i can never seem to make a friendship/relationship work.
i have a lot of trouble trusting people, from past issues, and i think that's a major factor in my lack of social skills.
i'd like to think i'm a friendly and outgoing person, but i'm actually VERY shy.
i make more friends online than i do in person and i'm having a hard time understanding why.
my "best friend" is now close with this other girl and guy, and i feel completely abandoned by her.
and when i try to confront her about it, she dismisses it as if i'm overreacting.
she doesn't even acknowledge the fact that she might be really hurting me.
between my crazy family and bad friends, i can't even try to make new ones.
i'm so affected by my previous relationships that i can't even find the willpower to go out and make news ones.
my only hope (that i see) is leaving home for university and becoming a different person.
ugh.
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AWWW!!!! 
Dont worry im sure you havent got anything wrong with you
and if ur best friend is doing that then i think that she doesnt realise how much of a best friend she is losing
hope that helps
sorry if it doesnt
Soph
xxx
Dont worry im sure you havent got anything wrong with you
and if ur best friend is doing that then i think that she doesnt realise how much of a best friend she is losing
hope that helps
sorry if it doesnt
Soph
xxx
i'm not even sure if we ever were best friends.
i was ALWAYS there for her, and she decided i wasn't "in" enough.
but what's new, right?
i was ALWAYS there for her, and she decided i wasn't "in" enough.
but what's new, right?
I understand COMPLETELY. It's like you want the old ones to work, because the new ones don't feel like they WILL work because why would they? haha, confusing. Advice: (if you want it) I wouldn't call anyone your 'best friend'. Not yet, not until you can FEEL it. She's not a best friend anymore if she's abandoned you. Trust me, there are about 39784329472934873 people in the world and you're limiting yourself to just those few relationships that didn't work. Trial and error, right? That's what life is all about.
I'm all for the University idea. I live in a small town where you get tired of people EASILY, I can't wait to get out.
I'm sorry it hurts, though. I'm currently in the opposite position...I'm doing the abandoning. But that's another story. C=
Sorry if I made things worse!
P.S. - There's definatly not anything wrong with YOU. C=
I'm all for the University idea. I live in a small town where you get tired of people EASILY, I can't wait to get out.
I'm sorry it hurts, though. I'm currently in the opposite position...I'm doing the abandoning. But that's another story. C=
Sorry if I made things worse!
P.S. - There's definatly not anything wrong with YOU. C=
You are completely like I was. I was a very shy person & I had very little friends. I didn't fit in at all.
My old best friend always wallowed in her self pity & wanted me to make her feel better, which I did. And whenever I actually needed her, she ignored me & wanted to continue to talk about HER problems. She was always a totally different person when she wasn't around those group of "friends" that she always wanted to fit in with. So I just gave up on her.
I now have a much better friend who actually helps me with my family, realtionships, ect. without me having to beg her. And the realtionship is mutual. There is nothing wrong with you. Just try to be more outgoing & break out of your shell; that's what worked for me. If you have any relative who are outgoing, try & get them to introduce you to new people, gradually of course. Good luck darling. =]]
My old best friend always wallowed in her self pity & wanted me to make her feel better, which I did. And whenever I actually needed her, she ignored me & wanted to continue to talk about HER problems. She was always a totally different person when she wasn't around those group of "friends" that she always wanted to fit in with. So I just gave up on her.
I now have a much better friend who actually helps me with my family, realtionships, ect. without me having to beg her. And the realtionship is mutual. There is nothing wrong with you. Just try to be more outgoing & break out of your shell; that's what worked for me. If you have any relative who are outgoing, try & get them to introduce you to new people, gradually of course. Good luck darling. =]]
can't we just make a createblog planet and we can all live happily ever after? :D
thanks so much!
part of me was afraid you'd give me the same advice i've been giving myself, hehe.
i think i'm AFRAID to open up because i'm so scared of what people will see when i do.
it's hard to get around the fact that i'm not too fond of myself lately.
all in time, i suppose.
university will give me a whole new group of people to work with,
and another opportunity to bring out the real me.
i just can't help but feel it'll be too late by then, you know?
i feel like 18 years is a long time to wait to start actually living my life.
thanks so much!
part of me was afraid you'd give me the same advice i've been giving myself, hehe.
i think i'm AFRAID to open up because i'm so scared of what people will see when i do.
it's hard to get around the fact that i'm not too fond of myself lately.
all in time, i suppose.
university will give me a whole new group of people to work with,
and another opportunity to bring out the real me.
i just can't help but feel it'll be too late by then, you know?
i feel like 18 years is a long time to wait to start actually living my life.
