I must admit i always thought people who posted stuff complaining about their relationship problems to a bunch of strangers was pathetic and just a way of avoiding facing the real problem. I dunno how to face my problem....how unusual.

Last year i was "liked" this guy...a lot....it was not healthy and he wasn't intereted in any way. It took me a year to go through liking and getting over him which is dumb considering this is high school....i thought i loved him which i laugh at now.

but i got over it....or so i thought. another year later im back...yet its a bit more complicated. One night him and some other friends came over and we ended up hooking up and a week later he told me he wanted more than a hook-up....i was shocked....i had assumed itd b a 1 time thing but i was glad he wanted more at the same time....i started liking him again. Both of us said we didn'thave time for a full relationship with school and everything else we have to do but we didn't want "f**k buddys" either so we came to a middle ground of being exclusive pretty much.

So when school ended we hung out a few times in the first week of summer and i decided that i was falling hard for him again and i needed a relationship if i was to keep it up. I gave him an ultimatum and he said he didn't want a relationship. He said he cared a lot about me...that he "liked me"(i hate saying like it isn't the right word) yet in another conversation he said it was all physical and he kept flipping around.

Now, almost time to go back to school for my senior yr, and im still stuck on him...and i have no idea wat he wants. It has wrecked my entire summer and i turned down plenty of great guys cuz of it. How do i either get him back or get over him? I know i just need to let it go...

How did you get over him the last time?

All I can really think of, is to get over him by trying to avoid bumping into him if it's possible. Keeping yourself busy with hanging out with friends or some activities. Just keep him as minimal in your life as possible; then when you're over him maybe you two can just be friends. Really, only time can tell.

Things just won't work if you two want different things.

if you know you need to let him go then just get over him! i mean from what i read he does not seem sure if he likes you back you are totally in love with him but hes not with you or else he would not leave you hanging for such a long time just to get an answer from him. i know its hard because i was in LOVE with a guy for a year but he didnt like me back. i got over him and started talkin to other guys. you need to give other guys a chance and go out with guys that like you and appreciate you.

oh yea we are not just strangers but strangers who want to help you =]


GOOD LUCK

and dont stay in the past move on. its unhealthy BELIEVE ME =D

it took me a year to get over him last time...and i obviously wasn't completly over him. I dated in between him but i nvr liked any of them as much. I have avoided him all summer...minus the 3 or 4 phone calls ive got from him once and a while wanting to hang out or something....but i can't avoid him when we r at school. by school is tiny...250kids

yup... and its prolly not going ot completely go away until you go off for college! and part ur seperate ways

yah thats soo comforting....i just don't want to wreck my senior year. I haven't even looked at anyone else and i don't want to

don't be stuck on him, there might be other guys out there who already likes you. think of it this way, there's a very slim chance that you two might end up together (married) in the future, so don't waste your energy on him.

Ok, it seems like youare dragging this thing on becuase you are hoping that you still have a chance with him.... It's like he keeps giving you all these mixed signals. It's leaving you so confused as to wheather the relationship has a chance or not. Holding on to the possibiblity that this relationship is feasable seems to be the one thing that is keeping you from getting over him.

If this is true, It seems like you need him/someone to slam you with the truth so that you will stop hoping in this relationship. You need a clear answer. Also, it sounds like all the stuff that is happening is only effecting you. So, keep in mind that if you do talk to him. He will probably have a totally different perspective.

What you should do: Stop leaning on this one guy. There are pleanty of other guys out there that won't leave you hanging like this. I'm sure there are even a few right there in your school. This guy is wasteing your time. You should be out there experiencing the dating world so that you have a clearer understanding of the man you want to be with when you grow up. STOP WAITING FOR HIM!!!

well jus ask him straight forward weither he wants to b friends or more than friends. n u can get over him by ignoring him cuz as time past the feelings will wear away