this isn't about me... it's about a friend

she's been going out with this guy for 2 years... he's a senior, she's a freshman. everytime i see them together, she's never smiling and she never looks happy. he doesn't let her hug, talk, or be near guys and restricts her to a lot of things. so during this year, she started getting interested in this other guy (a sophomore), and everytime i see them together, she's always smiling and she's so happy. it was obvious that they liked each other, but she didn't want to hurt her 2=year boyfriend. then... one day, at her birthday party, all she did was dance with the sophomore guy she liked... and her senior boyfriend started crying and broke up with her.

she decided she wanted to wait a little while after they were broken up before going out with the sophomore guy, so her old boyfriend wouldn't get hurt. but... she ended up going to prom with the senior guy, and she still acts like they're actually "together". so... her sophomore guy hears this rumor about how the senior guy and her were making out and he gets angry. she gets upset at him for being angry, because they weren't even going out yet... and she also said the rumors were lies.

now, she's fighting with both of them and doesn't know which one to chose. she says she doesn't want either of them anymore, but i know that inside,... she needs the sophomore. you can see it... whenever they're together, its like noone else in the world matters. i think if she keeps up this stubbornness, though, and keeps playing around with BOTH the guys.. she'll end up hurting herself AND the guys.

she's asking for help with this... and i don't know what to tell her. i tried telling her to try to consider what both the guys are thinking, but it just gets her upset.
any suggestions?


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definately go with the sophmore guy!! jeez, firstly, the senior guy will be off to college soon. so byebye senior guy. second, the senior guy was going to break upwith ehr JUST cause she danced with the sophmore one? Jeezz... doesnt that sound a bit... selfish>? i would at elast hear an explanation.

Go with the person your comfortable and most happy with just my thought. anyways you shouldn't have to stay in a relationship what ur unhappy in, its unethical.

i think she should choose the sophmore guy. . but then again. .thats my opinion

well... i think that she should go with the sophomore guy.. he seems nicer.. but then again.. he doesn't trust her. he got jealous and mad right away...!
maybe it's not his fault, though, because he's only been with her for a while, right...?

She should drop both and wait a year or two before attempting again, she obviously can't handle relationships.

And you said she doesn't like either guy now, right? Case closed.

i think she should choose who she feels happier and more comfortable around. if the senior guy is always restricting her to who to hang out with and which guys to talk to then he's definitely got some issues--he's probably jealous or something and wants her to himself.
personally i think she should go with the sophomore because she's happier around him, but i wouldn't blame him (sophomore) for being mad cus he probably thought the rumors were true since she DID go with him to senior prom again AFTEr they broke up...

ditto (to post above me). i think she should go with the sophomore guy. personally, if i guy restricts you on anything that you should break up with him.

your life. you only get to live it once. why let other people control it?

The senior guy sounds like a cocky lil bastard to me. She should choose the sophomore. I don't even understand why she puts up with the senior. He treats her like shit. She should follow her heart instead of her mind and go with whoever makes her happy, and that is obviously the sophomore.