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alexis5489
I have a best friend. She my age(15). I think tht she's TOO obsessed with boys. Everywhere we go, all i hear from her is "i wana find a hot guy". She has had boyfriends, but they did stuff wit her, nd thn dumped her. Every1 says shes "easy." We went to a play last week, nd got some kids #!!!OMFG! EHH! Nd thn, shes tellin me shes guna meet some kid thts 18- is it jus me, or she juss a lil bit 2 advanced? I wana tlk 2 her bout it, but idk how...help! _unsure.gif
MrElsewhere
ok..yo homegurl rite dere need ta find a guy dat'll treat her rite..if she refuses ta do so..U DO IT FO HER..if she continues lyke dis she will go down as da neighborhood whore..trust me..dis happend ta one of mai frienz
177emories
okay she is a bit toooo sexually active, if she wats to do, she needs to settle down and be in a relationship... this is sad seems like she's being used... she's still so young too at the age of 15 and being use dliek that... she will go down as the whore if she don't get her act up. as a friend you need to lead her in the right direction that is right for her, cause it seems like she don't understand, you have got to tell her that if everyone thinks that she is easy than no one in the future is going to take her seriously. and honestly a got who's looking a a serious relationship woyld rather date a vergin then one who's been f*ucked many times...
aznxmoney403
Maybe he best idea is to tlk to ur friend. You should just hav a 1 on 1 coversation about this. Make her realize that this is very important to you becuz shes important to you. I know you dont have to listen to me, but if I was in this situation, I would do this. Sometimes if you get someones attention it can help a lot. If you need more advice just post n I'll reply.
LiNHy POO
talk to her!!!!!!! thats the best!! and you have to be striaght forword too!! dont hold anything back!!! the saying *chicks b4 d!cks* she has all the time in the world for guys and boyfriends... at this age it should be about FRIENDS!
illuminessence
Try talking to her. If she's your best friend, she'd understand your concern.
Kathleen
Yeah, I think you should definitely talk to her one-on-one. If she's sexually active like that, then you should warn her about all the different types of STDs out there. Also, make sure she knows that guys aren't everything - there's a whole lot of stuff to do with say, you, her best friend than there are things to do with guys, you know?
alexis5489
THX 4 ALL YA HELP GUYS! This grl, she makes fun of me cuz ive never done anything wit a guy--so what! I aint a rush-god dam, i wana shoot this grl in her head sometimes biggrin.gif
NvieDi3ai3yGrL
if you really care about your friend you'll just tell her straight up how you feel .. tell her you're concerned with her actions and you see her getting taken advantage of.. simple as that.. friends have to watch out for each other .. and if people are talking about her saying she's easy and you see that guys are using her than dumping her don't let it go any further.
psychoticangel
she's s'pposed to be your bestfriend right? then go and talk to her. communication helps a lot. and like what Kathleen said, remind her of STDs not all of them are protected by condoms, if ever she is using any that is.

I had a friend like her before. she was mai close friend during first sem of my first yr in college. she had big tits (sorry if that's too r-18 _unsure.gif ) and so all the guys were after her. she was quite pretty too, and she looked "easy". she went around kissing every guy she got hold of. But she doesnt "goof off" around me. coz I usually scold her and stuff.. so yah. one time though, during our english class, she kissed randoms guys. I was absent then, and when I heard I got so mad. What she did was really pitiful. I told her she was a disgrace to all females for doing such a thing... all because it hurt me too. Found out she was only "hanging out" with me coz I knew a lot of people in the uni. I thought what she did was too much because I've considered her as a friend.. so I told her to call me when she's done doing the town and ready to stop. she never called me since then. oh well... her loss.

all I'm saying is... there are people whom you think are worth your time, your effort, your advice, and your care.. but they don't. try to talk to your friend... see if you get through to her. if she does, she's worth keeping and caring for. if she doesnt... distance from her for a while and if she comes back apologizing, she's worth it. if she doesnt, move on and find someone worth caring for.
hybrid
Yeah, warn her with stuff, warn her that she might end up in an apartment with 2 kids and bad plumbing service with a husband that drinks a lot..but, seriously, what everyone said, if she's your best friend, she'd listen to you-- or at least take your thought into consideration. rolleyes.gif
rOckThISshYt
umm... i'm the wrong person to ask. sounds exactly like me. laugh.gif i like older guys, everywhere i go, i wonder am i gonna meet a guy? i need to meet a guy!" and i get tons of guys numbers. -. ` (that's a smily of someone raising their eyebrow. get it?) but, yeah. sounds exactly like me!!!

pee ess:: i'm twelve and i got a nineteen year old's number once. but he thinks i'm fifteen. blink.gif
Snickerz
huh.gif wow they start at an early age these days, huh? sad.gif
umm not only remind her of her reputation and the diseases she could catch ... but tell her that you feel it's interfering with your friendship happy.gif let her know that you care about her & all that mushy stuff _dry.gif but ask her if she'd rather buy a new car or one that's been used for years and had many different owners? blink.gif lol nah, don't say that to her ... but if talking to her doesn't help and you feel it's detrimental to her health, you might wanna talk to her mom ... i know it's drastic but if she's only 15 and she's that sexually active and she means that much to you ... yup, i think it's time her parents knew ... my personal opinion of course happy.gif

(y do i feel like a mom all of a sudden? _dry.gif )
islandkiss
if she is your friend then you have to help her. it's a no-no to just leave her up to no good. and about that "stuff" it's um.. sex right?.. I'm kind of slow but anyway talk to her about putting herself in the risk of getting STDs or by putting herself in the most stressful situation, which is getting pregnant. hm.. I typed this pretty fast so it might not make any sense happy.gif
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