Can a guy and a girl be close friends without making it something more? Ya know, can a guy and a girl be close friends without one liking the other, or both liking each other, and turning that into a relationship?
...because from what I've seen at school so far, all close guy-girl friendship turns into relationships...so just wondering.
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I think it's a bit difficult to maintain, but it's definitely possible. But I understand what you mean; a LOT of my close guy/girl friends have turned into something more.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
yea..
If both allow it to stay on a friendship level.
of course some say
No matter what a guy and girl are going to end up liking each other.
could be at the right time, and possibly at the completely wrong time, but no matter what they are never only friends.
But yes I think a guy and girl can stay only friends. I'm sure its hard. But even if one falls for the other they don't always end up in a relationship because everyone is so afraid of these stupid things. Such as.. I don't want our friendship to end if we do get in a relationship. blah blah blah
If both allow it to stay on a friendship level.
of course some say
No matter what a guy and girl are going to end up liking each other.
could be at the right time, and possibly at the completely wrong time, but no matter what they are never only friends.
But yes I think a guy and girl can stay only friends. I'm sure its hard. But even if one falls for the other they don't always end up in a relationship because everyone is so afraid of these stupid things. Such as.. I don't want our friendship to end if we do get in a relationship. blah blah blah
I don't think a guy and a girl being close friends is the only thing that will happen. Unless the guy is gay or vice versa. Spending a lot of time cause other peopel to think the guy and girl have soem sort of relationship. & You know peopel keep askign and then feeligns develop. That's just one of the ways how guys and girls cant' just be friends. Cause i know lol ..
Yeah soemtiems it does jsut come naturally too. :]
QUOTE(gigiopolis @ Jun 3 2006, 4:37 PM) 
I think it's a bit difficult to maintain, but it's definitely possible. But I understand what you mean; a LOT of my close guy/girl friends have turned into something more.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
Yeah soemtiems it does jsut come naturally too. :]
one of my best friends is a girl. we hang out every day and she is like a sister to me. on the other hand, one of my other best friends is a girl and weve been dating off and on for awhile
^^ I sort of agree with above..Sometimes people see their best girl/guy friend as like a brother or sister.But I met like 80% of guys who have friends with girls had some sort of feeling for them.
^ yes, unfortunately so
ill tell you right now... its diffifult, its just as much work as a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. exept you have to work at not lettting it get that way... the best thing you can do is take break from eachother when you start to see those feelings develope
A guy told me that if the girl is really ugly, she'll have guy friends who will be just her friends. I'd wish that I was really ugly but I'm too vain.
I can't do the just friends thing with guys. I'm sure lots of girls can but I'm one that can't. It's either I like them or they like me. Guys never want to be just friends with me. I hate it, sure I like to feel wanted and when guys like me, I feel attractive...but at the end of the day, I'd rather have a friend than an admirer.
I can't do the just friends thing with guys. I'm sure lots of girls can but I'm one that can't. It's either I like them or they like me. Guys never want to be just friends with me. I hate it, sure I like to feel wanted and when guys like me, I feel attractive...but at the end of the day, I'd rather have a friend than an admirer.
the guy girl friends thing is hard for me too... it seems like things always get messed up... youreally have to live and learn
Of course. It's just harder, for some reason.
I have a few good friendship's with guys. But they know that I don't want to be in any relationship and they respect me for that, so it works out fine with me.
QUOTE(gigiopolis @ Jun 3 2006, 7:37 PM)
I think it's a bit difficult to maintain, but it's definitely possible. But I understand what you mean; a LOT of my close guy/girl friends have turned into something more.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
When two people spend a lot of time together, talking about their deepest secrets and entrusting everything with that person, it's hard for feelings to not develop. Usually they come naturally.
i think shes completely correct!! its tru...i have 2 very close guy friends...one of them i was friends with for a lil over a yr and now its turning into a more serious relationship....the other one i've known for 6 years...we were just friends for like 5 yrs and now were getting closer and i think hes getting feelings for me but im not reciprocating but the feelings ARE there
it's almost impossible for me to like a guy friend. i dunno, i somehow and for some reason always keep things strictly friend-like. for me, i'd say yes it's possible.
Yeah a guy and a girl can be close friends without being anything more....unless they both have more then that "just friends" feelings for eachother....i mean i do it all the time i have like 2 really good guy friends and there is nothing more than just being close friends so yeah of course....but it depends who you are....
most definitely.
seeing as how i go to a school, where the girl to guy ratio is 3:1, most of my friends in school are girls. and a few of them are really close friends to me. especially one of them, i call her my sister, cause we're always there for each other. it's possible yeah, not too difficult.
seeing as how i go to a school, where the girl to guy ratio is 3:1, most of my friends in school are girls. and a few of them are really close friends to me. especially one of them, i call her my sister, cause we're always there for each other. it's possible yeah, not too difficult.
QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 3 2006, 5:16 PM)
yea..
If both allow it to stay on a friendship level.
of course some say
No matter what a guy and girl are going to end up liking each other.
could be at the right time, and possibly at the completely wrong time, but no matter what they are never only friends.
But yes I think a guy and girl can stay only friends. I'm sure its hard. But even if one falls for the other they don't always end up in a relationship because everyone is so afraid of these stupid things. Such as.. I don't want our friendship to end if we do get in a relationship. blah blah blah
If both allow it to stay on a friendship level.
of course some say
No matter what a guy and girl are going to end up liking each other.
could be at the right time, and possibly at the completely wrong time, but no matter what they are never only friends.
But yes I think a guy and girl can stay only friends. I'm sure its hard. But even if one falls for the other they don't always end up in a relationship because everyone is so afraid of these stupid things. Such as.. I don't want our friendship to end if we do get in a relationship. blah blah blah
Yes.. so true.
I have 2 best guy friends. One is a year younger than me because he skipped a grade, so i consider him my little brother. I would never have feelings for him. On the other hand, I've have feelings for my other guy friend and we were dating for a while. After we stopped, we agreed not to do that again and our relationship got kinda strained. Now it's ok but it's not as it used to be.
When a guy and a girl are friends it's easy to just be friends but when it's bestfriends or good friends it gets harder. You hang out more and then it gets harder.
i have close guyfriends, as long as u both mutally know that ur not interested that way and keep making it clear. Like sometimes if they start joking in a certain way I slip in "hey we're just friends". I love them tho, they end up kinda like brothers to me.
Im pretty good friends with my ex crush, all feelings gone, and my other ones i never had feelings for. Its very tricky tho...and different for every person. Somtimes I'm too good a friend to my crushes, and the status sorta ends up being stuck on "friends". but that can also be nice if u really like them cuz u they'll be in ur life as a friend much longer and there's a possibility of a future relationship? well thats my justification anyways...
I'm gonna have to fess up sometimes tho... 
Im pretty good friends with my ex crush, all feelings gone, and my other ones i never had feelings for. Its very tricky tho...and different for every person. Somtimes I'm too good a friend to my crushes, and the status sorta ends up being stuck on "friends". but that can also be nice if u really like them cuz u they'll be in ur life as a friend much longer and there's a possibility of a future relationship? well thats my justification anyways...
I'm gonna have to fess up sometimes tho...
its possible. I have two close female friends that I know for about 13 years. :) however its harder to hang out with each other now. Im in the military, one is off to college and the other one is graduating from highschool in 07.
Relationships only work when both people have mutual feelings: either they both just want to be friends, or they both want to be something more. They become problematic when the feelings are lopsided.
I think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be close friends, but a lot of times it doesn't happen like that in middle school and high school. During those years, guys and girls often only talk to members of the opposite sex because they are at least a bit attracted, a feeling sure to be amplified when they become close.
So I think it's certainly possible, but it's very, very rare in middle- and high school.
I think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be close friends, but a lot of times it doesn't happen like that in middle school and high school. During those years, guys and girls often only talk to members of the opposite sex because they are at least a bit attracted, a feeling sure to be amplified when they become close.
So I think it's certainly possible, but it's very, very rare in middle- and high school.
Yes, it's possible. One of my best best best friends is male. He's been my best friend for almost two years, and it has never even leaned towards a relationship. I guess it depends on the people. I know he really cares about me, and he's done so much for me. And I care about him too.. He's actually probably the only person I feel 100% comfortable with.
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Of course it's possible. In middle school, obviously it's tough considering the pressure from other people who say that you're going out and all. But one of my best friends is a guy, and it's strictly platonic. We've both been through a lot of similar experiences and share a lot of opinions, so we have a lot in common. I don't have any feelings for him, but he's still a great guy. He truly is my best guy friend.
I think it's nearly impossible...unless one of the two is gay/lesbian. Because if you begin to be REALLY good friends you obviously think that person is a really great person. & at one point hormones will kick in & ONE if not both of the two people will think they have or actually have feelings for the other person. & i mean u love your friends & learning how to respond to the other person makes a relationship seem worthy.
That is deffinately very possible.
I've been close friends with guys before and it hasnt turned into anything else.
I've been close friends with guys before and it hasnt turned into anything else.
