I NEED HELP! Im kinda in love with this guy. The crazy thing is, I have never met him. This is the wierd part ok. Well my best guy friend who likes me introduced us in a friend chat room. So we got to know each other and have chatted about just everything. This included everything from orgasims to our future. hehe. The only thing is...well now i have not talked to him online for more than a week. Wich is very wierd as he is always on. I believe that his parents kicked him off the computer because he needs a job (which he just got) to pay for the internet. Im hoping thats it and we can talk again. Becaue its killing me not talking to someone made out of the same stuff as me. Is this making any sense? I just dont know what to do to pass the time.

EDIT- also he lives 16 hours way from me in canada. =/

awwww i know how u feel! i've ghad this feeling before when i met this guy online too! we even ended up talking on the phone too. but we did stop talking for awhile cuz of school and his busy schedule and it was driving me insane. i had school and my friends to keep me busy. but he still calls me once in awhile and always calls me on my bday every year and sings happy birthday to me. :)

just keep urself occupied sweety. that will make time go faster.

Thanks so much for you encouragement! Im so very restless and I just cant seem to find anything i want to do. Im tired and emontionally drained and I have a lot of homework and stuff, but well...im too restless to do it. Anyways its just nice to know i m not the only one out there.

Don't rely on him TOO much.
Just think of it like.. the more stuff you do, the sooner you'll be able to talk to him online!

Well, I know where you're coming from. I live in Georgia, and my friend moved to Texas and I met one of her new friends through her Xanga. We started talking and we really hit it off, I was totally surprised at how easily we got along and how well we clicked. We eventually got together officially and he flew to Georgia a few times (he has family around here), and so we saw each other a little. We were together for over a year. Things didn't work out because of personal issues, but as long as you know the guy's not a creep and if you really, really get to know him, then go for it. Just be careful.

But... yeah, as for the topic, just keep yourself busy. Spend more time with your friends and family, maybe even study a little? Sounds crazy, but you'll feel so much more accomplished. And it'll help your grades while you're passing time by.

Okay, now I'm just babbling. I'll stop

Some friendly advice from someone who's been there: get out of it while you can (meaning, before you get really attached). I'm serious.. I was in a long-distance relationship for almost two years and it's NOT worth it. Extremely painful. It almost never works out.. Unless you're absolutely SURE that the outcome will be good.

Oh yeah, and the phrase "Kinda in love" .... yeah. >.<

he can be a 87 year old man. dont fall for online stuff, its mostly fake and pointless. meet him first before you say ur *in love*

sorry, i really don't think you can be in love with someone you met online who you've never actually hung out with in person before.

okay, you can't base your relationship with this guy on all the conversations you've had ONLINE. maybe online you guys have a lot of things to talk about but in person, it could wind up being you think he's annoying as hell or something.

bottom line: you haven't met him yet.

but anyways. long distance relationships suck. get together with your friends, hang out with other people, play sports, go on runs, do anything and everything EXCEPT waiting for him to sign online.

Imo distant relationships are always tough.
Now, u don't even know the guy so I think u shouldn't sit and wait for him to go online.
It doesn't worth it.
Plus he could be really old as sb said.
You say that u are in love w/ him. But I really doubt u could ever love sb u've never met or touched. Maybe you're just attracted to his personnality since u said that you two have discussed almost everything. But people aren't offline like they are online.
I mean u haven't seen his reactions u actually don't know him in person.


Btw, have u seen any pics of him?

Yeah, long distance is tough... I wouldn't recommend it even though I'm in one... xD

You should deffinitly think about things before you jump into it. Can you handle seeing your boyfriend (the one you love) once or twice a year?

Are you someone who hides your feelings? This may not be a good thing... you can't read your boyfriends facial expressions or anything... communication is the most important thing in any relationship, and I would stress it even more in a long distance relationship. You have to vocalize everything. If you have an extremely hard time talking about how you feel, I would suggest against it.

Also, you have to trust everything that the other person says.

Look, don't just jump into this thing... think first. Talk to him about it.

That is true, good point. It's hard to really know the person on certain levels. If the person is true, then you get to know their personality, but you miss out of how they act and just little things that make them who they are. The long-distance relationship I was in was messed up for that reason - it was pretty much all in my head. I thought I had the perfect boyfriend who trested me so well, but now that I'm in a much, much different relationship that's so much better, I realize all of the negatives of the past relationship. It's not really worth it, if you all up all of the pros and cons.

i agree with that.
make sure you KNOW he isn't a creepy old man before you decide on anything.
but yeah, long distance relationships are tough; like other people have mentioned.
i could believe that you'd love him, though.

eRelationships don't usually last.. Believe me, I've seen them happen. Not to me, necessarily, but that's not the point. I mean it'd probably work out if you met online and went to the same school or something, but 16 hours away? It rarely happens..

actually i agree with Tina, too.... 16 hours is kind of, too far. lol.

IM tends to give a false feeling of closeness. And besides...16 hours is far.

oddly enough thats how me and my bf were

i was recently cheated on a dumped 4 weeks earlyer and i basicly wanted to be single for a while
but then when my friend had talk this kid into comming over
i was like that be funny if i actualy was to date this kid

and what do you know i ment him july 3rd 2006
and we started dating july 5th 2006

hmm I can't make this shorter...
Well I used to think that online relationships were impossible and hard to deal with, until a friend of mine introduced me to this guy through the internet. We really fell in love. It may seem weird because we are from different countries (but we speak the same language) and we had never seen each other, but we both did fall in love. He was so nice, funny, cute and he thought the same about me... and we later met, a few month ago actually. We spent a few days together. He was exactly like I thought he was when i talked to him online. But he finally said to me, when we had to leave each other, that I was not like he had imagined me, not physically he really found me cute and nice, but he didn't like my being so much. Well he thought I was too shy... that's how he broke up whereas I loved him a lot. It hurt me so much! And sadly, now I don't talk to him any more because I find him selfish and actually he doesn't even want us to stay friends! That's only after that I realized his true personality. You need much time, believe me.

I said this to make you understand how hard it is to show yourself online the way you are in real life. Many times people are disappointed. Sometimes the person is very different from what you imagined. And sometimes it works out very well. I know at least two persons who met their boyfriend this way and they have been together for over 3 years. I were not that lucky...
Distance is not necessarily a problem, but it demands patience from both you and your boyfriend, and there will be a time you will want to live next to each other...

So I just advise you to wait until you know him better and you meet him in person. I have learned a lot thanks to my experience and now I'll never fall in love with a guy online again, not until I meet him. Try to forget this guy for a while and think of people who are next to you... at least until you decide to see him.