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CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 09:42 PM

[font=Arial]this is pretty long so be prepared ^_^

hmm ok well first i met this guy Elmer.. a lllooooong time ago! about a few years ago. i had a crush on him and he had a crush on me... but we never saw each other after that.. THEN i met him again in sept.2005` at a YFC Camp. we remembered each other but didnt really talk. he gave me his number and since the last day of camp.. weve been talking EVERY SINGLE DAY even up til` around 4am. wed both get in trouble alot too. finally on Jan. 06, 2006 at 1:43am HE ASKED ME OUT <333 3 days before my birthday ! but ever since he and i talk on the phone.. his mom n dad never liked me. my mom&dad never knew either. >.< a few weeks after we were going out i had a bad feeling about that day.. & i was right. His mom told my aunt about me & him and she told my mom!!!! my mom talked to me.. & she thinks hes my first BF but he isnt.. =] IM HIS first GF cuz hes always been lookin` for the right girl that he wanted to be with. weeeellllll.. amazingly my mom WANTED me to tell her and she thought it was cute. she kept asking why i chose him.. but yeah. THEN.. things get worse.. his dads always yelling at him. and his parents are such SDHFDGGH yeah !

grr.. his dad doesnt really care && my parents talked to him. MY DAD DOESNT KNOW ABOUT ME & HIM. but my mom knows. one day a few months ago elmer told me he wouldnt hug me until i talked to his mom. so i gathered all my courage and walked up to her with a friend of mine. his mom IGNORED ME THE HOLE TIME!! i was so upset. she acts like a teenager. she told him she AUTOMATICALLY knew who i was & what kinda girl i was with just one look at me. WTF IS THAT ?! then she talks SOOO much mess about me.. shes like a damn` kid or something. ugh. i try to be nice.. i respect her & all that but shes so MEAN. she cant hold onto him forever. sdghogfiogh AGH ! & she MAD ALSO cuz i invite him to the movies and parties.. WTF ? THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH DOING THAT!!!!! his mom is so closeminded too!! jeez` Elmers always defending me and his mom gets mad when he does that. we dont see each other alot.. just.. a few times a month.. the longest ive gone without seeing him is about 2 months ? hmm && right now.. last time i saw him was 2 weeks ago. jeez` idk what his moms problem is. i dont understand her and she doesnt even wanna get to know me or anything ! my aunt is trying to set up a gathering thing for my parents & his & my aunt & whatever.. but his moms being a bitch` & doesnt wanna. my parents dont like his mom so whatever. idk..

HELP ME ! how am i supposed to deal with this !? i love him so much..

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but things are just getting worse & i dont really know how to explain the rest of it..

Dreamers

Aug 3 2006, 10:01 PM

I dont have lovelife experience but i seriosly think you should be straight up maybe sugarcoat it a lil but tell his mom how you feel i would say something like this(not saying you should, i have no experience loo, but this is how i would deal!)

I have a few issues with the way im being treated like, how do you know who i am with just looking at me?! I bet if you talked to me then you would you know who i am. But ill tell you 1 thing about me right now! I DO NOT like being treated the way your treating me! I don't know you very well, I'm sure your actually a very likeable person but right now, your acting a lil...well...rude...If you have issues with me, just tell me! Cause i have issues with you and here they are! You don't even know me! how do you know what I'm like! your acting like a kid! I've tried to be respectable but I can take this anymore! I really care about your son, if you think im out to hurt him then your wrong!
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THat alk would probably get you in trouble but i would say that

This Confession

Aug 3 2006, 10:06 PM

Yea I can see what you mean, his mom makes me think of this one girl I know.

Anyway I think you should just walk up to her and be completely reasonable and just tell her that you really need to talk to her. Ask her to honestly tell you why she has a problem with you, and if she ignores you then get her attention and hold on to it, and if she says nothing then bring up all the things that give you the impression that she doesn't like you and has a problem with you.
You need to act completely sincere about it and only go up to her by yourself, and not tag a friend along.

jennyjenny

Aug 3 2006, 10:07 PM

i think you should respect how other people's parents think of you. if you really can't stand it, just kiss ass to her by buying her stuff and complimenting her. i mean, if you really like a person, no one should get in the way of that.

