okay... so,

I'm the type of person who joins alot of forums, talk on them for a very long time, but I never get recognized for anything. Not even in a small forum. I've joined one forum for 2 years now, and even now, I haven't made any friendships with anybody there (other than one person, but we never really talk).

In cB I've always noticed all these friendships between other users, and I'm wondering 'how do these people get so many friends online?'. I mean, everybody knows each others name, it's like as if cB is some type of village, and I'm that one person whose just there, never really noticed.

Now I'm not saying people IGNORE me or anything, but I feel that I should take the initiative to try and be friends with more people in all the forums I've joined. I mean, quite a few people in some of my forums ask things about me, since I'm known as that 'cute japanese girl' or 'that girl who provides links to old topics in case a new repeated one was made'. It's not that I feel uncomfortable about it, it's just that I never really think I'm that interesting.

I mean basically, my life very dull. Conflict rarely happens, and I end up talking about events that happen in real life, and sometimes, I feel that I'm talking about myself too much, tuning them out. most of the time they just say 'lol' or 'mhmm i see' as filler (and I really cannot stand when people do filler talk)

so my question is:
What do you think I should do in order to be more internet friend 'friendly'?

oh yeah, and thank you for all who bothered to read everything. I truly appreciate it.

social connection

contact them

mess with them

play w/ them

aim chat

phone partyyyyy

compliment others



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well, i have no connection w/ anyone because i choose not to.

yes! that's true. you can alwasys go in to the AIM chat and talk to people. most people are very friendly there.

I didn't know a lot of people from cB until I started going in the chat. That's basically how I met most of the people I know now from cB.. Um, the sandbox is another place. PM people who seem interesting to you.. Umm.. Yeah..


.. Unless you act like an idiot.

^ and yes that is very true as well!

Pm people you find interesting and strike up conversation. Get their AIM and/or myspace and communicate there. You can talk and get to know them in a way deeper level.

Go into createblog chat.

I remember you...man you must be sad..

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If you cant get friends online, You are a loser!

^ PROUD loser, thank you very much :D

I did try going in the cB chats once, but there were so many people, it was rather hectic.

But thanks for some of your input!

I never really wanted to make connections with people over the internet until recently, so that's why I'm a bit inexperienced and shy about these things

^ You should try entering the chat at different times.

Sometimes it's active sometimes it's not. But the chatroom is a pretty good way to get to know the cB members. Or even one on one IM if you're up to it.

I agree with pretty much everyone here, except for Eddie.

Go into cB's live chat.

Why does it matter so much? I'm just curious.. since it's the internet and not real life.

It's nice to have online friends.. I have many thanks to the chat! :-)
I feel that I know more people on here thanks to cb chat.

I love that chat.

i should start getting to know people too, i've been on cB for quite awhile and have yet made friends with anyone

^-- I see you around alot.
hahahahaha

Yeah, I know what you mean - I have "online" friends too, but it's not really that important to me..

aim chat

pm people

go to interests - you can talk about interests you share with other people.

i am around alot, i just don't have the courage to talk to people.
this topic will probably help me

I'll be your friend!!

Oh, & also go to cb chat. Haha.

i dont have any friendships with users either. maybe its because i dont come on cb a lot. :x

yeah I usually don't try to make internet friends because honestly, you never know if they really are who they say they are // how old they say they are .. etc. I just come on here to get my advice & go. :)

If she's made it two years without begging for friends, it must not be that big of a deal.

Also, I think people don't give the internet enough credit at the risk of sounding too nerdy or whatever. It's still really hypocritical to spend your free time online and talk to people and then decide that it's the least important thing ever when convenient. And no, to an extent, it doesn't matter, but you're still talking to real people. I've met people from here. Not to say we're great friends now, but I know they exist and aren't completely fake. Plus, I've maintained my relationship with my best friend sheerly through the internet and the occasional phone call (well, plus the two times we visited each other..but that wouldn't have been worth it if we didn't keep in touch) for over three years. I'd say that's something.

Plus, it is nice to have people to talk to who can't spread rumors or make copletely biased judgements on everything you say. I don't expect to have life-long friendships with people on here, but they're fun to talk to, and that's what counts.


Anyway, moving on.

I have never been a chat person. Cannot stand it. I've gone through a couple of (very, very short) phases where I'd go in occasionally, but it's never been that fun for me. I'm much more interesting when I'm not trying to squeeze random statements into some general conversation that may even be overlapping something else. However, I have online friends, or at least people I enjoy talking to here or on other forums. This could largely be because I talk a lot on here (hence giant post count), but I wouldn't even have that if it weren't for people I enjoy.

