ok...so i have a friend...and like...her and her bf have been goin out fer 3 months.... they rarely get to see eachother but its ok because they love eachother right?and thas all that matters but outa tha blue...he str8 break ups with her...and he's all like...'tha long distance thing isnt werking for me' omigosh!!if he really LOVED her like he sed he did...that wouldnt matter would it?! come on pplz....ya gotta give me some luvin....=] atleast tell mehh if im rite or wrong omigosh...seriously...when my friend told me they broke up...i cryed....they were so0o0o cute together!!!!

this happened with my friend too!!! but i dont really think he loved her... i know she did! she was crying in math today cuz of him!

Ugh. Why do people do that? People are just so...incompetent, and don't quite comprehend what you're saying to someone when they say those three little words. Hey - no matter how little they are, they still mean a whole lot.

I remember my ex used to tell me he loved me. Hah. Then he cheated on me. I told him I loved him as well, because I really liked him. Anyways, I learned my lesson after that...whenever I'm going out with someone, I'll wait before I say it. Heh. My last boyfriend, we went out for three months and we spent a lot of time together...I didn't love him, and I knew it, so I didn't say it.

i agree..he shouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it..my boyyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year and i live in san francisco and he lives in san diego and we love each other..but also..that word gets thrown around SO MUCH..people think they are in love when it is realli infatuation or lust..

i agree with everybody. he shouldnt have said he loved her if he didnt mean it. ive only ever said i love you to one person. its not something to just throw around. yeah...

hey, i am the person who lilxl0ser was talking about in this topic. All of this actually just happened recently. he told me he loved me and that he never wanted to let me go. i mean isn't it ironic that he broke up with me when he told me never to let him go????

lols!!!!!yea...i getchu...but i have a thing with ppl...they just cant cry for long when im arounds!!!lols!!isnt that rite coley?!?!?!=] ehhehehe but omigosh!!!why would someone sey they love you but not mean it!!!how can anyone be so cruel!?!??!?!

rite how could they be so mean?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??! o well like about twenty thousand other ppl have told me, there are plenty of other fish in the sea....but i want the wun i had!!! haha

lols...cOLeyyyyyy i myss jOsHeEeee =[ ......my sich isnt as bad as yurs though huh.....anywho...he prolly dont even care no more...gee i wish i never met him!!!ok i take that back....he's awesome....but he dont kno that i think that....har har har...suckerss....;] lols........i am not tha type of person tah love nah mean?!?! im juz suppose to be....blacksheep...outkast...'tha single one' lols...=]

He didn't love her. I learned my lesson with those words. You have to trust the right people and be sure there feeling the same way. Took me a while to believe my boyfriend..we've been going out for a little over 7 months..but I rarely say it because I'm afraid of what will happen in the end..So

He didn't really love her. He was just wanting some..another thing I learned..sometimes guys will say they love you for some BoOtY!

My opnion and not all guys are like that

-Illusion-

AWw thank you Quyennie. I think he may have been FOND of me or just couldn't make a damn decision for himself but...it's all good

i dont get wutchu thanking me about but thanks yu!!!!yur a doll...;] coley...i think yur tha strongest person on earth....im sho proud of you...it took me FOREVER to get over josh [as yu've prolly noticed] lols!!yur awesome...and i heart ya!;]

thank you for everything is what i mean!!! ur the best

lols!!!i am tha bomb!!!i just sed i didnt LOVE josé i only LIKED him!!!which is so totally true!!!see!!!!if I can do et!!why cant them stupid guys do it!!!!omigosh!!!!see i dont throw tha werd around like its a bunch ov rubbish!!!!lols....anywho...yur so welcome coley...after all yu've done a whole lot more for me then me to you....x]

i think its so much freakinq bullshit when people say they love each other when clearly, they don`t, you know? i mean, i`ve said i loved quys a lot in the past, but that was back in what? middle school? screw that haha.. buti can truly say that i love/d someone. i hate it when couples JUST qet toqether and they`re like.. "i LOVE YOU BABY" nd all this other shit. they really need to just shut the fudge up. but anywho, if you don`t really feel/mean it when someone says that they love you, talk it throuqh with them. or that you like them a lot but you don`t love them .. yet? haha

