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Spazzzmatic
My friend has liked this guy for 4 years now. It's been sooo long.
Just this year, I got to know him, and I'm starting to like him a lot. But when she found out, she got mad at me.

I understand that she's mad, but she can't have dibs on him for 4 years, can she? He doesn't even like her back. I haven't figured out if he likes me, yet.

I would never date him for respect for my friend. But she's mad that I even LIKE him. I don't flirt a ton with him or anything. I talk to him like I would any other guy friend.

Am I in the wrong? Am I supposed to ignore him & stop talking to him? Because I know I can't ignore my feelings for him-- I've tried.
Stefanny
Don't stop liking somebody just because your friend does.
Cujiine
Well your friend doesn't really have a right to be mad at you. She's liked him for four years and I'm guessing she's told him since you know he doesn't like her and so she can't really change that. You can go for it and realize that if she hates you for asking a guy out who doesn't like her, she isn't worth the friendship.
x0htheMYSTERY
no offence.. but i doubt she`s really yur best friend. dude, i mean like comon. she has no right to be mad. yu have feelings too. why cant yu and her like him too? i liked this guy for a while, then i found out my best friend liked him too. we didnt get mad at each other. we had fun. lol. :] have better friends.
Uronacid
QUOTE(Spazzzmatic @ Feb 26 2007, 11:56 PM) *
My friend has liked this guy for 4 years now. It's been sooo long.
Just this year, I got to know him, and I'm starting to like him a lot. But when she found out, she got mad at me.

I understand that she's mad, but she can't have dibs on him for 4 years, can she? He doesn't even like her back. I haven't figured out if he likes me, yet.

I would never date him for respect for my friend. But she's mad that I even LIKE him. I don't flirt a ton with him or anything. I talk to him like I would any other guy friend.

Am I in the wrong? Am I supposed to ignore him & stop talking to him? Because I know I can't ignore my feelings for him-- I've tried.


You aren't wrong... you can't help but have crushes. You need to tell your friend to respect the reality of the situation. You have control over your actions, but you can't possibly control your feelings. The only thing you can do is suppress your feelings, but for your "best" friend to tell you to do that is just wrong.

What you want to do with my advice is your choice. I think your "best" friend is just a competitive bitch. She's basically getting all flamed up to scare away the competition. I think you should talk to her about it, and either make come to a compromise or come to terms with the idea that she may not really be your "best" friend. Have you ever heard of the saying, "Bro's before Ho's."? Well, that saying exists for the situation you are facing at this very moment.
Aerjae
It's not cool to like the same person. Especially if it's your bestfriend who likes him too. If she liked him first... I think you should step back and see what happens. It doesn't mean you can't talk to him though
Uronacid
QUOTE(just_rissa @ Feb 27 2007, 12:49 AM) *
It's not cool to like the same person. Especially if it's your bestfriend who likes him too. If she liked him first... I think you should step back and see what happens. It doesn't mean you can't talk to him though


Omg, do you have any reason behind what you say?

This is basically what I got from your post, "Don't have feelings for someone when your friend likes them... that's bad."

C'mon, why is it wrong? Are you to lazy to give reason behind what you say, or do you just have nothing to back it up?
turntabletux
QUOTE(Spazzzmatic @ Feb 26 2007, 11:56 PM) *
My friend has liked this guy for 4 years now. It's been sooo long.
Just this year, I got to know him, and I'm starting to like him a lot. But when she found out, she got mad at me.

I understand that she's mad, but she can't have dibs on him for 4 years, can she? He doesn't even like her back. I haven't figured out if he likes me, yet.

I would never date him for respect for my friend. But she's mad that I even LIKE him. I don't flirt a ton with him or anything. I talk to him like I would any other guy friend.

Am I in the wrong? Am I supposed to ignore him & stop talking to him? Because I know I can't ignore my feelings for him-- I've tried.

If nothing has happened between them for 4 years, then there is no reason to be calling dibs. Usually when you call dibs you act on it relatively soon. It's not fair at all to call a longterm dibs on someone. It is a sticky situation though.
datass
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Feb 27 2007, 2:01 PM) *
Omg, do you have any reason behind what you say?

This is basically what I got from your post, "Don't have feelings for someone when your friend likes them... that's bad."

C'mon, why is it wrong? Are you to lazy to give reason behind what you say, or do you just have nothing to back it up?

I agree.

There's nothign wrong with liking the same person your best friend does. Define "not cool", and what do you mean, step back and see what happens?
Kontroll
QUOTE(Spazzzmatic @ Feb 26 2007, 11:56 PM) *
My friend has liked this guy for 4 years now. It's been sooo long.
Just this year, I got to know him, and I'm starting to like him a lot. But when she found out, she got mad at me.

I understand that she's mad, but she can't have dibs on him for 4 years, can she? He doesn't even like her back. I haven't figured out if he likes me, yet.

I would never date him for respect for my friend. But she's mad that I even LIKE him. I don't flirt a ton with him or anything. I talk to him like I would any other guy friend.

Am I in the wrong? Am I supposed to ignore him & stop talking to him? Because I know I can't ignore my feelings for him-- I've tried.


Just tell her that she's a stupid bitch and that she better make a move before you do, or she's gonna lose him.

You're definitely not in the wrong. First of all, he's only a crush, secondly, you said he doesn't even like her back, and thirdly, she's dumb for not doing anything about it. So, you're golden here. Good for you.

Now go tell your friend how stupid she is. Please. For me.
princess*missy
Amen to all who said don't stop liking him just b.c she does... thumbsup.gif

She can't call dibs on anyone for that long... No one owns anyone... and anyways if he didn't like her then... he's most definitely not gonna like her now... rolleyes.gif

If I were you I would talk to her about it and tell her that she shouldn't be mad at yew b.c she can't call dibs on anyone.. she doesn't own him.. stubborn.gif

May the best chicka win... *Ahem* That would be Yew! happy.gif
haha_you_have_a_lisp
If your friend tells you that you guys cant be friends just because you like the same guy.
Then she isnt a friend.
She cares more about guys than she does about her friend.
If she does think this, then she doesnt deserve to be your friend.
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