hey im new to this forum. anyways i broke it off with my gf a few weeks ago n im jus feeling messed up. well to start off she's 16, and i jus turned 20. i really love her but i feel like the age difference is to0 much. i see her friends look at me and i know what they're thinking: "he's 20, all he wants is sex" anyway i've known her for a long time now and it's hard to deny that urge to... ya kno. so i broke it off before we ever had the chance to... i never wanted things to end this way. she has a bright future and i dont want to mess things up for her. guys can be total @$$holes when they get all pervy. made me realize that love and sex are two different things. she's going through alot at that age and i jus dont think im go0d enough for her. u shouldnt be in love at 16. u should still be having fun and enjoying that hs life. i still wana be a part of her life but im not sure how to talk to her without making her feel... well i need advice

i, personally, would have done the same thing. i don't want to have sex with a girlfriend. i just wanna mess around with somone i hardly even know. as for still being a part of her life it's very possible. 3/4ths of the girls i've broken up with i'm still friends with. you need to take a break from talking to her so much (atleast that's what i do) and the more serious of the relationship the longer the breakl should be, or until you're both absolutley 100% SURE you still don't have those feelings for eachother. i know exactly what you mean by saying "love and sex are 2 different things". i broke up w/ my old girl recently for the same reason. it's rough on both but it's necescesary.

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aaaww!! you sound like a really good guy! i know its hard to give her up.... but thats the best thing you could have done for her! well you should talk to her about why you broke it up... and let yall have a little freedom... and maybe you could get back together?

aw. sounds sweet if u guys were truly meant and you guys really love each otherr then u guys would be brought bak together.

Feelings suck huh? But..yeah..did the right thing...

I think you did the right thing also. She might not have been ready for all of the responsibilities that come with being intimate with someone. I think that it was best for you to have broke things off. Your reasons were good and so were your intentions.

took the words right out of my mouth...

couldnt have sed it better buddy....x] ehehe

QUOTE (twistedfate @ May 19 2004, 5:10 PM)
I think you did the right thing also. She might not have been ready for all of the responsibilities that come with being intimate with someone. I think that it was best for you to have broke things off. Your reasons were good and so were your intentions.


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congrats for being so mature. =] you did the right thing.

well itz good you understand that! just try to talk to her , but dont talk about those kinda thingz, jus try to be her friend, even if it takes a while!

thx people. that helped a bit. here's a twist to the story tho... i could be really sick in a few years. could die and im not sure if i want to get tested for this gene.

~life is what you make of it... it's not predeterminded by a piece of paper

so i broke it off with her because i kno she'll be happier with someone else. it's jus my personally i guess... when u think that u're dying, u tend to be depressed a lot... ::sigh:: life is complicated... dunno how to explain things now... just lost

ohhh

man i guess you really love her i can telll you gave up what you needed or wanted for her thats true love well at least to me it is well just talk to her is she heart broken that you broke up with her? if yes you should really talk to her then well i wish you the best of luck my friend


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i dont think there is ne thing wrong with a 4 year age different either

hey... we all have one life and we live to die rite? lols everyones gonna die someday so make ur daily routine fun and happy =] and i think u did the right thing, i rarely see guys like u and u can be part of her life, make her laugh make her happy and hang out u should be happy and have fun too who says 20 cant have fun right? =] u can tell her how u feel the same way u told us how u felt

u guys can get back together maybe a year or 2 later?/ but daz really sweet wut u did??does she love u too?

age difference dont matter.. my ex is 20.. and he is going
out with somone younger then 16.. it doesnt matter..
she changed him in so many ways.. and im happy about that..
i think it was lyke 3 or 4 weeks ago they broke up..
they were both depress..
..he broke up with her.. and yea.. he brought up the
excuse about the age difference.. a few days later..
i talked to that punk head.... and on that day.. i saw
them lay'n on the ground sleeping....
...she too is going through a lot at this moment..
but she is stay'n strong.. and her boy is right there
to be there for her when she needs someone...

you said shes going through a lot right?.. isnt this
break up making it worst on her?
....if she makes you happy.. why end that happieness?
it better then feeling mess up, upset and depress.
good luck to you.

wow yooh seem lyk such a sweet guy.. but yooh did tha rite thing.. 16 IS kinda young.. but its okay to still stay close friends w/ her and all y`noe..?

yupp i agree. yeah u guys could like get bac together when she gets olderr ;P

i agree with her ^.

If both of you were happy... why not continue being happy? let her know you love her ... she's probably feeling really upset right now. tell her exactly what you told us.

4 years isn't that bad... as long as both parties behave maturely. ppo always say.. "with love, age is just a number" or something like that.

You sound so sweet!!

Okay, well. I think you did the right thing. You should ask her later if she wanted to get back together, and tell her the only reason you broke it off was because you didn't wanna ruin her love life. Tell her to think about if she thinks that it'll work out between you two.

Good luck.

Nothin wrong with the age difference. Except the fact that it's illegal for you to sleep with her. Maybe wait until she's 18?

I agree with the others on saying.. you sound really sweet. She probably loves you a lot. Maybe you could give her some time.

such a sweet ding u did for her!
i gotta say ur AWESOME..but hey..if u rili love her..den PATIENCE ryte?

gL!!

couldnt have said it better

Well first off, I don't think that her being 16 and you being 20 matters. I was 16 when I met my 20 year old boyfriend and we are still together. Yes sex is part of a growing relationship, even though you have the urge you have to tell her that, that isnt what you want. You should communicate with her and let her know that even though you are ready, you are willing to wait.. because you love her.

About her future... you wont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. Like my boyfriend and I... I was going into my senior year of high school which meant that I had to apply to colleges.. At first I wanted to go away to school but I chose to stay in town. Not only because of him but for myself. I still go to college, I attend a State University and I work. We have a wonderful relationship..

Communication is the key to everything.. let her know what is on your mind.. otherwise she will never know your true feelings for her. Even though expressing your feelings toward her about your relationship, sex and future is going to be extremely difficult.. it will make you feel better in the end... i hopeed that helped!!