I dont know.. I think the problem is, that as teenagers, we're not completely sure what love is, and may perceive a crush or infatuation as "love", and yeah.. then the word and the meaning get all mangled and abused.. i mean.. love.. is just so ambiguous, how can one tell if its realli love or not? there's a lot of confusion involved..

yeah, i totally aqree. i used to throw the word around because i had a crush on some hot quy, i`d be like "omq i love him" or whatever.. people just say the word so much it lost so much meaninq. i said it to someone i truly loved and he didn`t even know how to interpret it. like, how i meant it or whatever. it wus just bullshit hah. but yeah, i totally aqree with you

People shouldn't say things they don;t mean. Thy just others hope. And when they're bored of it already, they just leave. And other othr person is left depressed or in disbelief.

I love you guys!!!


But yeah, kids really shouldn't say what they don't mean. That's why adults rarely trust us anymore.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

I disagree... sort of... Distance between two people in a relationship is something really hard to deal with... even if you love them... you might need to let them go... because you want to hug them or kiss them or whatever... and because of that distance... you cannot... and that really has an effect on both or just one person in a relationship... Love fades... and it doesn't last forever... especially in a long distance relationship... In your friend's case... it was just three months... the guy is a prick... Love takes a bit longer than just three months in order to just stop loving someone.... Also... there is something I need to mention.... You do know there's a difference between being IN love or just loving someone, right?

such wisdom!...that`s really true..

i say..you just need to observe those couples "in love" and learn from their mistakes on love..

or just try it out yourself. it won`t hurt THAT MUCH. it just makes you a better person. that`s what i know so far..

Sometimes, ppl feel as if it is the right thing to do when in a situation like that. Maybe it was too painful for him. Either that or he's a total jackass. If he loved her, he'd do it for the sake of ending the pain. If he really loved her, he would've stayed with her. It all depends on his reason behind it.

if he really luved her i dun think he woulda broke up with her just lyk that- unless of something else

i made the mistake of telling someone i loved them but they said that they truly loved me but obviously they didnt.
love is too complicated at times

well, i think long distance relationships could really be hard. i mean even if you love each other. it could be worse that way cuz you always want to see each other but you rarly can. i mean, i would hate that. i think it might have just hurt too much for him. maybe he was hoping it'd be better and easier for both of them.

oh man that sucks....i think he never actually loved her from the start if that happen....he probably was messing with another girl on the side....i mean if you guys don't see eachother over the weekend that somewhat hurts the relationship a lot

i sometimes slip saying it and i'm like omg did i just say that? heh

i have a boyfriend and i love him and i`ve told him but i make it clear to him that i dont want to rush him into saying it. i`d rather him say it when he`s ready cause then i know he REALLY loves me.

l0lz...i agree that we're not completely ready to know wut love is...i mean we're like totally young and we cant be sure tha person we're with is the one righttt???i think that teens these days so totally need tahh chyll with tha werd 'love'.aightyy?isnt that right coley?

my gosh, it stinks wen pplz say that they love some1 and then end up breaking up with them. ur rite about how u said that its not rite to say i love you if you dont mean it.

well sometimes it feels like u meant it, but it reallie didnt... of course it's bad wen someone says i luv u but they reallie didnt mean it. and ur friend prolly wants to move on and try to experience by dating new girls... so yeah.

Sometimes "feeling it" just aint right.
Coz you may be in this romantic situation and you "feel" like its "right" to say those words. but that's just wrong. your feelings could be wrong most of the time ya know... gotta think before you act. and srsly, the words "i love you" seem to be very overused nowadays... its meaning has gone bye-bye. poor world we live in.

I think that if you luv em you do. if you don't you don't. there is no use in dwelling over what is going to happen. sure you can dream and stuff but, like i said, there is no use in going over what isn't there.

ermm...you didnt mean it when yu sed it did chu...lols...just a queshun =]] lols anyyyywhoo0o0o0o....



part of me agrees with you...but...a big giant part of me doesnt...because...i beleive that if two people really love eachother then it really shouldnt matter how far apart they are...because in the end if they are together then its all good rights???but...if they're never around or if its like IMPOSSIBLE to see that person then thas a different story...THEN they should talk about tha relationship and seeing other ppl and such....AND i TOTALLY agree with theres a difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone....lols...thas just my oppinion...holla at cha gurll...x]