I have A LOT of close guys friends, but someone always end up liking liking the other person or something like that. But i also have two close guys friends that is nothing more.. but one of them was my ex. but we`re cool now. we`re more like brother and sister kinda thing..
QUOTE(StanleyThePanda @ Jun 5 2006, 11:03 AM)
That is deffinately very possible.
I've been close friends with guys before and it hasnt turned into anything else.
I've been close friends with guys before and it hasnt turned into anything else.
yea same.
yay some quoted me and completely agreed.
From all your responses, it seems that all of you agree that a guy and a girl can be close friends without turning it into something more...but I have one more question for you guys:
What do you do to keep the friendship as close friends and nothing more?
What do you do to keep the friendship as close friends and nothing more?
You only stay on a friend level. Not everyone does get along good enough to be in a actual relationship and both agree upon that. Some as well are to worried about losing the friendship if they do get in a relationship. Really its a matter if both parties can keep it at a friend level and if one does grow some kind of feeling for the other then you need to talk about it.
I THINK ITS POSSIBLE.
because im one of those people. my best guy friend is not what i look for in a relationship. no thanks. hehehe. and we've been friends for 9 years.
but i also have another guy friend. i spent a lot of time with him also and i like him..
it just depends.
because im one of those people. my best guy friend is not what i look for in a relationship. no thanks. hehehe. and we've been friends for 9 years.
but i also have another guy friend. i spent a lot of time with him also and i like him..
it just depends.
QUOTE(SimplicityGirl @ Jun 9 2006, 10:40 PM)
What do you do to keep the friendship as close friends and nothing more?
You can't really do anything. Either it stays friends, or one person starts to want it to be something more.
Yesssss!
I'm close with tons of guys at my school, especially with my "brother". We've known each other for 7 years, so yeah. Really tight friends =)
I'm close with tons of guys at my school, especially with my "brother". We've known each other for 7 years, so yeah. Really tight friends =)
QUOTE(AzNxBaBi @ Jun 3 2006, 7:19 PM)
I don't think a guy and a girl being close friends is the only thing that will happen. Unless the guy is gay or vice versa. Spending a lot of time cause other peopel to think the guy and girl have soem sort of relationship. & You know peopel keep askign and then feeligns develop. That's just one of the ways how guys and girls cant' just be friends. Cause i know lol ..
Yeah soemtiems it does jsut come naturally too. :]
Yeah soemtiems it does jsut come naturally too. :]
I disagree.i mean im 100% straight and my best friend for life is a girl.And the girl who i used to like,me and her are still close friends.
of course it is possible for a guy and a girl to be close friends...
Of course it's possible. It's possible to love your best guy/girl friend as JUST a friend and not anymore than that.
I think that a guy and a girl can be close friends...but its so hard not to flirt...But I have close guy friend and yer we flirt sometimes but Were good mates and were really close friends!
of course it's possible.
at least I think it is. =/
I have about ten close/best guy friends, and I have never ever liked a single one. Actually, maybe three or four of them have liked me at some point or still like me, but they also respect the fact that I have a boyfriend that I love. (except my bf and I were never close friends).
But I think it's hard to keep it at a 'close friendship' level if feelings do develop, because you can't really stop a heart. I still act normally around my close friends that I know like me as more than a friend, but I can tell it's uncomfortable for them since they know I won't like them back.
at least I think it is. =/
I have about ten close/best guy friends, and I have never ever liked a single one. Actually, maybe three or four of them have liked me at some point or still like me, but they also respect the fact that I have a boyfriend that I love. (except my bf and I were never close friends).
But I think it's hard to keep it at a 'close friendship' level if feelings do develop, because you can't really stop a heart. I still act normally around my close friends that I know like me as more than a friend, but I can tell it's uncomfortable for them since they know I won't like them back.
Yes, if you can keep it that way.
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..lol...yea its totally cool
2 be real good friends wit
the opposite sex...
..lol...yea its totally cool
2 be real good friends wit
the opposite sex...
I think you can be close friends.
I have alot of guy friends that i'm really close with, and we're JUST FRIENDS!
So i definitely think its possible. But if something does start to happen between that guy and girl, then it'll happen.
If one doesn't want it to, they just have to be clear with the other. If they are good friends, the other person should respect that.
-Mel
I have alot of guy friends that i'm really close with, and we're JUST FRIENDS!
So i definitely think its possible. But if something does start to happen between that guy and girl, then it'll happen.
If one doesn't want it to, they just have to be clear with the other. If they are good friends, the other person should respect that.
-Mel
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