so theres this new kid at my school and i knw him before anyone else at school, besides his cousins and i knew he was coming, and we actually talked before. and like hes pretty cute and all the girls at school are obsessing abouth im and all the guys are always around him, and i nvr have a chance to talk to him, like just him b/c of all the girls tht think hes hot/cute and i guess, have a crush on him like me. but the thing is, i dont know if its a crush because i just get this really weird feeling inmy stomach and knees and i feel so weak and yeah. but i dnt see how the other girls can like him, because today was theyre first time meeting him? and isnt that pretty shallow, because they know nothing about him? any just need some advice/ help? and i dont really wanna like him, because of everyone else..

should be moved to relationships maybe?
don't go with what other people think, i mean go with how you feel.
so what if you like him. go for it

Moved to Relationships

i agree

Go with what you think you should do!! It seems to me like you personally actually might like him for real so I think you should form a relationship maybe!! But don't go with the crowd go with your own head/heart!!

It's pretty much like how everyone says: If you want to talk to him, talk to him. If you think he's cool, get to know him better. If you get to know him better and find out you like him, cool; if you get to know him better and find out it was just a temporary crush, then at least you weeded out a potential partner.

so, you've talked to him maybe once or twice and you're calling these other girls who just met him shallow for liking him? you're all basically in the same boat. none of you know him well and apparently you all like him. maybe the other girls are just excited that there's a new kid at school, that happens.

though you've "seen him first" you can't really claim him because of the first come first serve, especially since you're probably the only one who knows. plus, it doesn't matter if you saw him first, it's his decision. if you like him than make it known to him.

ive talked to him quite alot.. and i do know him well, he even knows stuff about me. and im not clamining him, and i dont even wanna like him

If you don't want to like him, then don't do anything to make your relationship more than a friendship.

but didn't you say that you never have a chance to talk to him? and, if you don't like him then what is the problem?

if you don't want to like him then just don't like him. it's kind of simple especially since this infatuation thing is at an early stage. you can convince yourself not to fall for his good looks or charming personality or whatever else. keep the friends thing in mind when you talk to him.

mmhmm

distance yourself from the guy. The more you try to NOT think about him, the more you will. Focus your mind on something else.

And to be honest, you really have no right to decide on how and when should develop a crush. It takes different times for different people.

dont worry about him.. he probably hates you now anyway