I'm smart, funny, outgoing, nice, kind, EVERYTHING. Maybe I don't have the fittest body, a bit of chunk here and there, but I'm not entirely ugly or anything. I just don't understand why I haven't found at least one guy that feels something for me. Maybe it's just wrong place, wrong time... Has anybody else experienced this frustration with the opposite sex?!

Yeah, me. Be patient. Do you want to find a guy just so you won't feel lonely? Or do you really like a guy? And if you're trying to hard some guys might not find it attractive.

^agreed, be patient, a guy will come along eventually.
maybe instead of waiting for them to approach you, you can tell a person you like how you feel about him. or just start off as friends with the opposite sex

^start off as friends..do u usually hang out w/ guys? just let guys know u a lil better.. be patient..theres someone for everyone =]

me as well. im 16, never dated, never kissed a guy never even held a guys hand. but i really could care less. a lot of people have told me that i was cute or pretty but its obviously not my time.

i was thinkings its probably high school. youre with the same guys for 4 years and its hard to have a guy show interest if youve gone to school for them for that long. im sure youll start dating in college. you can have your own life and youll meet guys not just at school.

yeah. somewhere out there, there's a guy for u. wait and he'll come to u! lol. (that was kind of cheesy.....but true i guess)

im 14. ive never had a true bf. like recently.
but as every1 else is saying you will find some1 eventually.

You're still young, nothing is wrong with you. Quite frankly, nowadays it doesn't matter if there's anything wrong with you anyway, people aren't as superficial as they once where, especially a few years down the road.

I've always been in a relationship since I was 14, I always had a boyfriend and/or always had someone like me, etc. Trust me, it's not what you want. You might think "Are you crazy?? I wish I had guys want me!" Having guys want you isn't a good thing, it brings about jealousy from other girls, gossip (usually from those same girls), and it's just lots of unnecessary drama.

Just hold onto who you are and focus on your studies, school should be your top priority right now. With those boys taking up all my thoughts, I messed up in school and I have to make up for that. Don't get caught up in stupid boys, you need your education. That's way more important than your immature male peers.

yeah that's exactly me. I just found a guy that likes me back this year. Don't worry, he'll come sooner or later.

Like everyone is saying, just be patient. Eventually, a guy will come around who will appreciate you for who you are.
But until that time come, concentrate on your studies. They are more important.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Seriously, you're probably better off without a guy. I agree with Chii, it's more important to focus on your studies. I just got out of a relationship and realized how much I was slacking in school because of my boyfriend. I just wasn't mature enough for that kind of relationship, and I had to pay the consequences (with friends, school, parents...everything).

Everyone has that problem. Don't Worry. You're not alone =) Trust me...

The wait is worth it.

i agree with everyone else ... just wait .. i waited ... and i wasnt even expecting to get in a relationship when i hung out with this guy .. a few weeks later we started dating .. and now we are goin to be gettin married when im "of age" ( out of school).. have fun being single!!

Nope, i never went through that. I mean guys come and go. Patient is the thing. Just wait, and before you know it, you'll see plenty of guys waiting for you, instead of you waiting for them. Fatness? Some girls THINK they are fat, when they are skinny and they starve themselves, that really kills the health. Just exercise.

I'm sure there is nothing wrong with you at all. As Opal said, guys will come and go. Perhaps you aren't ready for a boyfriend yet, don't take it in a bad way. Guys will come when the time is right. As for now, be yourself and live life. Have fun. Chill with your girlfriends.

I can relate to your situation. Back when I was in high school, I was pretty unsuccessful in terms of relationships. I chalked it up to not being "cool" or "handsome" enough, or girls being superficial and "stupid". But that wasn't it at all. I was an okay guy. I looked fine. My problem was in a lack of self-confidence. I was too afraid to take a chance.

Your situation seems similar. Guys like confidence. As crazy as it sounds, it really does attract them—that's why girls who are sure of themselves seem to get all the guys. I'd say just examine who you are, and be happy with that person. You might not always get the guy you want, but eventually you'll meet someone really, really cool with whom you are a perfect fit.

Thank you. I really took this to heart. I am lonely, but I'm not desprate to have a boyfriend... I'm just confused as to why no guy has ever really confronted me. I mean, I've been complimented by guys before, but I've never really dated. I think it's just me not being very social. I'm going to try and get out a little more, but I'm definitely focused on my studies (and I'm doing very well in school)!


Thanks, mipadi. It's great to have a guy's perspective on this as well. I see myself as a pretty confident girl... I used to be so self-conscious though, and I still am a bit. But who isn't? Anyway, I do have my eye on this guy that my friend Ben knows... However, I won't let him get to my head.

Thanks again!


I do excersize daily, and I eat pretty healthy. I'm going to a nutritionist later on in the month, so perhaps that'll help boost my confidence a bit.

Thanks!

What about modest?

i agree with everyone else.
you'll eventually find someone for sure