well i went through some rough times with someone.. and right now I don't know if we are still 'together' or what not. So right now I'm just giving her space to cool off and stuff. But before, I used to try to call her after everytime we enter some disputes so we could fix it (or talk it out) but I just end up making the problem worst. Well I've learned my lesson after a number of failures of doing so and I'm not doing that again. Okay here is my question, I don't want to call her because I want to show her that I'm strong [emotionally] and that I trust her, but I keep thinking about her and I wrestle with myself trying to call her. So what do you to keep your mind of someone that you really love and appreciate? I tried keeping myself busy and I tried chillin with my other friends but when night time comes around, I being to think about her again.. and so many thought run through my mind. thanks u all

I struggle with this... Dude, it's a real hit-or-miss here. Sometimes girls want you to call, and sometimes they don't. I would say, "don't call in some cases, and in others don't." There are to many complex situations to give you a straight answer for this.

I will say this though:

• Don't do anything out of spite.
• Be honest no matter how difficult it is.
• Be sincere when you apologize (if you need to).

*I hope Holly comes in here, because I'm so going to rob her tips... hehe*

Been through this before but well it didn't have a happy ending because unlike you I never stopped calling until it was too late.

But anyways this is how I finally stopped calling. If its a cell phone,delete the number(s) off of it & if thats not enough have your phone off. Not the whole day of course. Just from probably 7pm-morning(or whenever you wake up). During the day you should have it on silent & if you missed calls from others then call them back whatever.

Its so funny cuz when I started doing that, I would wake up,turn on my cell & notice I had voicemails from the middle of the night of just someone hanging up. LOL

So I hope this helps & it has its perks doing that:

1. You don't go over your minutes/txt
2. You don't rely on your cell as much/don't think about it

So yes..even though I'm single I'm debt free so whatever hppens at least you have no debt

haha yea.... thanks..i just hope everything is well between us... but that whole thing about deleting her phone number doesn't really work because I memorized her number. haha... Well i'm just going to trust her that she isn't doing anything like cheating on me (plus she isn't like that), i just cant stop thinking about her.