This Confession

Aug 3 2006, 10:09 PM

Cake - No offense at all, but being a fake person and not just yourself. How is that going to help? Eventually shes going to see right through it and shes going to be like she is now.

I don't think shes going to think your anything but a kid unless you act like a adult and face her yourself.

CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 10:10 PM

haha thanks ^_^ yeah i dont understand her.. shes so irritating ! his birthday is on august11 but im trying to throw him a suprise bday party on aug.18th or august20th but i probably CANT do it cuz his mom wont let him go out anywhere & it would really hurt cuz ive never thrown a bday party before and i really wanted him to like it.. =/ and im not the type to disrespect adults-- only my older bro & my grandma.. sfghyfgu so irritating.. & shes tryina` seperate us..

iROCKYOURSOCKS

Aug 3 2006, 10:12 PM

well i would suggest you have a long talk with your boyfriend with his mom and right there say in front of her that she has been extremly rude and you would like to know why she has been rude. but your boyfriend HAS TO BE THERE because if you guys want to get through this whole mom problem them it needs to be together and not along with your friend or anything but both of you. you can tell his mom that its really unfair that she has to judge someone just by looking at them and tell her that you want to be with her son and wouldnt do anything to hurt him. jus talk to her and be really calm and respectful when you talk to her dont lose your head and start yelling at her or cussing because in the end if she acts like a teenager and you like a mature teenager your boyfriend will realize how crazy his mom is.

CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 10:15 PM

QUOTE(Youraisemeup @ Aug 3 2006, 10:01 PM)

I dont have lovelife experience but i seriosly think you should be straight up maybe sugarcoat it a lil but tell his mom how you feel i would say something like this(not saying you should, i have no experience loo, but this is how i would deal!)

I have a few issues with the way im being treated like, how do you know who i am with just looking at me?! I bet if you talked to me then you would you know who i am. But ill tell you 1 thing about me right now! I DO NOT like being treated the way your treating me! I don't know you very well, I'm sure your actually a very likeable person but right now, your acting a lil...well...rude...If you have issues with me, just tell me! Cause i have issues with you and here they are! You don't even know me! how do you know what I'm like! your acting like a kid! I've tried to be respectable but I can take this anymore! I really care about your son, if you think im out to hurt him then your wrong!
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THat alk would probably get you in trouble but i would say that

haha thanks ^_^ yeah i dont understand her.. shes so irritating ! his birthday is on august11 but im trying to throw him a suprise bday party on aug.18th or august20th but i probably CANT do it cuz his mom wont let him go out anywhere & it would really hurt cuz ive never thrown a bday party before and i really wanted him to like it.. =/ and im not the type to disrespect adults-- only my older bro & my grandma.. sfghyfgu so irritating.. & shes tryina` seperate us..

QUOTE(iROCKYOURSOCKS @ Aug 3 2006, 10:12 PM)

well i would suggest you have a long talk with your boyfriend with his mom and right there say in front of her that she has been extremly rude and you would like to know why she has been rude. but your boyfriend HAS TO BE THERE because if you guys want to get through this whole mom problem them it needs to be together and not along with your friend or anything but both of you. you can tell his mom that its really unfair that she has to judge someone just by looking at them and tell her that you want to be with her son and wouldnt do anything to hurt him. jus talk to her and be really calm and respectful when you talk to her dont lose your head and start yelling at her or cussing because in the end if she acts like a teenager and you like a mature teenager your boyfriend will realize how crazy his mom is.

well yeah idk but his mom just hung up on me when my bf put the phone down and went awayfor alittle while. now hes mad and all that other ish` but idk.. she said she feels uncomfortable with me around her. JEEZ` IM NOT GONNA RAPE HER !

QUOTE(Cake. @ Aug 3 2006, 10:07 PM)

i think you should respect how other people's parents think of you. if you really can't stand it, just kiss ass to her by buying her stuff and complimenting her. i mean, if you really like a person, no one should get in the way of that.

but im not the type to act fake & do something just to try & please someone.. >.< and plus she wont listen to me even if i try to talk to her

iROCKYOURSOCKS

Aug 3 2006, 10:22 PM

talk to her in person with your boyfriend and seriously tell her that you are not gonna rape her or anything lol she acts like if your some kind of criminal ready to kill her

oh yea doesnt your boyfriend realize that you didnt hang up on him if his phone was hung up on his reciever and everything cant he possibly take a wild guess that his mom or dad hung up the phone? or does he think you magically flew in to hang up the phone for him and ran back to your phone line? lol

CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 10:29 PM

QUOTE(iROCKYOURSOCKS @ Aug 3 2006, 10:22 PM)

talk to her in person with your boyfriend and seriously tell her that you are not gonna rape her or anything lol she acts like if your some kind of criminal ready to kill her

oh yea doesnt your boyfriend realize that you didnt hang up on him if his phone was hung up on his reciever and everything cant he possibly take a wild guess that his mom or dad hung up the phone? or does he think you magically flew in to hang up the phone for him and ran back to your phone line? lol

lol no he went to his moms car to help take out the things and when he did that his mom hung up the phone. jeez` shes an ass.. >.< =X

jsmooth4ever

Aug 3 2006, 10:41 PM

I once had this problem not because I feared anyones parents no they tend to respect me because I always was never afraid to step right up and meet them but this isnt the issue I do think that for an adult she is being childish and smothering (depending on age but yes childish) you made an effort to communicate with her if she does not accept that be your own person and avoid her if you can.

There is no convincing her if she put you in a certain class in her mind she probably thinks your after one thing and is trying to protect him the best way she knows how the bad part is thats only gonna make him rebelious.

Since your mom already knows have you talked to her about the way that she treats you?

Anywho it is not the parents you are dating it is the son none of that should matter to you right now its not like your getting married to him tomorrow get your education get your career going and see where it takes you two do not worry about his parents.

CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 10:49 PM

QUOTE(jsmooth4ever @ Aug 3 2006, 10:41 PM)

I once had this problem not because I feared anyones parents no they tend to respect me because I always was never afraid to step right up and meet them but this isnt the issue I do think that for an adult she is being childish and smothering (depending on age but yes childish) you made an effort to communicate with her if she does not accept that be your own person and avoid her if you can.

There is no convincing her if she put you in a certain class in her mind she probably thinks your after one thing and is trying to protect him the best way she knows how the bad part is thats only gonna make him rebelious.

Since your mom already knows have you talked to her about the way that she treats you?

Anywho it is not the parents you are dating it is the son none of that should matter to you right now its not like your getting married to him tomorrow get your education get your career going and see where it takes you two do not worry about his parents.

i know werenot gonna get married but i dont wanna lose him !!! my mom knows about his mom and so does my dad and now its starting a WHOLE mess now !! everythings gay !! he cant go to anything i invite him to.. he never has.. >.<

jsmooth4ever

Aug 3 2006, 10:57 PM

QUOTE(msz`cookie @ Aug 3 2006, 10:49 PM)

i know werenot gonna get married but i dont wanna lose him !!! my mom knows about his mom and so does my dad and now its starting a WHOLE mess now !! everythings gay !! he cant go to anything i invite him to.. he never has.. >.<

Keep in touch with him stop letting his parents know your inviting him.

msladyliberty

Aug 3 2006, 11:12 PM

I'd KISS ASS.

here's how I delt with an ex-man's mama.

-got more involved in school
(i.e., joined soccer team, became an editor in yearkbook, joined clubs, did community services)

-got more involved in something she liked.
(she's into the Filipino community, so I went to their big parties with my realtives and gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek PUBLICLY)

-i took her side when it came to discipline.
(id' be on the phone with him, late at night, and she'd come on saying it's hellah late. So i'd say, "she's right it is late, we have school tomorrow. Thanks for reminding us Mrs. 'so&so' i'll talk to him tomorrow.)

I hope this guy is worth it...'cause if he is...you gotta BREAK YO BACK for him...AND be 90% of yourself...the 10%, kiss ass...and act morally correct.

It seems like he's a mama's boy. But your man has to play his part too.

She needs to feel comfortable enough that you're a GOOD INFLUENCE on him.

CO0KiE

Aug 3 2006, 11:21 PM

QUOTE(jsmooth4ever @ Aug 3 2006, 10:57 PM)

Keep in touch with him stop letting his parents know your inviting him.

yeah i talk to him everyday yup yup yup i dont let his parents know he has to ask permission first

QUOTE(msladyliberty @ Aug 3 2006, 11:12 PM)

I'd KISS ASS.

here's how I delt with an ex-man's mama.

