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My Cinderella.
Would you ever risk the chance of ruining a great friendship for a guy/girl. Why or why not?
SimplicityGirl
Depends on a number of factors really. How long have you known your best friend? If it's a best friend, I'm assuming it's a long time friendship. Second, how badly do you really want this guy/girl? Like, do you see you and them in the future in a long term relationship? Or is it just a fling? Or do you just want the guy/girl so that your friend can't have him/her? There's a saying that goes "You want what you can't have" so is it that your friend likes this guy/girl that you want them?

Generally, I'd say it's a bad idea to risk a great friendship over something as trivial as a guy/girl. Friends can last for life, while relationship can be blown apart as fast as they got together. Think about it. Do you wanna lose a friend for life over a relationship that may only last two months? Think about it.

Though perhaps I'm not the best person to answer this. Recently me and this girl stopped being friends because the guy that she likes happened to spend more time with me and she thinks that I'm taking him away from her. And what ended up happening was us braking it off with each other and the guy spending more time with me. But I'm not saying that's gonna be the case for every time. My case was just...really off and weird to begin with, so you shouldn't take that as advice or anything. Me and the guy are getting along just fine and he's acting like the girl that I stopped being friends with doesn't exist...well lately he's been ignoring her. But again, I'm not saying that's gonna be the case.

So take thing sinto consideration. Do you really wanna ruin a friendship over a guy that probably won't be all that important in your future?
SarahxJoy
^I agree.

Every situation is pretty much diverse, and so you'd have to consider the possible outcomes of your actions.

I voted for "Depends".
PrincessAda
^^I agree with the top 2 posts..depends..
alcohol_bandages
QUOTE(My Cinderella. @ May 10 2006, 5:52 PM) *
Would you ever risk the chance of ruining a great friendship for a guy/girl. Why or why not?


depends I guess....
icecoldtears1234
i wouldnt necessarily fight over who gets the guy, but if it has something to do with who the person decides to go out with and weather its a good thing or not then yea
*Hinata*
The guy would have to be pretty darn important for me to fight with a friend over him. But NEVER with my best friend. Nothing gets in between us.
BryMonster

My bestfriend, my brother, my twin, my life,
once told me, "Bros before hoes" and this
was after we got into a huge fight about one
girl. Now I abide by it, and I stay away from
fighting. I'd probably fight a friend verbally
or physically if I thought that one of them
wasn't right for the other.
TAiNTEDxMEMORiES
Been there, done that, lost. They date now. And we're still friends. But she rubs it in every f**king day... It was my best friend too. ><
silver-rain
It really depends on how well I know the guy, and if he likes me back, and how close my friend is. But I guess I wouldn't fight for a guy unless I really felt something with him and he also liked me back as well.
Intoxique
QUOTE(robb0 @ May 10 2006, 6:05 PM) *
A friend? Sure. Best friend? Never.
Ditto.
Last year my friend & I liked the same guy, we made the guy choose ermm.gif. The guy chose me. I felt really bad at first, eventually she got over it so it worked out _smile.gif.
Uronacid
no way! bro's b4 hoes!!!!!!! thats so gay, epople who fight over boys/girls are so immature... f**k everyone who has ever done this with their best friend...
mipadi
No, but I don't see that happening—he and I go for different types of girls. But it's not worth fighting over. Besides, girls aren't possessions to fight over. They have their own feelings and opinions, too.
This Confession
no

Friends are always going to be there
when the guy breaks up with you for something supposedly better.

hah.
no really
I wouldn't ever fight with any of my friends over some guy
When i was in school
i use to end up liking some guy that no one else did
and then once people found out i liked him a ton of people
started liking him..
So i would just made myself stop liking the guy..
So i wouldn't get in some immature fight over some guy.

But i wouldn't really try that anyone..
then you start to change yourself
into not showing your feelings all that much..
mellow.gif
Uronacid
QUOTE(This Confession @ May 12 2006, 3:12 AM) *
into not showing your feelings all that much..
mellow.gif


yeah dont ever do that
console.gif awwwwwww its ok XD *wisper* "don't cry" shifty.gif
seremela_culnamo
It really depends on the situation..

If we both happen to like him, we wouldn't fight. There might be misunderstandings (i.e. one not flirting with him, but it seems like so, even if we agreed none of us can be with him), but we wouldn't actually fight over a guy.

However, if it's the case where one of us liked this guy for a really long time and the other didn't, then a fight with grudges that will be held will only happen if the other starts liking him again. It's not wrong to like someone, but it's not nice if the other best friend starts liking him, and starts dating him behind her best friend's back.

It has happened to me. With a really good friend of mines and just a good friend of mines back in grade 7. Us three liked the same guy, but we didn't fight or anything. I felt horrible though. I remember the moment at the dance. People asked him if he wanted to dance with me and he said he would love to, and that he was waiting for me to be around him. After all, I was extremely shy and stayed as far as possible away from him (across the other side of the gym!). Anyway, I never danced with him and the other two girls did. My really good friend brought me out afterwards, and asked me if I was okay. That even though she liked him, it didn't matter because I liked him, too. That I should've slowed dance with him and whatnot. But she was supportive and such. It was still horrible. I hate myself for being so shy (& still am!) and I can't do anything about it.

Otherwise, no. Everyone is free to like someone else and it cannot be stopped.
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