I bet you all had this problem at least once. The problem of letting go.

So the background information -
I dated this one guy for almost a year. Then he broke up with me. He told me before that the reason was because he wants to live his life. I realized that during our relationship, we became each other's lives and focused on nothing but each other. So I understood his reason. We loved each other. Well, I still love him. So four months after the break up he comes back to my life and tells me that he misses me. He told me that he threw away the best thing in his life and he said he didn't even know why he broke up with me. But he doesn't want us back, because he doesn't want to go through all that pain we went through again. The next day he told me that he loves me as a sister. Now, eight months after the break up we talked again. It was like a normal conversation. But at the end, I started crying because I miss him so much. We didn't talk about our feelings. I didn't bother bringing it up, I didn't want my hopes to go up just to be pulled down.

Anyway, it's really hard for me to let go of him. I need to let go of him. It's so painful. But at the same time, I'm not really sure if I want to let go of him. I feel like if I do, I will completely lose him. If pain is the closest thing I can have with him, I feel like it's fine with me. I know, it might be pathetic, but I don't know. I don't know what to do.

We used to be best friends, now I'm not even sure if we're friends.

What should I do?

I'm sorry if it's long.

avoid him. works out best tht way

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Breakup Survivor



^^ this too

Well, i kinda was in this situation before.
I guess talk it out with him & tell him to stop leading you on if he says all those "i miss you", "i love you . . but yet as a sister."
It gets pathetic because they know you'll wait for them no matter what and they take advantage of you.
I think you should talk to him, straight up.
Clear it with him.

Maybe you need closure.
& If he says no, then it's no.
We have to accept the fact that it's over.
Really over. As much as it hurts, we have to stop getting our hopes up.

Unless you want him to give you another chance but he doesn't feel anything for you.
It's just pity. It's harder that way because you know you'll get hurt in the end.
It takes two to make things work.

Good luck on that.
Just tell him how you feel.

you deserve better. that's what everyone says rlly, but honestly it's true. he was a jerk to dump u, then mess with u afterwards. he used to be in ur life, and that was cool, but now it's time to cut him out and move on. the best way is just to awknowledge that he used to be your everything, and then just be done with it.