-got more involved in school
(i.e., joined soccer team, became an editor in yearkbook, joined clubs, did community services)

-got more involved in something she liked.
(she's into the Filipino community, so I went to their big parties with my realtives and gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek PUBLICLY)

-i took her side when it came to discipline.
(id' be on the phone with him, late at night, and she'd come on saying it's hellah late. So i'd say, "she's right it is late, we have school tomorrow. Thanks for reminding us Mrs. 'so&so' i'll talk to him tomorrow.)

I hope this guy is worth it...'cause if he is...you gotta BREAK YO BACK for him...AND be 90% of yourself...the 10%, kiss ass...and act morally correct.

It seems like he's a mama's boy. But your man has to play his part too.

She needs to feel comfortable enough that you're a GOOD INFLUENCE on him.

hes not being a mamas boy.. yeah im more of 95% of ME && 5% of KiSSiN` ASS but sometimes it doesnt work when i try to tel him stuffs cuz hes so frckn` stubborn.. yeah.. hes worth it..

xforgottenlove

Aug 3 2006, 11:31 PM

ahh omg. hope this doesn't turn out like the movie "monster-in-law" haha ;D

hmm i think the best way is to just confront his mom about the way she's treating you without getting disrespectful. just do it in an adult manner and i'm sure she'll respect you. well good luck with everything [:

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 12:19 AM

QUOTE(x___F0RG0TTEN @ Aug 3 2006, 11:31 PM)

ahh omg. hope this doesn't turn out like the movie "monster-in-law" haha ;D

hmm i think the best way is to just confront his mom about the way she's treating you without getting disrespectful. just do it in an adult manner and i'm sure she'll respect you. well good luck with everything [:

FORGOTTEN: yeah thats what i thought of and also this filipino show Gulong Ng Palad and i my friends thought of Romeo & Juliet lol

liquidize

Aug 4 2006, 12:22 AM

Damn just follow myu lead and just be like " I'm sorry but i gotta goooooooo "

I'm sorry that I have to see you everyday and not tell you my name!

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 01:10 AM

QUOTE(liquidize @ Aug 4 2006, 12:22 AM)

Damn just follow myu lead and just be like " I'm sorry but i gotta goooooooo "

I'm sorry that I have to see you everyday and not tell you my name!

ALL OF WHAT YOU SAID: im supposed to say that or where u talking to me? lol sorry i sound stupid but i was confused.. =]

Dreamers

Aug 4 2006, 02:30 AM

I thought of a different way to handle it too!

This is just me, you should probably be yourself but this is how i would handle it too

I feel you have problems with me i really care about your son so i think we should talk and get things straightened out between us to the point where we can at least be civil to one another.
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Remember, just my suggestion, its all you when the time comes.

T0rmented_Soul

Aug 4 2006, 02:46 AM

wow dude is gonna have a birthday..and you can't do nothing about it..cuz the mom is soo drama queen..but then after you and you boy get into arguements..then he gets into arguement with his mom..which causes him not to see you..I think he should step up, go against his parents wishes instead of falling back behind after every fight. If you love him. right now you can support him...and it seems that his parents...are really something else..like one of them strict parents you see in filipino dramas..usually it happens to girls..but for a guy I dunno. but it looks like it's been quite awhile since you and him been going out...and not seeing him either must hurt..and to feel like maybe things are getting out of hand..hold your head high..you've done alot and you've loved alot to let his parents hold you down..if he believes in you, you believe in him..maybe you'll get your big break. dont give up.

liquidize

Aug 4 2006, 04:26 AM

I meant break up with him and tell his mom to shoot her son because you're pregnant now. that works EvERYTIME

lyin_in_wait

Aug 4 2006, 09:41 AM

bringing a friend up w/ you to talk to her wasnt the best move....if you wanted to have a decent conversation that wasnt the right way to go about it...

sometimes you just cant help the way people feel about you. do you have a rep? do you do things that others would question? maybe when she gets used to the idea that her son now has to be shared shell calm down then you can get everything straight.

and on the contrary to who ever said, confront the mom and the son. i would highly recommend you dont do that!!! you think shes defensive now?... you dont ever piss off the person who makes your food, or in this case the person who gave birth to your boyfriend. just wait until things calm down and privately talk to her. ask her what her concerns are, what she doesnt like, and try to reassure your not what she percieves you as

oxbeautifultruthxo

Aug 4 2006, 10:04 AM

Sometimes you can't help how parents signficicant others feel about you. When I dated this black guy..his mom didn't like me because I was white...I couldn't obvisouly do anything about that..

