothing to hurt you. that is so inhumane and indecent.

but... no matter how i plead with him (he used to tease me mercilessly years ago and reduce myself esteem to rubble) and tried to get him to understand that words can hurt. he told me to shove it because if someone can't have a sense of humor and take his "jokes", then they are weak. wtf? i think there is a fine line between jokes and harassment. when you call someone ugly/stupid/fat/slut/skank/aids everyday for months on end, that's harassment. you never know how someone would react to your words because you have no idea where they come from.

as much as i hate to admit it... there are many of other people like my friend. even on cB, i see incredibly rude/obsence/degrading remarks. when has it been okay to make racist/sexist jokes or to humilate someone? when has it been okay to wish that someone was pregnant (one of the relationship topics)? once in awhile, i can understand. but when has a constant degradation of other people been okay?

do other people just sit back and ignore it? or do you do what i'm doing, cutting the person out of my life in general?

/incredibly long rant.

But you are.

Ive seen a situation like that for almost every ethnicity I can think of....
I'm gonna guess this is happening in a high school because if this were a college it would be a hell of alot easier to completely ignore that person.
Anyways, generally people who do this are popular with their crowd as they're the "funny" comedian, and even if someone were to have an issue with what that person were saying, he usually wouldnt do anything because hed fear of being ostracized from the group.

And if thats not the case, then hes prolly just lazy and doesn't wanna cause any conflicts

I kind of understand what you said. I know this person who has a lot to of "jokes" to talk about, all of them rude and offensive. No matter how many times I tell him his jokes are pathetic and not funny at all, he just tells me to stfu because "I have no sense of humor"..

i have a "friend" who constantly makes jokes about my grades, and how i'm so stupid, worthless, etc.
i totally get what you're saying... sometimes these jokes can be funny, but over a long period of time, they start losing their humor (if they were even funny to begin with) and then they just start hurting a little more and more every day. the feeling of being constantly degraded is sick.

what i've done is tell him off, and when he didn't listen, just cut him out of my life too. i can't be bothered to deal with such insincere people.

My boyfriend used to be like that about mexicans.
Now the joke is on him since he fell in love withone.

But even when he was with me.he made jokes some of them i could take and then some of them were pushing the line.But he got mad at me because i couldent take a joke.
Then seeing as my dad lives in mexico he told my boyfriend that if he didnt cut the shit out hed come back to chicago beat the living hell out of him and make sure he never ever saw me again.

So he stoped. =]

my friend's sister is alwas putting her down because she thinks it's funny. jessica[my friend] got her hair cut. it didn't turn out right and she hated it, but she was optimistic about it. anna kept saying she looked like willy wonka. she also said she looked like she had a bowl on her head. it got on my nerves so i finally told her to f**k off. she hasn't done it again.
not to mention, now it's mucho cool and way better than her sister's hair because she learned how to fix it.

I don't know what to say to you... If I agree with you it could be a trap to call me a hypocrite, but the problem is that I do agree with you. I don't know, what point you're trying to make.

My best friend Brittany.
It pisses me off most of the time.

that happens sometimes... even the teachers ignore it. it makes me so mad.

How can you consider that guy a friend?

I have always seen it this way...when someone has to degrade another person to make people laugh...it shouldnt be funny.

I know this sounds corny but I saw it on a commercial and thought it was a really good quote.

"hate should never be a punchline"

yeah. Thats just my opinion.

He's stupid. He crosses over the border. it's not even funny anymore. the whole "asian" thing is going on for ... MONTHS. how is to soo funny?

I have this very, very, very fake laugh that I don't know how the hail she doesn't notice it's fake, but sheeesh she keeps going and going and going and going. I'd tell her that she's being incredibly stupid by continuing with her utterly ignorant jokes, but it's sort of fun to think in my head "Aw, you're gonna' regret this."

my ex is like that with just about everyone... but he doesn't take things to far.. although he gets close... but yeah i'm always with him and laugh at most of the stuff he says although its wrong at some point

deal with it.

QUOTE(black_heart @ Mar 19 2007, 1:24 PM)

deal with it.

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