I agree. Love isn't something to be thrown around carelessly. It really hurtz when someone seyz it. and then it turns out that it isn't true at all. So please, handle with care

it`s always those damn kiddies saying "i love you, so love me too okay?"

they THINK they mean it...they make excuses saying "he was the first guy i said 'i love you' to.."...and i`m like "right...will it matter later on?"

those people piss me off...i could go on bashing them...but there is this one girl that really needs to stfu who gets on my nerves...messin` with my friend like that..

i mean...this girl broke up with her boyfriend JUST BECAUSE he told her online that he needed to be left alone. so she told all her girl friends "omg!!! he`s being a TOTAL meanie and telling me to leave him alone!!! i think i might break up with him"



and she told him COUNTLESS times that she loved him and she said she was going to break up with him for that reason!?!

SOCIETY THESE DAYS!!!

1. "i luv u" has different degree to everybody. (the one who say it, n the one who receive it) maybe one mean it lightly while other take it as deep serious one
2. even u not sure wat love is n so there situation that he/she regretted sayin' it
3. sadly Not everybody mean it when they say those stuff

i said it to my bf once at the time at the moment i thouht i do but then as i think back, maybe i'm not ready and really know wat love is, i kinda regret sayin' it but didn't tell him he in the other hand told me not to say it to him cuz it wear off and uhhh don't say it until we at the point of marriage the guy made me mad, tellin' me when n not to say it. wat is he to tell me when i can say it arghh i'm mad all over again now

omigosh!!!i lubz you!!!![not like that]lols!!anywho...i SOOOO agree with you!!!you are soo0o0o0o0o right....about tha kiddies and everythin...they like they know what love is but they really dont right??i only told ONE person that i loved him and at that time i did....lols....yea well he told me he loved me to0...but look at em now...all over this other chickk and callinz her babe in front obb mee....grrrrrrr......ok anywho...back to tha subject...i think we're to0 youngg to know wut love is and everything....and yea...you shouldnt say it unless you mean it....xD



you are soo0o0o0oo funnie...lols....but i dont think ppl can tell you how your feeling or anything like that...and i dont think he had tha right to tell you when and when not to sey it...lols x]

that is sooooo funny. cute.

tha relationship probly wasnt serious but you know what?if she knew that the relationship wasnt serious then why tha heazy would she sey i love you if she didnt mean it?!?!?!?!if she really meant it and she really loved him then she should have gave him tha space adn tried to werk things out...but no0o0o she all seying he's a meanie and str8 up breaks up with him???that isnt right....your not suppose to sey i love you just fer tha heck of it....and about tha 'she felt tha reason is right' crap....omigosh...that is soo damn stupid...if thas a clausible reason to break up with someone then you know wut?DISTANCE is a clausible reason to break up with someone but its NOT so thas not a clausible reason to break up with someone!!!exspecially since she said she 'LOVED' him and everything!!!durhh~think woman think...this is serious crap...if it wasnt then i wouldnt be argueing with my best friend!!!thanks you fer your cooperation...good day miss....[this reply is noted to coley]

what the hell is it your business if and why she broke up with him. if she had a reason to then she can if she wanted to. maybe the attraction just wasn't there anymore??? HUH HUH HUH HUH???? can't that be a reason????? HUH HUH HUH??? It depends on how old this girl is/ was. if she was just a young wun(10, 11), then hell they break up like every day and have new relationships in a minute or two. it's like musical chairs. when your young you do throw around those words. i mean it's not your business if she did love him or not. so y do you care?

I CARE BECAUSE FRIKKEN AYE!!!!WHAT IF JESSE SED THAT HE LOVED YOU AND ALL OUT OF THA BLUE HE BREAKS UP WITH YOU!!!!WOULDN'T YOU GET TICKED THA HELL OFF IF HE FLIPPIN SED HE LOVED YOU AND ALLLLLLLL ALONG HE WAS LYING TO YOUR FACE?!?!?!?!?WOULDN'T THAT JUST FIRE YOU UP ?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!??!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!thas why i care so blasted much du ma!!!cuz im tired of all those ghey ash mudder chukkers sit there and sey 'oh i love you i never wanna let you go' and boomie they diss them!now i dont care if she loved him and just fell out of love with him...but is frikken him seying he needs to be left alone a good reason to fall out ov love with someone?!shiz you