The whole bringing a friend thing wasn't a wise move either. She prolly got offended by that and wanted you to come by yourself..your friend isn't dating her son after all..

sarahcastro

Aug 4 2006, 11:04 AM

Tell your mom and if she under stands and is considerate she will tell him to back off or you can do it the fun way: play tricks on him woopie coushons on his seats shaving cream in his walet that will drive him away

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 12:23 PM

QUOTE(Youraisemeup @ Aug 4 2006, 2:30 AM)

I thought of a different way to handle it too!

This is just me, you should probably be yourself but this is how i would handle it too

I feel you have problems with me i really care about your son so i think we should talk and get things straightened out between us to the point where we can at least be civil to one another.
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Remember, just my suggestion, its all you when the time comes.

thats what i would do but you see.. SHE IGNORES ME !!!

QUOTE(sarahc143 @ Aug 4 2006, 11:04 AM)

Tell your mom and if she under stands and is considerate she will tell him to back off or you can do it the fun way: play tricks on him woopie coushons on his seats shaving cream in his walet that will drive him away

WHAT ? i dont wanna DRiVE MY BF AWAY!!! lol

QUOTE(liquidize @ Aug 4 2006, 4:26 AM)

I meant break up with him and tell his mom to shoot her son because you're pregnant now. that works EvERYTIME

but i dont wanna break up with him.. && if i say that im pregnant shes gonna hate me even more!!!! & plus i dont think hed like that idea..

QUOTE(T0rmented_Soul @ Aug 4 2006, 2:46 AM)

wow dude is gonna have a birthday..and you can't do nothing about it..cuz the mom is soo drama queen..but then after you and you boy get into arguements..then he gets into arguement with his mom..which causes him not to see you..I think he should step up, go against his parents wishes instead of falling back behind after every fight. If you love him. right now you can support him...and it seems that his parents...are really something else..like one of them strict parents you see in filipino dramas..usually it happens to girls..but for a guy I dunno. but it looks like it's been quite awhile since you and him been going out...and not seeing him either must hurt..and to feel like maybe things are getting out of hand..hold your head high..you've done alot and you've loved alot to let his parents hold you down..if he believes in you, you believe in him..maybe you'll get your big break. dont give up.

yeah if u seen Gulong Ng Palad this is what it reminds me of.. jeez`.. >.< My dad doesnt know and ithink hes gonna find out soon.. & my mom likes him.. his mom doesnt like the way that SUPPOSEDLY since he met ME.. hes been rebellious or whatever.. but its only because his mom is so rude.. and is such a BLAAHHHH !! yeah his dad doesnt care but his mom wont let him go anywhere !! because the first thing she asks is: IS NICKI GONNA BE THERE? jeez` im not gonna do anything to her son or HER! i dont get her.. AGH!!! hmm salamat.. ^_^ & im N0T gonna give up.. >:P

T0rmented_Soul

Aug 4 2006, 12:41 PM

^

Glad to be of help =] I just know how you feel...went through the same thing..but in the end I lost..and I had to lose her as well..so when I see a problem that relates..I know how troublesome, hard it is, and how much pain you have live through...my fault is was giving up..

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 12:47 PM

QUOTE(T0rmented_Soul @ Aug 4 2006, 12:41 PM)

^

Glad to be of help =] I just know how you feel...went through the same thing..but in the end I lost..and I had to lose her as well..so when I see a problem that relates..I know how troublesome, hard it is, and how much pain you have live through...my fault is was giving up..

ooh... aww that sucks..

i dont plan on giving up.. i just hope things get better.. because the only way we can hang out is if we see each other at YFC meetings & stuffs like that..

so gay.. and unless one of the Leaders in YFC takes him to my house for about 10 minutes.. >.< why didnt her mom like you ?

