I'm just looking for a logical explanation here.
There's a lot of girls at my school, that have
extremely really low self esteems. These girls
are gorgeous. Most of them are my friends,
and they are always putting themselves down.
Why is it that girls have low self esteems? Do
you think it can be attention-wise?

I've seen a ton of pretty girls get out of good
relationships because they have bad thoughts,
about themselves. Wtf, mate.

Any ideas?

Hmm... I'm not really sure. Maybe one of the reasons is that these girls had experienced something that led them to what they feel about themselves now. For example, my friends say that I'm really pretty, and that I'm quite the heartthrob in school. I found it extremely hard to believe them because this guy, who I really like that time, said I'm ugly. His opinion mattered so much that I didn't believe anybody who gave me compliments. So yeah... I'm over it.

thats how i feel. because all my friends are damn liars. Ihave all these girl friends who were like size 1-6 and here i am a 14, and theyre like OMG i SOOOO wish I looked like you you are SOOOO not fat and you are sOOOO beautiful. But they were the ones getting guys. Not me cuz i was too fat. damn them for lying. and the more people said it the less i believed it, because it just felt like some fake ass pity party. I'm so glad im not in high school anymore.

Some of them want to look like the models/stars they see in magazines. Which is ridiculous in my opinion. But we can't do anything.. the media has f*cked up our society COMPLETELY. And to add to that, most of what people see in magazines isn't even REAL.

Some fish for compliments, which isn't as bad as the above, but if it gets excessive, it gets annoying.

And some just really think they're "ugly".

But no one is ugly.

Taylor``

insecurity I guess?

^yep

i think its just how they think and who they are... they are extrememly worried about being perfect... also, sometimes they pretend to be insecure just to get attention... many times guys are just bad at paying attention. So, many girls will goto extreme messures just to get it.

blame it on magazines and pornography.

^yea you can blame them if you want
or be a bigger person and only blame yourself
for thinking so low of yourself.

eh i'll have to finish this later...

I can't say much because I hate myself and I have no self-esteem or confidence. Zero. Nada.

& getting out of relationships, sometimes it's something personal and it's an excuse. Or some girls, from some that I have seen in school, don't think they are good enough.

I have good days and bad days. On good days, I can look at myself and be like, "damn I look good." But that really gets to my head because I'll go walking down the street looking at other girls thinking, "don't you wish you looked like me?"

On my off days I'm just really insecure. Those days just happen, I'll wake up and feel crappy. I'll think that I look like sh*t and try on everything I own and still be unhappy with the way I look. Some guy will try to hit on me but I'll get pissed for some reason and just get even more discouraged when I see a girl with a better body than mine...meaning my size yet well endowed. I am very not well endowed and that is the root of my insecurity. The rest of me is fine but I just wish I could fill out something, anything well.

I don't wear make up or wear padded bras or whatever because I'm really into the whole natural beauty thing. When guys hit on me, it reassures me that guys appreciate the real me...but with this plastic surgery thing growing, I'm not so sure if it will last. The guys I've dated told me that they didn't care but I just don't believe them. In my mind it's like, "How can you not care? Breasts are what make women, women."

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You may think that someone is gorgeous but that person won't think so or maybe that person is having an off day.

Hmm...I think it's just mainly because girls like that don't know their own individualism. It's about not know what they want or who they want to be. I think that's a factor to having low self esteem. Hmmm...I hope I made sense.

Self-satisfaction in appearance is very hard to find for some girls, or anyone for that matter. Although you may see this beautiful girl, when she looks in the mirror, she could see someone as totally the opposite. Really it's all in the mind, and it's sad that a lot of girls don't appreciate what they have or who they are enough to realize that they don't have to fit society's ideal image of a perfect woman, and that being content with yourself is enough.

The media has pretti much set out the rule of whats perfect and whats not in our society....................

Whenever I see a pretty girl, I look at myself and am like "i'm.... flat chested.......... and ugly..... *sob sob*... nobody would want me...."

*SIGH..................*

I do so much to tone up my body....... i lose weight but don't see any results........ its freakin weird.... some girls don't need to do anything and they're just so damn pretty and have such a good figure.... >_< genes.....................

i personnally blame magazines and the media
so many girls want to look like a model and think thhat if they don't look like the girls in the magazines they consider themselves to be ugly which is crap b/c alot of girls and women have sooooo much more going for them and they sell themselves short and that's just wrong

i know as i was growing up alot of my friends used to drink and sleep around b/c they had no respect for themselves and told themselves that they'd never get any better and the guys they selpt with seeemed to pick up on that and play into it

they made it sound like they were doing these girls a favour
they weren't adn these girls werne't doing themselves any favourss either

don't ever sell yourself short ok

if you don't like a guy don't talk to him exept to politely tell him you're not interedted

no need to be rude to a guy just b/c you're not interested that'll just make it worse

but don't feel you owe him anything either

dee xxoo

Moods change..Sometimes people ruin someone`s day and that person is mean for the rest of the day.

i read somewhere that however beautiful a girl may be, she'd still think the opposite... or somewhere around those lines.

well a lot of factors contribute to low self-esteem,

snobby jealous girls, the media, stupid boys, puberty as in you were once cute and then puberty hit and you became opposite, and lack of attention.

i'm not sure. maybe they strive to look like the people in magazines --;
but its really annoying when they go like 'omgz im so fat!!11' when they're friggin skinny.

wait you're complaining?

insecure girls are easy to pick up.

and rather annoying.

and clingy.

and such.

okay, complain away.

It's mostly insecurity. There should be a little bit of it in every girl. I guess it's hard for the girl to see how she really is.

wel, i think its because theyre not .."hot." most guy are stupid and go for the "hot" girls. your friends may not have random guys go up to them at movie theaters or malls asking them if they want give them their phone number.

i deffinitly am not attracted to what most people would consider picture perfect hot girls... people like that turn me right the hell off... i tend too look at them and automaticly judge them because most of the "hot" chicks i see have shit personalities.... i need somone with a personality, and thats why i have my sunshine :) don't get me wrong tho, shes prettiful too

Define "hot" for me, will you?

Taylor``

yeah, taylor, its sounds like she's a little jealous of these "hot" chicks if you ask me... O_o

I don't know.. but I'm damn curious.

Taylor``

dun dun dun....

I don't know what's up with that.

That's a great description of me though. My friends, & even people who aren't my friends tell me I'm pretty all the time, but I honestly think I'm the biggest piece of crap looking thing out there. I think one of the biggest problems is that I look at myself too much. I need to make sure there isn't anything on or wrong with my face all the time, & I have a skin disorder that shows on my face so I'm really insecure.. it's just how I am.

i have low self esteem..i think alot of people do. part of being a girl