i've been with this guy for a really long time..
he works full time now and is very independent and responsible.
but he's not going to college.. well.. he was planning to but..
he always allows his father's orders change his plans..
like uhm.. just recently, his dad told him that he wanted him to buy a house for the family.. (btw, his dad doesn't work and my ex is paying for everything in the house) so.. instead of using the money he saved up for college to get an education, he actually follows his dad's orders..!!!
i was soo mad when this happened..!! i mean.. he's been delaying his education for such a long time already...!!
also, he's addicted to games.....!! well, i do like games but not like him...!! sometimes, he doesn't listen to me just cuz he's playing his silly games.. (well, they aren't silly but he ignores me once he starts!!!)
i've been very supportive of him for such a long time already...!!! i gave in to him whenever he asked for stuff.. but like.. it's sooo long already...!! i'm getting tired of worrying so much about him and his future..!! i can't even concentrate on my life and my studies..!!! so.. i broke up with him... but then.. i feel really bad.. i know that he loves me very much.. and i do still love him.. but it doesn't seem like he's going anywhere.. he's still going to be working in the same place, earning the same wages... and he's always going to be controlled by his dad...!!!!
so... am i a b!tch for breaking up with him....?

No, you are not. You ahve every right to break up with him, in my opinion. Yes, he may love you and you may love him, but love should also be shown in action; he should've listened to YOU since he loves you. Also, i can understand that he loves his family alot and thuis he helps out, but throwing his education out the window like that in my opinion is retarded. They ahve a home; they dont need a new one. As for his father, he should seriously think out his priorities; i've never heard of such a selfish father in my life. He's the so called "man", he should make the money for the family instead of odering around his son.

Maybe you should talk to him. dont feel guilty or anything. Maybe this will teach him a lesson.

ow... ...idk i think if hes not gonna get a good education...dont hate your self...i think u did the right thing in all...i hope u find a new bf..n i think u did the right thing...so dont feel bad

i agree

you should just move on and get another bf cause he sounds like a b*t*h!

KOOOL lol SOMONE AGREED WITH ME!! lol sry i jus had to say that..im 12 n usually noone listens to wat iv said

i dont think you are... he still hasnt got himself sorted out yet... and how could he put his education last? my dad would rather be homeless than for me to be stupid! but... this is a good time... to try new things... and let him get his life back together... who knows.. maybe you'll end back together?

well, your not a bitch. but if he chooses not to go to college, than thats ok too. college is not a must, its an option. you said he was responsible and independant right? well there you have it. he's a self made man. but ofcourse, if your standard is that your man must have a college education, thats fine too. its just about what your standards are .

i agree. to me...i'd get my education 1ST then...do whatever the heck they want. cuz..you wouldn't have money if you do'nt have a job..right? so yep. you're not a bytch for doing that i think he deserves it. if you want him to have an education..and he doesn't..i mean...come on. what respect is that?

hmmm....... i really feel bad though.. i see him and he seems more miserable than the usual....... he can't concentrate on what he's doing...
i talked to him the other day about his education. he said that he would enroll this coming summer but not to a 4 year university but to a technical school.... kinda like that art school (since he's interested in computer graphics).
i really don't know if i wanna believe him.. cuz he said that before..... nothing happened....
i wonder if i will go back with him in the end...probably not..

well...he didn`t realize what he got `til it`s gone.

u'lll probably end up back with him but like if everythings gonna be like before, whats the point? ur jus gonna feel like ur fed up with everything again and it'll be a repeat

you're not a bytch for what you did. you have to do what's best for YOU. it doesn't seem you're at the same level in life right now. you have your priorities and he has his. it's his choice to listen to his father and it's his future that'll experience the consequences. there isn't a person in the world that can tell him otherwise. so hopefully he'll realize that there are some things he has to do for himself rather than let his father lead it. but don't let it stop you or hold you back. you still have a long life ahead of you to be upset and constantly worrying about him. let him do what's best for him and you do the same. hopefully it'll work out for the both of you no matter where life leads you -- together or apart.