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darkandmystical8

I'm a college student and I met this guy my second semester in one of my classes. so far I've known him for 7 months.I remember I couldn't stand him at first because he was so annoying. He was a smart ass and the class clown and he would sit next to me because his friend sat nearby. One day he started speaking to me. His first comment was towards my last name because it's the same as Dictator Fidel's...I don't think I even need to say it. And I found it funny and we created these dumb nicknames for each other and our convos consisted of witty banter. He would tease me, and I'd insult him and then it all escalated to extreme flirting. I remember the first time he made a sexual joke involving us (normally any other girl would get offended) but I found it funny and I would add on to it. He drove me crazy during a class presentation until the professor told him she'd off his head (haha, she was so funny).I enjoyed the flirting with him and he was the reason I remained awake in that class otherwise I'd die of boredom. His body language was almost too obvious, we sat next to each other so naturally we were both close, but our arms would sometimes touch and remain touching for a good amount of time and He would lean in my direction...and many other signs. But although I enjoyed flirting with him, I promised myself to not fall for guys like him.

He gave off an arrogant, cocky flirtacious air(even though from what I witnessed he only flirted with me) and I feared he was a jerk who would only want to take advantage. But unfortunately, yep, I ended up realizing I had feelings for him. He was the first guy I met who wasn't offended by my humor and actually was able to catch up with me, was clever and I felt that chemistry. There were times after class when he[font=Arial] would walk with me to the library usually to get something to eat(which is where i would normally go b/c i would be done for the day, but he would still have class) and the flirting still continued. At one point I was waiting with him in line and a classmate of ours saw us and sort of gave us this suspicious look like "Are they together?" and I quickly became less chummy. The last day of classes we had an exam and prior to the exam I was furious from an incident that occured in my last class and he asked me what was wrong and he laughed when i burst out talking quickly about how much i couldnt stand that other professor, and he tried to make me feel better by making me laugh. towards the end of the class it was he, his buddy, and I and a few other people joking around and it threw me off guard when out of nowhere he hugged me tightly and I joked about how he was suffocating me.

After the exam he had finished approximately the same time as me, but I remained to speak to the professor and he was bothering me by coming up behind me and placing his hand on my head, but i ignored him and then left whistling.gif . I remained in the hallway by making a phone call and soon after he came out and went down the staircase by me- i went down those same staircases afterwards and he was going down them with his friend and he waited for me on the last flight. Afterwards was kind of awkward. He actually seemed kind of nervous- and asked me where I was going and I told him to the library and he asked me where i lived (when i clearly told him other times when he was making a sexual joke about skipping class and going to my house for some 'fun') and I teased him about being such an idiot guy and he decided to go along with me and was like "Eh, I guess I can miss the first 15 minutes of class." While we were in the library he had recieved a voicemail and I joked it was a booty call and he mentioned it was his ex from high school(he's older than me BTW by two years).I questioned this obviously, but I didn't say anything or ask any further questions because some people like to keep their love lives private. When we were about to part i told him it was nice meeting him and that we should keep in touch and we did through email.

We spoke from the beginning of summer until present day with flirtaceous emails and whatnot, and At one point I initiated going out and he told me he wished he could but he was working all the time. I accepted it, but told him he owed me and he said I definitely owe you...but the other problem may be this. He was mentioning about having a no strings attached type of thing (jokingly or not...i'm not sure), but i told him I'm not into that stuff because of a certain incident that happ in the past and how the guy and i weren't on good terms. I guess he accepted that and we still continued talking and flirting through email. Another time I must have been stupid,but I was too honest according to my friends. I told him id take up his offer on the whole no strings attached thing and i also asked him if he was really interested in me or not. His reply was that he didn't want me to do something I was going to regret but he never said yes or no if he was interested or not. I replied something lighthearted about my hormones being loopy at times.

We still continued speaking- nothing changed from our convos and I was beginning to get turned off b/c i felt it was going nowhere. Anyone who read our convos thought they were funny although uncensored and agreed there was a lot of sexual tension between us, and at one point I invited him to a party at my house but he couldnt make it that day b/c it was his mom's bday. now I take all these signs seriously and wonder...maybe timing is off? or maybe he and i arent really compatible as it seems? _unsure.gif Ugh, I wish I knew if he was really into me or is just wasting my time....his mixed signals are driving me crazy, if anyone thinks they have an idea of wtf I'm going through now please let me know your opinions... preferably males opinion because you guys may see it differently than the girls. But girls if you've been through a similar situation don't refrain from giving advice blink.gif [/b]


-Thanks
LiSFORLiNDA
UGHH i hate when guys send us mixed signals its like do you like me yes or no, nothing hard about that...if no then you can move on instead of wasting your time [like you said]. Just be straight with him, ask him if he's into you. :)
darkandmystical8
QUOTE(STFULiNDA @ Jul 19 2006, 12:44 PM) *
UGHH i hate when guys send us mixed signals its like do you like me yes or no, nothing hard about that...if no then you can move on instead of wasting your time [like you said]. Just be straight with him, ask him if he's into you. :)



I did ask him but he never gave me an exact answer LOL He's the only guy I've met who has had this effect on me making me angry one moment, happy the next...it's almost like he has a bi polar effect one me lol
oXMuhNirvanaXo
-chivers- This reminds me of what will happen if I keep going out with the guy im dating right now. with the part when you said.. that he checked his phone and it was his ex girl from high school. I will be the whimpy one calling him every so offten to see how he is when he is out looking for a new gilr of some kind. - sigh -

Damn it
lyin_in_wait
well ask him again, tell him how you feel...he seems intrested
Uronacid
I guess he seems intrested, but... tell him how you feel... dateing and such is all about seeing what you want in a future partner... try him out XD if you like him and see him as a potential guy you could go for... try it out... I don't know... maybe the reason you are so attracted to him is because you never dated anyone like him... if so, try it out. maybe you will like him that way and maybe you won't... you may find qualities in him that you would want to a future partner. heck you may find qualities in him that you would absolutly hate in a future partner... either way you will learn something ;) there isn't any problem with giving a relationship a test drive. As long as, you guys are both on the same page. ;)
radhikaeatsraman
Hmm. He's definitely into you, but it seems like maybe he doesn't really want to date right now. Take him up on the "no strings attached" thing, but set some limits. And when you do, make sure you understand the words "NO STRINGS ATTACHED." As in, don't get attached!

After a period of time (you guys decide on it), see if you really want a relationship with him.
PrincessAda
It seems like he`s into you but he ain`t lookin` for a relationship right now.You should give it time and not rush.
darkandmystical8
QUOTE(xbabyboo @ Jul 20 2006, 12:38 AM) *
It seems like he`s into you but he ain`t lookin` for a relationship right now.You should give it time and not rush.


yeah, He has clued in that he doesn't want anything serious..but I'm not sure if he wants ANYTHING at all. Personally, I don't want anything serious at the moment. I mean I want to casually date but not a whole bunch of people because that can get dramatic sometimes. So, I like to stick to monogamous casual dating...if that makes sense lol. Plus lately I've been hearing so much Guy drama so I'm turned off by the male species right now,but if something serious ends up happening then so be it, but it has to happen naturally and without pressure. Because I can't blame him, since I'm the same way. He doesn't like to feel like he is being controlled and he thinks women are controlling (which is true in many cases), but I can understand where he's coming from because I enjoy my independence as well and can't stand it when others try and tell me what to do.
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