i did alot more than hook up wit this guy n i never want it to happen agen.... but i dont want to be mean ....

"thanx for inviting me to the party last night. im glad u had fun. but about that im not sure how i let what happened happen but i do know that its not something im looking for or want right now. i dont know why i didnt stop u and i guess thats my own fault but i do know that i dont want that now. i think ur a really sweet guy and im sorry if i was leading u on in some way and i hope we can still b friends" some one said the underlines part is too mean...but i think its ok...plz help and if it is too mean what should i change it to?

i think it's alright

you're speaking honestly, and not too bluntly. it's fine

It's professional.
Although, I think you really do know why you let what happened happen.

Unless you were wasted? Were you wasted?

i had one beer...and i really odnt know y i let it happen...i told my self if he tries n e thing ill stop him n he did n i dint...i dunno

I still don't believe you don't know. I can grant that you may be a bit confused on the issue, as you do seem so. However, I think you have a very clear ideas was to why you might have let happen what did. Do some introspection and figure it out. If you truly wanted him to stop, why didn't you stop him?

i reallt do not no y i dint stop him then...i did stop him later when he tried something else...dunno...

I think it's fine, as long as it's your honest opinion.

Naw it's not mean. I think it's a good way fo saying how you really feel.

its alright.

one beer? and you had sex with a guy you dont know?
okay..

anyway i think that letter says all.

it's pretty good.

u could accentuate some parts tho.

I don't know why you don't want to sound mean. Telling the people the complete and blunt truth helps them learn the hard way, though it will make you feel guilty, it'll let them know how it's really like.

I don't think it's mean. It's getting straight to the point.

it`s honest and shows him exactly how you feel.
it`s good.

It's not mean, you're just expressing what you believe, and that's good. =]

It sounds O.K, because you have to tell them straight up for them to understand, or they will think they you are joking around with them.

wow don't get mad at the dude just cuz u acted like a slut, take responsibility for your own actions...

^ She's not mad at him. She's apologizing and trying to straighten things out. Stop jumping to conclusions.


That sounds good, but it could be organized a bit better, if it makes a difference. Here's what I would write:

Thank you for inviting me to the party last night. It was a blast. However, I don't want what happened last night to affect our relationship as friends. I'm not ready for commitment right now and I'm sure that you don't want to get involved in anything that might rupture our friendship. I just wanted to let you know that I take full responsibility for my actions, and I made the wrong choices. I hope that I didn't make an impression of leading you on, but I hope you'll accept my apology. I just hope we can still be friends.

gimmie a break!!! that kid would look at u and think you have issues... believe me dont get too caught up in yourself any dude that hooks up w/ a girl isnt automatically lookin for a relationship they just wanna hit so calm down he just wanted sum P**sy and u gave it to him.

Sure, every guy that hooks up with a girl isn't automatically looking for a relationship, but not every guy that hooks up with a girl just wants "some p**sy" as you call it. It's better for her to say something like the person suggested, then to just ignore it and let there be a chance that the guy really did think there was something there.

Oh, and I don't think that's mean at all. Honesty is, as always, the best policy.

i think you should add why you did what you did, exactly. like how you weren't thinking straight or something. other then that it's good

nothings mean about that comment, and if he gets offended, well the truth hurts, and you'd be hurting him more if you didnt let him on about how you felt. :)

I don't see a problem with it.

as long as its the truth, and you're not being a b***h about it. let him down easily. don't hurt him if he really likes you. still tell him, but.. easily. what you wrote sounds perfectly understandable. to the point, truthful, and not completely evil.