BECAUSE THIS ISN'T FLIPPIN JESSE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I WOULDN'T DWELL ON THE FACT THAT HE BROKE UP WITH ME. I KNOW THAT WE ARE YOUNG AND THAT THIS REALLY MAY NOT BE LOVE. HOW IN THE HELL ARE SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT THAT IS???!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!??!!??!?!?! i DON'T THINK ANYONE REALLY DOES. YOU KNOW YYYYYYY????????????????? BECAUSE EVERY PERSON HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION OF WHAT LOVE IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU BELIEVE YOU DOINKLEBERRY. THEY COULD HAVE JUST BEEN IN LIGHT LOVE OR SOME SHIT. IF SOMEONE BREAKS UP WITH ANOTHER PERSON THEN THA REASONS Y ARE THEIR OWN. SOME PEOPLE CAN SAY THAT I LOVE YOU AND THEN NEXT DAY BREAK UP!!!!!!!!!!! IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE PERSON.

BECAUSE THIS ISN'T FLIPPIN JESSE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I WOULDN'T DWELL ON THE FACT THAT HE BROKE UP WITH ME. I KNOW THAT WE ARE YOUNG AND THAT THIS REALLY MAY NOT BE LOVE. HOW IN THE HELL ARE SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT THAT IS???!?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!??!!??!?!?! i DON'T THINK ANYONE REALLY DOES. YOU KNOW YYYYYYY????????????????? BECAUSE EVERY PERSON HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION OF WHAT LOVE IS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU BELIEVE YOU DOINKLEBERRY. THEY COULD HAVE JUST BEEN IN LIGHT LOVE OR SOME SHIT. IF SOMEONE BREAKS UP WITH ANOTHER PERSON THEN THA REASONS Y ARE THEIR OWN. SOME PEOPLE CAN SAY THAT I LOVE YOU AND THEN NEXT DAY BREAK UP!!!!!!!!!!! IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE PERSON.

excuse me miss....i do not give a flying rats ash who tha heazy we are talking about...my point is...and this shall end this dern discussion...that people should not say i love you unless you blasted mean it.................if you sey i love you and break up with tha person tha next day that doesnt really mean you love them does it?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!!cuz if you loved that person you wouldnt have broken up with them...unless tha damn relationship wasnt werking out!!!!i dont give a dam if they loved them but just felt like tha relationship wasnt werking...but this dam gurl frikken broke up with tha do0de cuz he sed he needed to be left alone...she sed she loved him but then she didnt try to werk things out she str8 up broke up with him!!!DO YOU UNDERSTAND THA WERDS THAT ARE COMING OUT OF MY MOUTH?!?!?!?!?!?!

I make sure not to say I love you unless I truly mean it

A good alternation is to say "I luv you" or "I love ya" anything that's not completely spelled out.

Or sometimes I just don't say it at all, I just joke with them "Of course you love me"

of course people shouldn't say i love you if they don't mean it. but if they do, that is completely their decision to make. if they decide to go through with that desicion then they should know the consequenses that follow after they say 'i love you'.

different people have different tendencies. some can say ' i love you' more easily than others can. but then again many people tend to keep the words to themselves and express their feelings otherwise.

personally, i feel that life is just that life. it isn't here just to glide through or not to be taken too seriously. it is like on a live let live basis. you should enjoy it and live every single day to its absolute fullest. one of my philosophies is that you should fall in love as many times and as often as you can.

but you have to keep in mind that love isn't the same for every one person or in every relationship. in some relationships you may have a commitment with a person so strong that when you actually say it, you mean it completely, and with the whole of your heart. or you could have a relationship where the 'i love yous' are taken lightly and thrown around. but it is the person's own choice if that is the way you want to handle things.

love varies from person to person.

coley...im commenting on your ''emotionz'' to0 much...ah haz...but anywho...yur right that love varies from person to person...but shouldnt it like...not varie?meaning...shouldnt ppl just sey 'i love you' when they actually mean it and not break someone's heart?x_X just a queshun...no more arguements...hahaz x] ehe...oh btw...QuyEnNiEe'z backk!!!;] x33

he didn't love her. he was too quick to say it.

my boyfriend waited a couple of months before he said it and it took me longer to say it back.

yeah tahts just plain gay, how can he be like i love you and suddenly just break up, thats a lie he don't have love for her