All my guy friends are always talking about and drooling over either my friend Katie or Sam or Jordyn. I've been told I'm average looking. I dunno I'm more of a friend to them but I don't know how to act flirty or anything. It's really starting to bother me. I have depression and all this just makes me feel worse. It makes me feel ugly. It's like, why even bother to do my hair/makeup in the morning if I'm ugly anyways? Nobodys ever drooled over me...

Sorry this turned into more of a rant but the question is; how do I act more flirty and stuff with my guy friends? Also, how do I keep my confidence up?

just be yourself. don't be try tos someone you're not. butmaybe talk a little bit more, act girly i guess? lol actually when i was younger, all my guy friends were like that too. always talking about other girls and blah blah.i was satisfiedwith being just a good friend but at the same time i was jealous. as i got to highschool everything changed and guys started looking at me. but i didnt really do anything, i was just myself.

people who are naturally attractive always wins. Your friend are bunch of lusts.

Yeah, and who cares about looking hot. It's who YOU are that matters.

they are drooling over your girl friends, but it doesn't always mean that they want to go out with those girls. just be who you are now, don't change. guys like you for who you are not what you try to be

Alright, think of your friends as A-hole filters. They get al the shitting guys, and eventuallly a special guy will come along and sweep you up off your feet. So, don't worry to much.


Hmm... think of them like the ozone layer and you are the earth. They will protect you from all of harmful rays or, in this case, all shallow guys that are only out for good looks, and they will let the guys who are looking for more than just looks in.

I agree with you on that...

Honestly? You don't. I'll quote Alec Guinness (Obi Wan from Star Wars), "Don't act, react."

Just be yourself because the moment you start pretending to be something you are not (a flirty girl, etc) is the moment you begin a long career in keeping up that role. Just don't do it. No one (including guys) is worth the effort.

In high school I had two very beautiful friends. Both were much taller, more feminine and sure as hell dressed better. I often felt like I was just there. Occasionally though, there were people who saw beyond the asthetic qualities (not that my friends didn't have other qualities than being beautiful) and were either guys who I become romantically involved with, or guys I stayed friends with for a long time.

It'll happen. Someone will see you as a 'hot girl' because of more than your appearance. It's just frustrating in the meantime.

being drooled over shouldn't be a main priority with guys. having a guy able to feel open around you, or having a guy caring about you for who you are, or a guy accepting all your mistakes is more of a priority. And none of those take good looks.

just focus on becoming really close to your guy friends, and you'll end up marrying a respectable guy.

Oh,dear, don't worry! your guy friends don't droole over you probably because they think of u as a really good friend.

I used to think that my best guy friend thought that i was ugly as he always liked other girls and we were only friends. But one day while he was talkin with a guy on the phone(the guy was a friend of his ,outside school, i didn't know him) he said: im with my best female friend
And i guess that the guy asked him if i looked pretty coz then my friend told him" oh,yeah, Lucy is absolutely beautiful".

So i understood that i wasn't that my friend couldn't see my beauty but that he also saw me as his sister so he wouldn't drool over me.

Maybe your friends see you as "one of them" but they are not blind and they always know if you're pretty or no.

I know exactly how you feel and im gonna try my best to help (excuse the rant plz it has good intention). I had these exact same issues from a guy perspective in high school except now im 21 and in uni, the roles have been reversed for me so I feel I know alot about this problem + ive suffered depression in the past.

I know exactly how you feel and im gonna try my best to help (excuse the rant plz it has good intention). I had these exact same issues from a guy perspective in high school except now im 21 and in uni, the roles have been reversed for me so I feel I know alot about this problem + ive suffered depression in the past.

Somtimes when you just get glossed over you feel the victim of a superficial world, and in a cloud of hurt you just wanna cry and drown at the same time. The world is a nasty place and people value you often on nothing more that looks.This is a reality and it will probably hurt for a while yet, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

The other side is not what you think. As you get older you will see beautiful people and their superficial world as the ugly thing it truly is...you need to transcende this and recognise it for its failures as well as its allure.

your friends are being drooled over by men as sexual objects and nothing more....I know the types of men they are and u dont wanna know them..honestly.

One thing that often comes with beauty is self absorbsion. I talk to beautifull girls often and they now cease to interest me almost always...they offer little more than looks because this is all men have ever expected of them.

One Girl at my uni who im gonna ask out (and is about 8 outa 10 pretty ill admit) but the thing that attracts me is her genuiness, her attitude and care to all those around her. You can be more than looks yes, and many men will not recognise this but these men are after little in life and not worth your time...

Your friends are beautifull, and perhaps to some, more so than you, but the men that count should see more than just the surface. The depth of the ocean beside a mere puddle, these are the men who see beauty for what it is and looks for what they are not.

Perhaps the deepest connection and trust in a relationship is formed in transcending what is in my opinion an ugly world. For me True love is building a wall together to block the allure of the false promises of beauty... with room just for two to look down at those below.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder
maybe..make them laugh more?
wait..no..thats kinda friend-ish?

Drool = not cool. Especially when it's all over you. =]

Don't ever change who you are to get a guy's attention. As for the confidence thing... I think you should learn to be more comfortable in your own shoes. Once you understand that what other people think really don't matter, your confidence will shoot up.

that is so true

a great guy will like you as YOU not as somebody else. Guys who go for looks will get dissappointed because most girls have their bad days and dont feel like getting all pretty so they find out the hard way how YECHH their significant other is. You want to look for a guy who loves you no matter what you wear or look like, if your friends are getting guys that think they are hot and only like them for their looks GOOD that means that those guys are concieded and guys like that are worth NOTHING.

if you want to get guys attention just talk to them and make yourself feel beautiful and make them notice that you are confident. Believe me any girl can be sexy but only a few can actually be beautiful.

you dont want to be like a girl that i know at skool who thinks that the only way she can get a guy to notice her is by showing half her boobs and talking about sex. that is not cute that is just disgusting and you know what? she gets all the concieded jerks.

dont live in your friends shadows and dont ever feel that you are ugly. if guys go over and talk to your friends MAKE yourself be noticed dont be shy and just be confident and remeber always have a smile!

Actually, I'm pretty much in the same situation ><" But honestly would you really want to act more flirty (and not be yourself) just so guys could like you? For me, that's kind of like degrading myself just for people to like me. I don't know, I figure that guys will like the girls on the side in the end.

I know it's hard to keep your confidence up but it's really something you just have to deal with. Just keep reminding yourself that the guys who talk to you like you for who YOU are and not how much you flirt with them.

god confidence is like the main thing to have. i'm not all that confident. i mean i there's a guy i like i'm all shy and nervous but normally to boys i talk alot.

^^sumed up everything i have to say