T0rmented_Soul

Aug 4 2006, 12:55 PM

I didn't meet up to the moms standards. she didn't like filipino guys like me. who waste time playing music. That pissed me off and we started an arguement..and she was like how can a person who can't keep their grades be anything with your life..do you even plan on going to college..I believe there isn't going to be a bright future for you and my daughter..yeah she kinda hurt me right there..and my ex..didn't even say anything..so I felt like my time was just being wasted..that my fighting had no effect if she didn't do anything..i felt as my heart was torn into so many pieces that it can never be repaired..and her dad despised me...I kept my grades up..but it wasn't good enough for their taste..so I gave up..said my goodbyes...and had the hardest time of my year..questioning myself..

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 01:02 PM

QUOTE(T0rmented_Soul @ Aug 4 2006, 12:55 PM)

I didn't meet up to the moms standards. she didn't like filipino guys like me. who waste time playing music. That pissed me off and we started an arguement..and she was like how can a person who can't keep their grades be anything with your life..do you even plan on going to college..I believe there isn't going to be a bright future for you and my daughter..yeah she kinda hurt me right there..and my ex..didn't even say anything..so I felt like my time was just being wasted..that my fighting had no effect if she didn't do anything..i felt as my heart was torn into so many pieces that it can never be repaired..and her dad despised me...I kept my grades up..but it wasn't good enough for their taste..so I gave up..said my goodbyes...and had the hardest time of my year..questioning myself..

awww.. im sorry..

that sucks.. i try to talk to his mom but she doesnt want me talkin to her.. shes uncomfortable with me around her.. she thinks she knows me by just one look at me.. she thinks im lazy... & all this other crap. she even told my bf that she doesnt like me. but my bf is defending both me&himself` i just with things were different.. idk how to get his mom to like me.. and im not gonna just kiss up to her n crap cuz thats now what i do.. so yeah.. shes so MEAN. so closeminded.. so rude.. & so arrogant.. jeez`.. she cant hold onto him forever.. and i hope you find the right girl for you =] next time that girl shouldve said something if she wanted to keep youre relationship going..

T0rmented_Soul

Aug 4 2006, 01:06 PM

^ haha yeah...but that stuffs all the past on clinging on to the past will make it so you can live in the future..well sometimes a little prooving them wrong is all you can do...be acknowledged by them..show them what a different person you are than what they see intheir eyes..prove them wrong. you can do it =]

LiSFORLiNDA

Aug 4 2006, 02:29 PM

Dont worry about it, your dating him not his mom.

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 02:34 PM

QUOTE(T0rmented_Soul @ Aug 4 2006, 1:06 PM)

^ haha yeah...but that stuffs all the past on clinging on to the past will make it so you can live in the future..well sometimes a little prooving them wrong is all you can do...be acknowledged by them..show them what a different person you are than what they see intheir eyes..prove them wrong. you can do it =]

hmm thanks i hope i can =]

QUOTE(STFULiNDA @ Aug 4 2006, 2:29 PM)

Dont worry about it, your dating him not his mom.

yeah but i cant see him as much so yeah.. aghhh

PrincessAda

Aug 4 2006, 05:19 PM

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 05:38 PM

QUOTE(xbabyboo @ Aug 4 2006, 5:19 PM)

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

well its not that easy. she wont listen to me. she doesnt like me. she doesnt want us together. etc ! why care ? because i wont be able to see him.. and i dont see him alot anyways because of his mom and yea! it sucks bootcrackers` >.<

CLYDE

Aug 4 2006, 05:43 PM

QUOTE(msladyliberty @ Aug 3 2006, 9:12 PM)

I'd KISS ASS.

here's how I delt with an ex-man's mama.

-got more involved in school
(i.e., joined soccer team, became an editor in yearkbook, joined clubs, did community services)

-got more involved in something she liked.
(she's into the Filipino community, so I went to their big parties with my realtives and gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek PUBLICLY)

-i took her side when it came to discipline.
(id' be on the phone with him, late at night, and she'd come on saying it's hellah late. So i'd say, "she's right it is late, we have school tomorrow. Thanks for reminding us Mrs. 'so&so' i'll talk to him tomorrow.)

I hope this guy is worth it...'cause if he is...you gotta BREAK YO BACK for him...AND be 90% of yourself...the 10%, kiss ass...and act morally correct.

It seems like he's a mama's boy. But your man has to play his part too.

She needs to feel comfortable enough that you're a GOOD INFLUENCE on him.

YES. YES YES YES.

