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OPALiCiOUSZ x3
I'm usually the one who gives people advice, but when it comes to me i can't get myself out of this problem sad.gif
There this guy name Ryan, Who was just a simple guy. He crushed on me, but i never felt the same way. After a few talk, we became friends. Weeks past by, My feelings towards him builds up day by day. Then a month later we lost contact, everything was lost. Feelings, friendship, and fun-ness..But luckily we started talking again. Oneday, we became more than friends, I wasn't that excited. Everything was going good, till we took things a little too fast. After that, He decided to break it off cry.gif I didnt take it too good, I let out everything on him, all my anger. Eversince that, we never talked again, even worse we became enemies. Even that happen 6 months ago and even he hates me with all his heart, My heart is still set on him. I just want to get over him, but he was the only guy who i can actually stare into his eyes without looking at the floor, he was the only guy who gave me full confidents in myself, he was the only guy who makes me happy.

Now everywhere i go, His name appear. Everything reminds me of him. I spend the whole day thinking and missing him. I spend the whole day staring at his screename. I spend the day checking his myspace more than himself, seeing a new girl on his top1. People say i'm crazy. Am i? People say its obsession. I just want to get over him, and leave everything behind without coming back to it again.
AzNxBaBi
Don't let yourself fall into a hole. You know you are strogner than that because you help other people. first true love takes awhile. Because i do the same things, i check his myspace more than he does, i look at his top 8 all the time, I check his away message. I miss my ex too. He was my first kiss, i feel so messed up any all. You're not crazy cause if you were many of us would be crazier. Moving on isn't easy, you just have let yourself open up to new opportunities. The real problem is not moving on but to except that you guys aren't together anymore. I miss my ex very much til today. He told me he missed me .. but i didn't let myself turn back because i kenw we wouldn't get anywhere. He was the one who did me wrong but i will still love him. I did just as the mess up thing by going out with his besfriend and his bestfriendwas the one i liked first. Sorry i'm digressing, but let you'rself be free because he isn't worth it if he letted you go that easy. Smile, life iis really too short to being sad. I know that.
LadyXTor
Ever considered talking to him?
xforgottenlove
mmm i used to be like that after i broke up w/ my ex. cuhz he was like my first everythingg ( like kiss, hug from a guy, serious bf). i thought i'd never get over him but then i decided to still be friends w/ him and now we're pretty much okay now and i don't miss him that much anymore biggrin.gif
Chii
I think in a way, he took advantage of you. After you two went "too far" he may have gotten all he wanted and decided to sever ties before things got more complicated.

How can he be the only guy who makes you happy if he hates you? That's not possible, there are plenty of other guys out there who won't ignore you and/or hate you. You need to stop checking his myspace and keeping tabs on him. Not only is that really creepy, it's bad for you.

It just didn't work out. You have to move on, you can't force him to come back or keep hoping he'll like you again. Stop letting him control your life, he's not even that great of a guy.
_sarcastic_
^i agree, he did take advantage of you. just focus your attention else where, try to avoid things that might bring back memories for you.
demolished
Therapist or Phsyscologist =)
Because it lasted a very long time, 6 months. You really need help very bad ... I dont think anyone should suffer a long term issue.
marzipan
don't obsess over him. if you really want him back, you could talk to him....but i wouldn't try. move on. you can definitely find someone better
My Cinderella.
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Apr 11 2006, 3:50 PM) *
^i agree, he did take advantage of you. just focus your attention else where, try to avoid things that might bring back memories for you.
^ I agree with Sarcastic.

Like I told you before, the best way to move on is to get away from ANYTHING that reminds you of him. Delete his screenname from your buddylist. Stop visiting his myspace, anything it takes for you to take your mind off of him.
--x who0ps
is there something about him that really relaly really annoys you?
or makes you mad?
or something that he did that you never got over?
because if so, just think of those despicable actions and you'll jst get relaly really.. .. not attached anymore.
does this make sense?
ill give an example:
there is this guy that likes me who keeps trying to get me to like him and all that jazz
but i really dont like him because of his.. attitude.
once, he freaking lied to me, like straight to my face. cause he wanted to make me like him by saying that "oooh i likethis girl with these initials" (and gave my initials) and when i said "stop it, i dont like you" he said, i didntsay it wa syou, gosh. and so i was embarressed right. and he said it was this other girl. and then the next week i said "yeah, okay, go daydream about (girl's name)" and he's like: "uhh.. i never said i liked her" and i was like.. wtf... and i mentioned the initial thing, and he's like, no it was your initals. and im just like WTHECK--- he was being a manipulative, annoying, jerk. i vowed to myself that i will never EVER EVER like him. EVER.
so anyway, we talked more and then i think i started liking him. and .. yeah. uhg. so everytime i felt like i was starting to like him, i thought of that incident. it so worked .. cause i got really disgusted.

soorry so long, but do you get what im trying to ssay?
OPALiCiOUSZ x3
^^
Wow that really help ; Thank you so much. But you shouldn't force yourself to not like him. I mean there might be on incident that really hurted you. If i were you i'd tell him, you know to let it out. cause it sucks "you never know what you truly want till its gone" i think that's how the quote goeso.0 but yea you know what i'm talking about right? lols. so if you loose him, you might think to yourself "i should of go out with him" it might happen, not all the time. cause that did happen to me.

But i really apperciate the advice, there's plenty of things i got in mind that he did to me, that really hurted me. First off leaving me!!! pinch.gif

THANKS AGAIN !!
Chii
This problem seems to be solved, I shall close this.
Thank you for alerting me happy.gif
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