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jh812
hey guys I have a gf and i played a game of truth or dare for fun with a few friends and ended up kissing this one girl...didn't mean anything by it...but is it technically "cheating"?
pinayprincess
well.... technically it is, but its JUST game.... in some ways i guess it depends on your girlfriend... one time me and my boyfriend [ex] were playing truth or dare and one of my friends dared me to kiss another dude... my bf said it was okay just as long as it wasnt a make out kiss... i still didnt do it b/c i thought it wasnt right
doork
If you tell your girl about it.. she`ll probally take it as cheating. To me it is.
Zatanna
Depends really. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you find it cheating? Would you be hurt?

If you answer yes, then there's your answer.
satch
QUOTE(jh812 @ Aug 20 2006, 11:46 AM) *
hey guys I have a gf and i played a game of truth or dare for fun with a few friends and ended up kissing this one girl...didn't mean anything by it...but is it technically "cheating"?



what kinda kiss?? little peck on the mouth or a full on kiss with all the good stuff in it?
jh812
QUOTE(satch @ Aug 20 2006, 3:26 PM) *
what kinda kiss?? little peck on the mouth or a full on kiss with all the good stuff in it?


pretty much a peck
satch
I do not think that a peck is that big of a deal really.....my wife gives pecks to guys she knows no big deal to me
Tee_duhxo
I think its considered cheating if you dont tell her. You wouldnt want her to find out from anyone else. Explain that it was just a peck & it was just a game. To prevent stuff liek that from happening my boyfriend & i go to parties together. So none of that truth or dare shit happens. Then again, if shes the type of girlfriend who would flip out on your for it, don't tell her. it is JUST a kiss.
doork
Oh if its a peck then nooo.. lols.
anniepiee
QUOTE(Teen @ Aug 20 2006, 12:38 PM) *
I think its considered cheating if you dont tell her. You wouldnt want her to find out from anyone else. Explain that it was just a peck & it was just a game. To prevent stuff liek that from happening my boyfriend & i go to parties together. So none of that truth or dare shit happens. Then again, if shes the type of girlfriend who would flip out on your for it, don't tell her. it is JUST a kiss.



Definitely, you have to tell her. If you hide it and she finds out some other way, to her no matter what it sould still seem like you cheated.
LOWinSKANK
Even if it was a dare, you are the one to decide if you're to do it. So yes, I think it is. You kissed another girl.. it's cheating. But IDK if your gf isn't mad about it, just don't do it again.
blacknailpolish
Psh, it was a dare, definitly not cheating.
goodcharlotte
Okay so most people said to tell her and I agree with that. Think about it. It is sort of like playing spin the bottle. Just because you aren't single doesn't mean that you can't play the game. If it lands on someone you kiss them. Tell her. Apparently talking about things in a relationship help a lot. If you avoid it you are putting yourself in a worse position. I think we should all just learn to talk to each other.
This Confession
Hmm, matters how you both felt about the game. Like if she didn't want to play it and she was forced to play it, then she may find it cheating. Or if both were forced in to the suituation then yea it would be, because you could have made a better choice and not have done it. If she was fine with it then I wouldn't feel all that guilty.
suddenly she
i'd be ticked if i was your girlfriend.

what sort of guy kisses a girl without meaning anything?
it doesn't matter if it's technically "cheating." her definition of cheating is more important than the "technical" definition.

my boyfriend gets annoyed when my guyfriends decide to pick me up and do bicep curls, even if they don't mean anything.

apologies if i'm being harsh, but kissing someone else for truth and dare?! when you're taken is a no-no.
me1issaaaa
I would consider leaving you if I were her. Your lips should never end up on another person (with the exception of your mother's cheek saying goodbye or something), whether it was "just a game" or not. Maybe she'll let you slide on this one, but still... You're very lucky if she puts up with it.
vn_cuti3
it's just a GAME unless when you kiss that person with a feeling then it's consider cheating
Le DaNi
Well.. A lot of these guys are saying its JUST a game.. But then again think of your girlfriend kissing some other dude.. Maybe there was no feelings towards it but its still cheating
goodcharlotte
Maybe it was a little too much. I wouldn't do it again if I were you.
yrrnotelekktric
Yikes. If my bf
did that. It would be his head.
So, maybe to your gf
it would be cheating, but who knows.
We arent the same people.
Bring up the topic and ask her but
in a way that she doesnt think you did it.
But I would personally want to know
if my bf did that. shrug.gif
cassjamminx
As a girl, my first instinct is to be mad. Because, if you had that dare, KNOWING you have a girlfriend, WHY would you kiss someone else? (Even though it's a dare) It's pretty messed up that you let a game get that far.

As a girl, I'd think it's cheating.. pinch.gif
Hiphop d[-_-]b
Yes, you dirty dirty manwhore.
Lol Jk.


But yes it is. Game or not your lips touched lips that were not attatched to your girlfriends face.
mytangerine
ok. if it's just a peck you should still tell her but make sure she understands it didn't mean anything. but it's still SORTA cheating anyways.. isn't it? ermm.gif
SarahxJoy
I don't consider it really "cheating"..as long as there's no chemistry between you and the girl you kissed, and there's no emotional attachment. I think you can consider things cheating if what you do could be seriously taken as a threat to the relationship you're already in.

I mean, if you LIKED this girl you kissed during Truth or Dare, I think that'd be cheating.

But it's all just a game. Truth or Dare, I mean.
lyin_in_wait
i consider it cheating whether its a game or not. you kissed someone else, reguardless of the emotional attachment (or lack thereof) . if you really cared you wouldnt have played the game. but you owe it to her to tell her yourself....not so-and-so who was sitting next to you during the game
mastashake15
lol i did this once and it wasnt very smart.
cheating or not it wouldnt make your girl happy
Uronacid
I wouldn't say it's cheating... I mean she knew about it, but I question whether it's healthy for the relationship... She may feel like you don't care as much. Even if she realizes the kiss din't mean anything. If I saw my girlfriends kissing another guy I know I would feel like my kisses meant less to her even if the kiss didn't mean anything to her... I wouldn't want to kiss her as much... accually I probably wouldn't want to kiss her at all because I would feel like kisses didn't mean anything to her... ugh, I guess it would be bad for me, but maybe your girlfriend is different... well, I hope so, because if she's like me in any way shape or form she would feel pretty worthless....
My Cinderella.
QUOTE(xoxo_koala_kisses_ @ Aug 20 2006, 10:33 PM) *
I would consider leaving you if I were her. Your lips should never end up on another person (with the exception of your mother's cheek saying goodbye or something), whether it was "just a game" or not. Maybe she'll let you slide on this one, but still... You're very lucky if she puts up with it.


I agree with Melissa, I wouldn't want my boyfriend kissing other girls. Game or not.
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