X = guy
G = girl, one of my friends.

So, there's this guy, X,... I think most people might know who I'm talking about.

Basically, we liked each other a while back but did nothing about it. During that time, we were really, really close... he was probably something like a best friend. I was able to talk to him about anything, everything, whatever.

So over the past year we've drifted a little bit and I've pretty much stopped liking X altogether. Then, X decided that getting together with one of my friends, G, would be a cool thing and whatever. It wasn't really a big deal.. I was kind of surprised because the friend he got together with was the one that told me "I'd NEVER try to take him from you" when I still had a thing for him. I didn't really care at this point because he was never really mine. The thing was that seeing them together kind of ignited the part of me that still wanted him. I think it was more of a lust factor than a I-want-a-relationship-with-you factor.

But it recently died down because we've started hanging out more as friends and whatnot. I was happy for the two of them because they were cute together. They keep denying that they're together, but I see the sparks between them and the way they interact.

So everything should have been fine and dandy, right? We were all friends, I was interested in nobody, they were interested in each other, everything's la la wonderland.

THEN, X decides to pull this crap while the three of us were hanging out. He started walking really closely to me - you know, bumping sides, shoulders, whatever - and looking at me more. Then he asked me to go on a walk with him and I kind of stared at G but was like "okay.."

So we're alone now and he starts saying things like "Remember when we were really close? I miss that. Let's hang out more. I really miss you." And I was like "Okay..." It was kind of sweet, but really awkward to me. I thought it meant that he wanted us to be close like we used to.. friendwise.

Then when the three of us were together again, he kept flirting with me and sitting close to me.. he even said straight out that we should get married and it made me really uncomfortable since G was sitting right there.

I thought something was odd, so I pulled G aside later and asked what was going on.

She told me that he was trying to get her jealous and the fact that he would do something like that really pissed me off.

I don't like being used. I don't like people manipulating my friendship so they can make someone else jealous. I mean, wtf is that?

So basically, I'm pissed off now.

I want to confront him about it, but I think he needs to work out his problems with G before I tell him to stop freaking using me. I'm not a toy that he can just move around to his benefit. I just really, really hate confrontation..

an option instead of confrontation is just to cut him out of your life and your friend's, if she agrees. personally, i think guys that would use another girl to make another one jealous aren't worth knowing.

see if your friend agrees, and see if that solution works for you both.
good luck

^ i agree, he's not worth it if he's doing this to you and your friend
i think you should talk to him about this and tell him you don't like how you're being used.

See, that's what people tell me to do and what I would ordinarily do. But for some reason, no matter what kind of hell he puts me through, I can't let him go.

I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because we've been through a lot. A lot of it was bad, but then again... so much of it was good. And I can't just forget the good.

I always knew he was manipulative to people and I've just accepted it. I never really thought he'd do it to me, though. Ugh. I dont know.

How did she know that he was just using you to make her jealous?

Well, she told me that he was getting jealous because she was hanging out with some other guy and was trying to get her back.

It seemed pretty on the spot because the way he was acting today was not how he usually acts. He usually NEVER flirts with ANYBODY.

Honestly, the best thing (I think) would be confrontation. That's the best way to get things straight in situations.
And the more you practice confronting people, the better you get at it too

Suck it up, dumbnut. You're just horny; and mad because your friend is getting a piece of his ass and you're not.

No... I don't want a piece of his ass.

No... My friend isn't getting a piece of his anything.

And I like how you're telling me exactly how I feel. You must be so cool.

take a test. when your alone with him and "G" is not around see if he does the same things when "G" is around. i dont know i would advise you and your friend to drop that dude. if he uses you to make your friend jealous its wrong. and if he flirts with "G"'s friends its also wrong. hes a jerk either way.

Drama.. hmmm

When I said "Drama," I meant drama within the forum because apparently both of you are on CB, which means that all this "drama" affects the people in CB who "know" both of you. It becomes more personal.

In my situation, nobody here knows the other two people and can therefore form an unbiased opinion based on the information provided. Well. I guess it might be biased in my favor, but whatever. It's irrelevant. It doesn't affect anybody.

So therefore, my "drama" and your "drama" are completely unrelated which makes your statement very "unclever".


When I'm alone with him, he's the sweetest guy on the earth. When I'm with him and G, and they're not fighting, he's completely absorbed in her. When I'm with him and G, and they aren't on talking terms, he becomes overly sweet to the point of awkwardness.

He was like that the other day again and I pretty much said to his face "Stop playing this game" which produced a full minute of silence from him and much awkwardness ensued.

I guess we're really not friends anymore.

Exactly. I know that you've already said that you hate confronting people, but you've got to do it. I know that there are other ways, but you already know that you find difficult to cut him off even though you should. Confronting him is the best way, it could feel awkward, but just do it.

aww im sorry but believe me its for the best. you can tell hes a jerk when that whole situation when he is with you hes so sweet to you and when he is with G he is like all over her..i think you should talk to your friend about what he did and how uncomfortable it is making you feel she really doesnt deserve a guy like him i mean if he can go around flirting with you and your her best friend imagine who else hes gonna flirt with? he is not demonstrating being a loyal or honest guy.

So.. I finally talked to him this week.

He was surprised that I thought he was trying to use me to make her jealous and told me that wasn't the case at all. He also said that he genuinely missed hanging out with me because we haven't really done anything together in a while and that I was one of his best friends and he didn't want to lose me. Hm, he was thoroughly pissed that my friend would say something like "he's using you" to me ... so I guess their relationship is a no-go.

I'm glad I talked to him. It cleared a lot of drama up and we're pretty close again.

id personaly wuld stop being friends with him
beacsue thats not right of him to do
who knows he may have cheated on her already