Essentially, you generally get noticed (in a good way) if you have a tasteful and intriguing avatar or whatever, you make intelligent comments on things, you make your opinions known so that people can either refute or agree with you, and attempt to reply to people's posts about how they share the same interests as you. I'm typically drawn towards people who make witty comments, state their opinions well, and have good taste in music, etc etc. It's all a matter of responding to people's posts and having them respond back. If you get involved with whatever cb drama happens to be going on at a particular moment, it's good to PM people about what;s going on in order to complain or something. I don't know. I'm trying to figure out what I do.
The thing about the internet is that it really is a lot easier not to feel overly shy and self concious than elsewhere, which means warming up to people a lot easier. Mostly, there's no need to hold back very much, or else no, you won't get noticed.

Meh, I understand all of that and I understand that people have long-lasting friendships over the net, but it's just not THAT important to me. Sure it's fun and all (I have quite a few net-friends), but real-life friends just have more significance for me. I don't know about other people - you're different. Is that so terrible? And by the way, people online also spread rumours and make completely biased judgements. That junk's everywhere.

Oh, no, I agree with you completely. Offline friends are quite obviously a good deal more important, and I never really went out of my way to make online friends either- it just happened. Hell, I never meant to post on cB, really. I just wanted to become an official member for the visitor logger, but I got addicted.

At the risk of contradictiing myself, I am very well aware that people spread rumors online (and of course judgements are biased, I actually just phrased that really badly and now I'm not entirely sure what I meant), but as we've established, offline things are of a far greater significance, so it bothers me a lot more to be thought of a particular way in reality, whereas here it's just funny. What i meant mainly was that I can tell someone here what's going on with me, and it stays there, but if I put it on my xanga, my friends are likely to be much more obnoxious about it.

I really just hate to see people's problems being belittled when they're actually not completely stupid.

^ Hmm, yeah.

SANDBOX.
ask people questions.
like whats your name ect.

Or you can just start a post like this and everyone will offer suggestions, then you just ask who they are, or PM them.. or... I think you know what I'm getting at.. *laughs* You just have to make yourself known... Heck I really only -talk- with one or two people on here, Hollz is my cB buddy :]

Btw, I'm Crys, obviously from my user.

I just say... do what everyone else is suggesting, play in Sandbox, or go and find someone in the Interests section, (that is, if you really don't prefer the chatroom).

You can't make friends if you don't at least put half the effort into becoming someones friend :x

Sorry if this was confusing, It's 7 AM and I haven't been to bed yet... *sly look*

I'll be your friend!

Well i could give you 2 choises of my own, one would be to go to someone and go "scuse me can i be your friend" but that ones not really the best lol. Ignore that that i said, just post things and get in contact with people... uh... i dunno just talk to people who seem intresting lol x.x

Hm, You know, I think I have the same problem as you. No matter how hard I try to get noticed, No one even cares XD!

At least I've got Hollz

Hey! i care XO

Yeah but I know you via IRL and AIM, I'm talking people I know through cB if you paid any attention :(

haha
i noticed you crystal <3

haha i remeber me and her found each other it was some kind of internet relationship or something like that and i said i had many or something along those lines and then she added me on myspace. lol.

Just find someone with a common interest as you or something you seem to relate with someone in and just give them a message.


for createblog
try going in the chat room as well.

Hmmm... the only reason I jumped on Cb was Holly... She's my girl, and more people probably know that than I can imagine by now XD....

I guess I understand how you feel about seeing people and knowing them by name... I guess I really jsut don't have the time in my life to be on Cb as much as the people who really get to know eachother... I mean, I see familiar avatars and S/N's, but I rally don't get to know anyone... The Cb chat is kind of clicky and hecktic... It's also full of young teens so I really can't see it being any different. I mean I'm 20 years old, and I really have a rather hard time getting alone with people that young (Yes, Holly may be 15, but she is rather mature for her age.). I guess I sit in the relationship section and make attempts to make people think about their problems in a way that will alow them to solve them... I know people know me, but I feel bad most of the time, becuase I have no idea who they are XD... Like when someone says, "Hey *your-name* what's up, I haven't seen you in a while", and you have no idea who they are... yeah, thats how I feel on here... >.> It's so odd that people know me by name...

P.S. wait, I just realized.... my name is right under my avatar XD LMAO

Josh, you're soo ditzy! =P

&I know your name from Hollz, and remember it by reading under your avy! xD

People 'round here ignore me anyway. At least they know you by name =P

pee ess;; love your new sig/avy :)

i'll be your friend :D, i'll redownload yahoo if i have to >_> my aim is ; itsbandee and YES, i am very bored. *hands over cookie to this new friend*

Awh, How cute. I like you! Can I have a cookie? ^

sure ^^ *gives stranger a cookie*

Yey, I have a cookie :)

BTW, I'm Crystal ^_^

Where'd the topic starter go anyway? :(

I make friends with people online by simply being me. I find someone who has something in common with me...by reading posts...looking at their page if they have one or whatever...you konw...and get to know them :)