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forgetfuldory
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hey yall i just wanted to post that my heart has been broken but not as much as its now, omigosh telll me why yesterday the boy i loved for hella long told me that he only sees me as his sis and nothing more. i felt like nothing.. i wanted to cuss him out i swear, but as much as i try to forget him i cant, cause i now i love him. i known him since like forever, i mean we been together since the 1st grade, right. well anyways he is going out with a girl that went out with his best friend, and that same girl cheated on his best friend. so he is going out with her in secret, i hate is a** but i now i love him, he is my baby, but to him i am his little sis, but i dont wanna be his lil sis. he knows how i feel but he says that he cant love me, its otay if he cnat love me the same way i love him, i just wished he didnt see me as a sis and that he wasnt going out with that girl, someone please help...what can i do sad.gif
LiNHy POO
im sorry for your broken heart... but yeh guys are like that.. well you juss have to accept his choice.. i mean you cant make him love you the way you want him to... he'll be miserable.. and maybe you too.. try to clear your head up.. do different things and try to talk to him about it... hope i could help!
Pyr0Penguin
yeah i've been in the same situation .. but as time goes on .. it'll get better and you might just stop thinking about him that way and just think of him as a bro and hopefully by then you guys will be closer than ever
dani41790
awww im sooooo srry about that. well if u realli love hym alot mayb u shouldnt give up on him, either that or try n move on
angel-roh
QUOTE(forgetfuldory @ May 25 2004, 5:17 PM)
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hey yall i just wanted to post that my heart has been broken but not as much as its now, omigosh telll me why yesterday the boy i loved for hella long told me that he only sees me as his sis and nothing more. i felt like nothing.. i wanted to cuss him out i swear, but as much as i try to forget him i cant, cause i now i love him. i known him since like forever, i mean we been together since the 1st grade, right. well anyways he is going out with a girl that went out with his best friend, and that same girl cheated on his best friend. so he is going out with her in secret, i hate is a** but i now i love him, he is my baby, but to him i am his little sis, but i dont wanna be his lil sis. he knows how i feel but he says that he cant love me, its otay if he cnat love me the same way i love him, i just wished he didnt see me as a sis and that he wasnt going out with that girl, someone please help...what can i do sad.gif

well i can tell u tell him to dump his girl.... thats mean so dont go for that... man... i feel bad for u cus u've been with him almost wow since 1st grade!! heh...well i guess u can tell him that "i dont want to be ur lil sis, i want u to be like a close friend but nothing to do with lil sis like a good, close friend" something like that... and tell him how u feel wen he calls u lil sis...k?
liSSa_x0
this kinda sounds like something that could be happening to me...i love my best friend. i've loved him for over a year, i guess you could call it on and off, but more like conciously and subconciously. we've said to eachother before "you're like a sister to me"/"you're like a brother to me", so that's probably how he thinks of me. as his sister but nothing else. and that's killing me..i haven't actually told him yet but he knows. i dunno if he knows i know he knows though...so once i tell him then i'll know that he knows that i know that he knows (confusing lol). blahhh.
franceass
I guess only time can tell if you two were really meant for each other. You said that you loved him so I guess all you can do is to try to be patient with him. Maybe he only sees you as a "sis" right now but later on ... he may change his mind? Who knows? I guess for now, maybe it would be best to develop a better "friends" relationship with him and try to be there for him when he needs you ... you never know if he may someday have a change in heart ... Just follow your heart and do what is best for the both of you ...
blah3868
aaaawww im srry fo u
conster
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franceass Posted on May 26 2004, 3:25 PM
  I guess only time can tell if you two were really meant for each other. You said that you loved him so I guess all you can do is to try to be patient with him. Maybe he only sees you as a "sis" right now but later on ... he may change his mind? Who knows? I guess for now, maybe it would be best to develop a better "friends" relationship with him and try to be there for him when he needs you ... you never know if he may someday have a change in heart ... Just follow your heart and do what is best for the both of you ... 


yup i agree
ComradeRed
QUOTE(forgetfuldory @ May 25 2004, 7:17 PM)
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hey yall i just wanted to post that my heart has been broken but not as much as its now, omigosh telll me why yesterday the boy i loved for hella long told me that he only sees me as his sis and nothing more. i felt like nothing.. i wanted to cuss him out i swear, but as much as i try to forget him i cant, cause i now i love him. i known him since like forever, i mean we been together since the 1st grade, right. well anyways he is going out with a girl that went out with his best friend, and that same girl cheated on his best friend. so he is going out with her in secret, i hate is a** but i now i love him, he is my baby, but to him i am his little sis, but i dont wanna be his lil sis. he knows how i feel but he says that he cant love me, its otay if he cnat love me the same way i love him, i just wished he didnt see me as a sis and that he wasnt going out with that girl, someone please help...what can i do sad.gif

Maybe he's into that incesty stuff.
illuminessence
There's nothing you can do. He seems to want something different other than you. It's not completely horrible that he sees you as a sis. At least you know he doesn't hurt you intentionally. The fact that he is going out with his best friend's ex girl who cheated on him is pretty dumb of him, but my advice is to move on. You can wait and hope he'd change his mind, but I don't recommend it. ermm.gif
ComradeRed
Smite him like the Enemy of Allah he is.
illuminessence
QUOTE(ComradeRed @ May 26 2004, 7:24 PM)
Smite him like the Enemy of Allah he is.

lol i like this kid. rolleyes.gif
silver kiss
"only see u as sis" whistling.gif this is such an old and lame excuse
illuminessence
QUOTE(silver kiss @ May 26 2004, 9:25 PM)
"only see u as sis" whistling.gif this is such an old and lame excuse

I don't think it is. Maybe it is how he really sees her. It's understandable. I have a bunch of guy friends I see as my pack of brothers and they see me as their lil sis. It's not unusual. It's actually very common.
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