You are Filipino right? You gotta understand that some Filipino mothers are like that. Close minded. Kiss lots of ass. Try not to get your guy in any more trouble, because it seems like the reason she's not liking you much is because she thinks you are a bad influence who makes her kid stay on the phone till 4 in the morning.

AngelinaTaylor

Aug 4 2006, 09:05 PM

Unless you're marrying him, I wouldn't worry about it.

CO0KiE

Aug 4 2006, 11:13 PM

QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Aug 4 2006, 9:05 PM)

Unless you're marrying him, I wouldn't worry about it.

either way i HAVE to worry cuz i dont want her to split us up !

QUOTE(robb0 @ Aug 4 2006, 5:43 PM)

YES. YES YES YES.

You are Filipino right? You gotta understand that some Filipino mothers are like that. Close minded. Kiss lots of ass. Try not to get your guy in any more trouble, because it seems like the reason she's not liking you much is because she thinks you are a bad influence who makes her kid stay on the phone till 4 in the morning.

yea I AM filipino... but she should be like that to a GIRL not her SON. ihgbffg i dont like his mom

CO0KiE

Nov 29 2006, 08:25 PM

QUOTE(sarahc143 @ Aug 4 2006, 11:04 AM)

Tell your mom and if she under stands and is considerate she will tell him to back off or you can do it the fun way: play tricks on him woopie coushons on his seats shaving cream in his walet that will drive him away

thatd be funny lol

a painefull euphoria

Nov 29 2006, 08:57 PM

this dosnt really look like its going to work out.
i understand the overprotective parent
but shes beyond that

but this lady hates you.
and you cant really get anywhere in this relationship with that barrier.
especialy the fact you never see him.
he needs to speak up to his mother and set her ass straight on his own free will rather then on you plea
otherwise
shes not worth it.
and hes not worth it...

CO0KiE

Dec 4 2006, 09:10 AM

QUOTE(xbabyboo @ Aug 4 2006, 5:19 PM)

Well it ain`t like you the one who is acting like a child talkin` smack and ignoring others when they want to work things out..so why care? if you love him so much,do what ya can.Beg her to talk to your mom&aunt so they can work it out and all.

she is ONE STUBBORN mother ugghh so freakin irritating too.. ive tried alot of things.. nothings really worked

QUOTE(a painefull euphoria @ Nov 29 2006, 8:57 PM)

this dosnt really look like its going to work out.
i understand the overprotective parent
but shes beyond that

but this lady hates you.
and you cant really get anywhere in this relationship with that barrier.
especialy the fact you never see him.
he needs to speak up to his mother and set her ass straight on his own free will rather then on you plea
otherwise
shes not worth it.
and hes not worth it...

well its not like he doesnt do anything. i mean he does try and he does speak up. it his mom. she wont listen to him. and she says im making him crazy and stuff when he hasnt changed since i met him [at least i havent noticed]

Trinie

Dec 4 2006, 12:38 PM

actually from my experience, my parents hated the idea that i had a boyfriend when i was in 8th grade! yup they just thought was too young and said i can have a boyfriend when im in college! so i was just like whatever! but i knew my mom didnt hate him cuz she doesnt even know him. but my bf's mom was ok with it.

so what we did was we still spent alot of time together. we tried to avoid my parents. i was able to spend time with him at his house and go out and whatnot. after a year! my mom gave in and didnt care anymore. he was able to come over the house now. it was so awesome! so we pretty much waited it out. and now we've been together for 8 years. :)

CO0KiE

Dec 4 2006, 10:02 PM

QUOTE(Trinie @ Dec 4 2006, 12:38 PM)

actually from my experience, my parents hated the idea that i had a boyfriend when i was in 8th grade! yup they just thought was too young and said i can have a boyfriend when im in college! so i was just like whatever! but i knew my mom didnt hate him cuz she doesnt even know him. but my bf's mom was ok with it.

so what we did was we still spent alot of time together. we tried to avoid my parents. i was able to spend time with him at his house and go out and whatnot. after a year! my mom gave in and didnt care anymore. he was able to come over the house now. it was so awesome! so we pretty much waited it out. and now we've been together for 8 years. :)

wow thats a long time. he and i are having our ELEVEN months in a few days though. and id love to spend time with him but he goes to a private school and i dont.. and he lives aboutr 30 minutes away from me and i have no way to go to him and he has no way to go to me >.,<