QUOTE(little meg sunshine @ Mar 3 2007, 2:19 PM) 
can't we just make a createblog planet and we can all live happily ever after? :D
thanks so much!
part of me was afraid you'd give me the same advice i've been giving myself, hehe.
i think i'm AFRAID to open up because i'm so scared of what people will see when i do.
it's hard to get around the fact that i'm not too fond of myself lately.
all in time, i suppose.
university will give me a whole new group of people to work with,
and another opportunity to bring out the real me.
i just can't help but feel it'll be too late by then, you know?
i feel like 18 years is a long time to wait to start actually living my life.
thanks so much!
part of me was afraid you'd give me the same advice i've been giving myself, hehe.
i think i'm AFRAID to open up because i'm so scared of what people will see when i do.
it's hard to get around the fact that i'm not too fond of myself lately.
all in time, i suppose.
university will give me a whole new group of people to work with,
and another opportunity to bring out the real me.
i just can't help but feel it'll be too late by then, you know?
i feel like 18 years is a long time to wait to start actually living my life.
I wish we could.
I am still not completely comfortable with myself, but having people around me to make me feel better always helps. When you go to the mall, the movies, ect. just trying talking to random people. I met my friend in the hallway at school a long time ago. We were both by ourselves so I walked over to her & showed her my newly made scrapbook that I was extremely proud of. I'm weird, I know.
And it turns out, she loved the same thing as me. Now we're like sisters. You just have to open up to people at times.
that sucks, you can have an imaginary friend though
QUOTE(Ma Ass is WOW @ Mar 4 2007, 8:18 PM)
that sucks, you can have an imaginary friend though
I told you already, Mortimer is NOT imaginary. He is REAL. Don't underestimate the coolest hippo ever.
I used to feel like that. I started to hate all humans and then devoted myself to destroying the world. Even so, I still have my really close friends. Just make sure that they're real. Because alot will just leech on to you and then let go. Btw, there's nothing wrong with you. Many people feel like that sometimes.
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i can never seem to make a friendship/relationship work.
i have a lot of trouble trusting people, from past issues, and i think that's a major factor in my lack of social skills.
i'd like to think i'm a friendly and outgoing person, but i'm actually VERY shy.
i make more friends online than i do in person and i'm having a hard time understanding why.
my "best friend" is now close with this other girl and guy, and i feel completely abandoned by her.
and when i try to confront her about it, she dismisses it as if i'm overreacting.
she doesn't even acknowledge the fact that she might be really hurting me.
between my crazy family and bad friends, i can't even try to make new ones.
i'm so affected by my previous relationships that i can't even find the willpower to go out and make news ones.
my only hope (that i see) is leaving home for university and becoming a different person.
ugh.
i have a lot of trouble trusting people, from past issues, and i think that's a major factor in my lack of social skills.
i'd like to think i'm a friendly and outgoing person, but i'm actually VERY shy.
i make more friends online than i do in person and i'm having a hard time understanding why.
my "best friend" is now close with this other girl and guy, and i feel completely abandoned by her.
and when i try to confront her about it, she dismisses it as if i'm overreacting.
she doesn't even acknowledge the fact that she might be really hurting me.
between my crazy family and bad friends, i can't even try to make new ones.
i'm so affected by my previous relationships that i can't even find the willpower to go out and make news ones.
my only hope (that i see) is leaving home for university and becoming a different person.
ugh.
omg you're my twin!
Let's go to the same university and be outgoing together!
QUOTE(Obscure Enigma @ Mar 4 2007, 5:55 PM)
I told you already, Mortimer is NOT imaginary. He is REAL. Don't underestimate the coolest hippo ever.
its ok, i believe you
you have your whole life to make friends; don't stress out about a few friendships that aren't working out now, you'll meet tons of awesome people. also, what a few others said, you kind of have to get out there & be yourself & if some people don't like you, f**k them, & if some people like you, get to know them. it will all work out, no worries. 
Thank you so much for all of your advice. However, I'm still liking the idea of Planet CB.
QUOTE(little meg sunshine @ Mar 8 2007, 4:50 PM)
Thank you so much for all of your advice. However, I'm still liking the idea of Planet CB.
I am too.
But seriously, if someone doesn't like you, move on. You are an awesome person & it's their loss. The same goes for guys. Actually, I shouldn't even get into that right now. I'm kind in an awkward position with a guy right now. So nevermind.
this is exactly the same thing i am going through right now, except that im only a sophomore and i probably have to deal with this for two more years. i dont even think my so called "best friend" even knows shes treating me horribly. its like she got bored of me, and is trying to get rid of me.
i am pretty depressed about it.
:(
i am pretty depressed about it.
:(
*hug* First, it doesn't really sound like she was really your friend at all.... less your bestfriend. Don't completly trust anyone, this may soudn weird, but give it time... evryone's a teenager right now and things change, people change and nothing stay the same... sometimes.. I don't, I guess all I'm saying is try to make a lot of friend, but don't get sad if you don't. It's their loss not yours =]
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