Hi everyone
i havent ever had sex before but my boyfriend has recenly been asking to do it i dont know what to say im scared if i say no he will run off cos he is one of them cool guys but sweet
ive heard it hurts to do it does it?
please tell me what to do

Don't do it. When you find the right guy, you'll feel that it's right. And you won't really be scared. Plus, if he was really that decent, he wouldn't pressure you.

If you do it now, you'll regret it. I can guarantee it with 98% certainty.

i agree, wait until you feel its with the right person not having to feel pressured into doing it, if ur bf is pressuring you into having sex and you are uncomfortable and say no, and he leaves you then he isn't the right guy becuase its not right to pressure someone into having sex when they don't want to. also it hurts a bit the first time, but then it gets better.

^as stated above you need to tell him that you are not yet ready for a sexual relationship.if he truely loves you and respects you he will wait for when YOU are ready not HIM.

If your scared more than likely your not ready to even have sex.

When your ready, I'm sure you'll know. Don't only do it because your boyfriend wants you to do it, if he really cares about you and your opinion then he'll wait til your 100% comfortable and free from worry.

If he runs off because you won’t have sex then he is not a sweet hart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Only do it when you are ready to. That is what I am going to do.

the thought of having sex kidna scares me too, and if someone tried to pressure me to then i wouldnt stay with them.

you should ask him to back off. if he's really "sweet" he'll listen to you.

if your asking us then you're not ready, don't do it just because you're afraid he might leave you. if he does because of that reason then psssh he's not worth it. tell him you're not ready to have sex yet, he should understand

if he really loves you,he wont put pressure on you.um...its the matter of how deep he loves you.
You arent ready for having sex,so tell him wait.=]

forget him he just want some easy ass.

Took the words right out of my mouth.
When you find someone and you decide to take it to that next step it will just feel right. If you're second guessing it then you're not ready. If he loves you will wait until you're comfortable with it.

as stated above, if you feel scared then you obviously aren't ready. it's okay to feel kinda nervous but i mean it's not like the end of the world if you don't have sex with this guy. just wait until you can tell someone about who you first had sex with and they can be like wow he sounds really nice. and if you tell someone you were pressured into it and you weren't really ready well doesn't sound like something i would want to tell people.

when you really are ready then you'll know your ready.

Not scared to just do not whant to yet

No not any more but do not have sex untill you are ready to

Do it. Just find a way to not get pregnant.

^ You're horrible.

^^your a f**king moron to the 3rd degree
what kinda advice is that.

I think the general consensus is 'don't do it until you're ready'. My boyfriend asked me a couple times, and we talked about it, and he's promised to not ask me/pressure me about it.

If you're the least bit skeptical, then you're definitely nowhere close to being ready for something that huge. Sex is a big deal. Once you lose your virginity, you can never get it back. Be smart, use your head.

If you really wanted to have sex, you would have no doubt about wanting to do it. But you do, so it means you should wait until you are completely ready. Also, if he were the right person to do it with, you wouldn't be afraid to say no to him for fear of him leaving you.

Get a dildo and slap it across the face.. and if he has a problem with it just say.. " WELL IF YOU WANT SEX SO BAD!!! PUT THIS UP YOUR ASS AND SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT! "

Works every time.

Wait for the right person and time. :-)

Well not everyone goes out to have sex with random guys...like someone right here. "WHERES MY CHILDSUPPORT"

dont do it. if you're scared to do it, you're not ready. find your significant other (or if he is then you should wait) then you can do it. you'll probably be more excited than scared o_O and if he runs off, like someone said, HE IS NOT A SWEET HEART!

your boyfriend sounds a bit moronic to me. they all seem sweet until the screw you then leave you. 90% of the guys you'll date just wanna get laid so they can tell their buddies about it. if it was me, i wouldnt do it unless i trusted him 110% and knew that he really does care about me. if your boyfriend is telling you that he'll run off if you dont have sex with him, then he's not worth your time.

Eh, it's up to you. Just don't give in if you don't want to. If he loves you, he'll understand. If he doesn't, he most likely be angry at you. It's your choice. I say no since you sound doubtful.

As for it hurting, I guess it really depends on the person. It hurts for some, and it doesn't hurt for others.

It's definitely alll up to you.
But if you said no & he left Because of that.
He wasn't worth it anyways.
How old are you?

If you're worried and questioning on whether to do it or not, DON'T. Don't have sex untill you are completly sure with your desicion, you don't want to regret it later.

wait. it's the best way ;)
like everyone else says, he's no man at all if all he wants is to deposit his sperm.

personally, I'm trying to wait til marriage ;)
only my husband will see my cash n'prizes (hehe..)
and boy, will it be fun.
I cannot wait :)
well, guess I can....ehe ^_^;

but as for it hurting,
everyone is unique there, depending on your specific anatomy ;)

I agree! Sex is fun. Yeah, it hurts the first time, but honestly I was a lot more scared the first time I had anal sex. That hurt too, but it's also fun when you get into it.

honestly..i'm terrified.

the first time i used a tampon i blacked out because i was so freaked out (plus i think i did it wrong or something because it hurt like helllllll)


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you probably didnt need to know that.

Think of it this way. If you tell him that you're scared and he breaks up with you, then he's a complete jerk that just wants to get laid.

WHAT THE HELL?!? do you even read what the hell you type??!?! what kind of shitty advice is that???


ANYWAYS TO THE PROBLEM.
if you are not ready then dont do it there are some girls who will advice you to do it..obviously they only see sex as a way to have fun, let me just tell you it never works you can just end up with a sexual disease.

if this guy is sweet he will understand and if he doesnt well that is just his loss.

ok first of all dont do it to make him happy. if he rally loves u he will wait o respect whatever decision you choose. it is scary the first time and it probably will hurt. but be SURE that YOU are ready. not justphysically but more importantly emotionally. it is a VERY big step and a VERY big deal to the both of you.
so be careful and good luck
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It is your body and you decide when you are ready. He's not you. Who knows? He might just want to have sex and then run away.

If you respect your body, you need to demand others to respect that too.

He should not be pressuring/ persuading/ however you like to put it you to do anything.

If he has been asking a lot of times lately, it is time to dump him. If he just asked you once and you said no, he should not be bringing it up anytime soon.

If you decide that you're not ready and he leaves you, that means he's both immature and not worth it.
I don't think you'd want to do it just yet, though.
Wait for the guy who you believe truly deserves all of the love you're going to give him, and a guy who won't pressure you into having sex, and hopefully you'll make the right decision.
There are a lot of things that I regret right now... I'm still a virgin, but. Yeah, that's as far as I'm going to go.

Mind first, desires later, and most importantly - think of the consequences before you act.

You'll know when your ready when your ready(:

Having sex without being 100% ready is the biggest mistake you could make. You will regret it, guarenteed. It is always better to wait until you find the right guy. If he cared about you, he wouldn't pressure you to have sex with him.

don't do it. the end.

Amen to that. I thought my ex boyfriend loved and cared about me until he started asking for sex and I was stupid enough and gave it to him. He now left me and is with another girl. Just think about it before you do it, you might regret it in the end.

yes. i am.