I just wanted some opinions and advice on my problem here.

So there's this guy, and he's REALLY weird. He lives in Folsom, & i live in Sacramento. He moved there from Sacramento; he was my friend's neighbor & him and me and my friends talked online through Xanga.

My friend used to date him out of pity (see, he's pretty much an all around depressed guy), and she said he was REALLY ugly. Two of my other friends, who've also met him in real life, said that he was really ugly too. And it's pretty sad, cuz he won't even show anybody a picture of him (so basically, he realizes that he's ugly as well).

To make it worse, he's like HECKA depressed & emo. Well he TRIES to be emo; as in he dresses in grey instead of black and stuff.

Anyways, we've been talking over AIM and he thinks he's bisexual. That's like, wow. All of a sudden he asks me "what's it like to like a guy?" and then he thinks he's bi. It really shocked me, since he was kinda a good friend, no matter how weird he was. (i'm not a hypocrite :])

So. He wants to like kill his friend (that's the guy he likes) so that he won't like him anymore. Wow, like THAT's gonna solve anything.

Making the problem worse again; the last time I talked to him, he said that I looked like Tifa Lockheart. WTF, dudes? My friend (who dated him) said that it meant that he thought i was hot (obviously he's seen a picture of me), because all guys basically think that Tifa Lockheart is hot. Well, at least geeky asian dudes like him.

What should I tell him? I mean; I don't want him killing his friend & I don't want him to like me or anything. I want to help him through his problems, but I don't want to like convince him to kill himself (which he's really close to doing so, by the way).

Yeah; problem major. By the way, sorry the post is so long.

tell him to f**k off

wow. i don't know really i guess look at shooting prevention sites or call your local help line. the help lines can help alot.

Wow-

I thought this guy was alright, and just a little confused until you said he wanted to KILL the guy he liked.
That's pretty unfair to the crush, if you ask me! Gets killed for bein hot...

Anyway, you MUST get this guy some help. Being emo and confused about your sexual orientation is one thing, but wanting to KILL someone to make your problems go away is a sign of some mental health problems. The suicidal thoughts are, too (clearly).

If you know his phone number, you can call a teen help line and ask them to call him. If you must, call a hospital nearby or 911- DON'T let this guy kill his crush or himself. How bad would you feel if he did, and you didn't do anything about it?

Also, I know the guy's your friend, but people's personalities can be blocked by mental illness. I know. Don't trust the guy like you would if he was just your friend- remember that he's in a tough spot. In other words: I wouldn't want to be in a serious friendship with this guy CURRENTLY, when he's clearly willing to kill people he *likes*. You might be in danger, yourself. Once he's better, I know that he must be a sweet guy, and you both can be buds again. But right now he's sick.

Help line, or 911.

Wow; I guess it's a lot more serious than I thought o.o

Yeah, I'll ask for his number from my friend if he doesn't give it to me himself. For the next week, though, I'll have to leave his problems to himself since I'm going to Washington for a field trip.

Sounds great.

[quote]My friend (who dated him) said that it meant that he thought i was hot (obviously he's seen a picture of me), because all guys basically think that Tifa Lockheart is hot. Well, at least geeky asian dudes like him.[/quote]

wow your really modest about yourself. (sarcasm)

"geeky" asian dudes ? riiiiiiiiighhht

anyways your friend has serious problems and he needs help. You need to convince him to go to some psychologist because this is beyond an internet advice no matter what advice any of us gives you ITS NOT ENOUGH he needs professional help especially if he is planing on harming someone. oh yea WHO IN THE RIGHT MIND HOW THE HECK CAN YOU THINK THIS IS NOT SERIOUS?!!?!?!?
[/quote] Wow; I guess it's a lot more serious than I thought o.o [/quote]

and if he does not seek professional help call a teen hotline or suicide line for him and PRONTO.

he needs to talk to someone.
i think u should try to look past the fact that he likes you and try and talk him out of his crazy idea

That was pretty harsh- what's your problem?
If you don't have anything nice to say,
butt.
out.

1.) report it to an adult/professional
2.) tell him that crushes fade and killing isn't necessary

hun that is my opnion she does not have to take it if she does not want to. And look whos being rude now?

why the heck does she have to say "geeky asian dudes" dont you think that is harsh of her part to call someone that?

and i was just being honest about her saying that she didnt think this was serious because the last time i checked threating to harm someone IS serious.

excuse you but you have no right to talk to me that way i have my opnions and again SHE DOES NOT HAVE TO TAKE IT.

Thank you cheri_pi and have a nice day!

hey, dont start another problem in this thread. =[ its bad enough as it is.

your friend is just going through an emotional time trying to find himself. has he even tried trying to improve himself? maybe if he did it will make him more confident. be a good friend and atleast tell him there is one person in the world who truly cares for him, you right? if you didnt you wouldnt be asking for help. people say they want to kill people but dont mean it. he has no right to take out his anger on someone he likes...it makes no sense. i dont know its confusing but try to get him through it. i hoped i...kinda helped

I am glad that you dont want another problem in this thread Chibichimomo and I totally agree with you and I just wanted to point out that people dont need to take the advice if they feel its to harsh.


I agree with you this guy needs help and its something you (**moonstruck** )need to do as a friend. This is serious because I have had medical training and that is not a good sign if he wants to kill someone, it can also mean that he has thought of sucide. Because he is experiencing these feelings, he might also feel that he is not being accepted in society. You need to talk to him that looks are not everything, personality is what makes someone beautiful. He really is crying out for help and what he needs now is a friend to lean on. Forget that this guy may like you or anything, just help him out as a human being who needs someone to understand him. He also is confused about his sexuality. tell him its okay to be confused, many teenagers are confused at some point of there lives about their sexuality, and its NOTHING to be ashamed of if he wants to be bi,straight,gay or whatever.

Good luck!

It wasn't "advice"-- you said "WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD THINK THIS WASNT A SERIOUS ISSUE??!!!!" or something. That's just hostility.
You could say "it sure seems serious to me!" or something PLEASANT.

ENOUGH said.

stop trying to start problems cheri_pi and i wasnt speaking to you in the first place so how are you offended? I was directing my self to **moonstruck** and i was SHOCKED that she could think that this problem was not serious. The last time I checked this is the internet and I dont need your approval to type something in CAPS. Thank you.

I thought that I and ChibiChimomo made it CLEAR to not start problems your accusations have nothing to do with this topic and in the beginning were not directed towards you and if you continue this topic I will report to a mod to close this.

I have no problems with you and I find it good that you want people to be nice, but you are no authority figure to tell me how I can express myself. I hope that our arguement ends.

I apologize **moonstruck** that this is going on. I hope that you have your advice and that your problem is solved.

so wait, you've never really met him? because you go from sounding like you were good friends with him and hung out to him having no clue what you look like and apparently he only knows what you look like from a picture. i wouldn't consider that a good friend if that's how it is.