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oXMuhNirvanaXo
Ok, Lets get serious. I was at a party with my best friend and she had more to drink then me and this dude was trying to get her in bed and I knew it. So, I went up to her and reminded her that she for got to take her pill and I told her that we had to fucken go home. After this I grabed her arm and draged her down the steps and she got out of my hands and ran back up the stairs and she wouldent listen to me. She said O SHELBY I WILL BE BACK IN 5 min. I was liek YOU BETTER BE.. But I was drunk also. So the guy f**ked her and I feel some what for the blame. I tryed my best but I think she is the one that has to deal with it. BuT! She was more drunk the me and had stuff to smoke that day also. I was down stairs with every one because she locked us out of the guys house that we we're at. Every one was calling her a f**king whore ( Which I agreed with them) Ans she was being like one. She met the guy liek 4 days ago. I MEAN WTF.

SO should I feel guilty and take the blame. I mean I could have done more to help. Now if she has a kid and she keeps it I will be the one that has to look at the kid and think. Hey, I could have prevented you from coming to this world. I feell so guilty. Should I feel this way I mean I tryed my best. wacko.gif HELP!

I mean now dont say that we shouldent be drinking in the first place. Kids do stupid shit and I really dont need to here about that right now. K, thanks
juliar
I guess it is partly your fault because you didn't do more. But most people would've just given up, so you're just like most people.

But you ARE her best friend. Eh. Judgement got f**ked by alcohol, i guess.
pinacoolada
You tried your best so it's not your fault.
oXMuhNirvanaXo
She is the kind of person if she dosent get her way she wont be happy till she dose. There is no way of stoping her. She got pissed off the other night that her mom didn't let her god out and she broke everything in her house. Her Ice box, Her walls have holes in them, and her mothers plants are f**ked up now. -_-
I couldent stop her but I tryed
pinacoolada
Well all that matters is that you tried. If you just let her do whatever she wanted, then that would be partially your fault. She sounds spoiled..
Jeng
POOR SHELBY I LOVE YOU.
hmm you at least tried right.
wtf she is crazy, id just punch the guy and straighten her up, and run
oXMuhNirvanaXo
Hahah and run.
demolished
it's not your fault.

period.

;]
I Shot JFK
did you seize the guy's penis and shove it into her?

then you are not responsible.

if the answer to that question is yes, then you have bigger problems then i know how to deal with. much therapy must ensue
oXMuhNirvanaXo
Now shes pissed at me.. for talking shit be hind her back.. aka calling her a whore when I was drunk. She was a whore... Wtf.. This is so gay.
I Shot JFK
to be fair, if you said it TO her it wasnt behind her back. although i wouldnt recommend that as a defense, particularly.

and stop calling her a whore. she didnt charge, and you are doing a disservice to prostitues who have a sound business plan.

but hey, if she IS knocked up, get her to call the kid shelby. that way it isnt a total loss
This Confession
Personally if I tried to get them to come back and not go and they got out of my hands as hard as they could. I wouldn't feel guilty at all. I would make them understand that what ever happens to them is going to be their fault.

I would make it very clear. I suppose in a way I could feel a little bad. But you both made the choice to go drinking and crap so its your/her fault.

What ever happens, happens.


Even though you were honest and that since she was being a whore you just agreed with the others calling her that. This kind of goes along with People don't really want the truth. So you just keep it from them. She has to get over that, because if she was drunk and acting like a slut then she needs to accept it. It was her own fault. Maybe she'll get a little bit smart later and learn not to drink so much.
scottss7
"drink responsibly" is the quote all of the beer companys use. so its her fault entirely. no one made her drink or smoke. she did it all, and excessively, on her own. If shes not big enough of a person to realize when their limit has been met, when their decision making process is skewered and the right guys to be around with then that is where it becomes her problem. Although i do believe you could have told her the reason why you were pulling her aside rather than just to go home. No guilt needs to be rested on your shoulders
x1227x
wtf? she's pissed off at you because you called her a whore behind her back when you were drunk and how she went in bed with someone when she was drunk? she's practically doing the same thing, but except she did something more worse. i dont see how she could be mad at you since you were drunk, and you probably didn't even know that you called her a whore.
_sarcastic_
it's not your fault

you tried everything you could, she didn't listen. so don't get so stressed over it.
HakunaMatata
Yeahhhhh, not your fault. You did your best, so no sorries, but I'd reevaluating your friendship with her.
towntown2
Shelby, it's not your fault.
You did everything you can in that situation to get her out of it safely.

In the end, whatever happens to her that night is all because of her own judgment - however impaired it might have been. She was the one who chose to sleep with that guy, not you.
xforgottenlove
well i don't think it was your fault. cuhz obviously, i think she was still at least half way right in her head if she was able to tell you she'll be back in a few minutes.
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