okay, so my ex boyfreind, jeremy, broke up with me. he said that he didnt want to and that he still liked me. i was sad blah blah blah. so on wedsnesday he was gonna come over. on the bus that afternoon he kissed me.. on the lips! and like he was writing "i heart you" on his hand with arrows pointing towards me and on paper then giving it to me. so when he got to my house he was like all over me, flirting with me, hugging me, and like stuff. so we went for a walk and i asked him why he broke up with me. he said that he hates having a girlfriend and stuff.

he says he still likes me because the other day, on sunday night, i asked him if he still liked me and he got mad and was like "feelings dont change over night!" and he still wants me to go on vacation with him to georgia.

do you think he will ever change? and maybe WANT a girlfriend?

I think this belongs in relationships.

Moved to Relationships

I understand. I'm sort of in the same position as you. My bf broke up with me but he says he still feels the same but just doesnt want a relationship now and of course i was sad i mean after almost 4 years of being together and the love wasn't the problem but things came up i guess and it puts him in the position of not being ready for one right now. Guys like that i dont understand like how they like someone and do all that stuff but doesnt want one. Maybe they feel pressured? well i hope you'll feel better && as they say, time will heal everything...it's true i guess but not easy to live by

You have to accept if someone doesn't want to have a girlfriend, it does take a lot of commitment and such. And maybe hes scared of that?
Who knows, all you can do is ask.

He does like you though, but if you can't take him liking you and doing all these things and not be in a relationship then you need to tell him..

Maybe after a while once you both grow up some more and stuff he'll change and want a girlfriend. Perhaps ask him why he doesn't want to have a girlfriend and stuff as well..


I honestly don't find him to confusing though, that may just be me though..

Uh basically what he's sayin is... I don't want a relationship, I don't want to be taken. I want to be single and have multiple girls :)

If he says he loves you, he's most likely tryin to get into your pants.

And this advice is comin from a very experienced 22 year old man btw (ME!!) :)

What an ass.

Tell him that you either get back together, or he has no right to do those things to you. He's not your boyfriend. You're not technically "together", so he just wants to get his way. He's pathetic.

^agreed.
he shouldn't be doing this to you (the kissing and hugging stuff) if you guys aren't together.
make it clear to him

Well, if he broke up with you then it's over. Him saying that he didn't want to be in a relationship shouldn't be used as an excuse. You never know who you meet and how you might feel about them. You have to let things happen and not force them. So that excuse is out the window.

If he's doing little things like that maybe he's remorseful for what he's done. But he can't pretend that he never broke up with you. If you don't want to be with him, let him know. Communication is key.

If you still want to be friends with him, I doubt it'll be able to happen because if he still has feelings for you that's a road you don't want to travel.

Make it clear to him that you have boundries and make sure he respects that.

he tells me that he didnt want to break up with though.
ahh.
and he gets soooo mad when i say that he just wants in my pants.

that is so well worded!!

i agree tho its his excuse to go flirt with other girls and if they dont pay no attention to him whotsoever he still has you. do you want to put yourself in that kinda situation? do not let him flirt with you as if you guys are still together if its over its OVER period. tell him you guys are friends and not friends with benefits. go flirt with other guys your not with him any more. and if he gets mad because you say that he wants to get in your pants its prolly wat he wants thats why he gets so offended.


i agree with Angelina Taylor hes PATHETIC.

Give him time. Maybe he will come around to relize that you still really like him. :-)

What, after he messes around with plenty of other girls? Then he comes back to his back up plan? Screw that, tell him rather keep the relationship or bye.

Ladies and gentlemen... I'm not claiming to know it all, but I as well was young, dumb, and full of cum. Do you know what "young, dumb, and full of cum" really means? Young men in this generation especially will ruin perfect relationships, lose friends, disrespect family just to get some ass and they get addicted to getting ass.

Young - young age
Dumb - ruin relationships, lose friends, and disrespect their family
Full of cum - to get as much ass as possible because they get addicted

This is why kids shouldn't be having sex at a young age, because they're too immature and do not know how to have a fruitful life. Instead they experienced an adult activity and they do not how to handle it, and they make it seem like sexual activities is part of having fun in life.

idiot! ... [i mean ur ex] just make sure he isnt messing w/ some other chick.... i mean you both ARE single, so this give him an advantage -- WATCH OUT FOR YOURSELF!

you kno im a guy and im confused O_o i personally nve went through those pahses with my gf and i dont get how???

hmm.. well i think you should probably consider other guys for now since he doesn't seem to be a very comitted person. my guess is that he's probably messing around with other girls right now. so it wouldn't be a good idea to get back with him right now, even if he DID want to.

yeah, i have been like flirting with other guys here and there.

i say talk to him about it.
in person.

yeah, that's what i have been doing.
because in person they can see your
facial expressions and stuff. on the
phone it's more dfficult to understand
how someone feels.