alohaz!
have any of you ladiez n guyz, ever felt like you have been used or feeling used from your other? wellz, i have my really good friend feeling that she iz being used by her boyfriend. they have been going out for about 1 year and something monthz and just recently they have been going through their downz. something about being with my friend because of a bet. and they just had sex on monday. my friend did comfort him but all he did to her was yell at her and just asumming thingz. anywayz, she feelz that he iznt telling her thingz and that she iz being used for sex. any adivce to give to my friend. because i really didnt have a good adivce to give her expect that she haz to stick up for herself and dont let him think any of thiz iz her fault. wellz, got adivce? please help me i really care for my good friend all i could do with her iz cry because i felt like that before but, i dotn want her kicking any ass thatz what i did. and she doesnt deserve thiz at all.
mahaloz

I felt used in my last relationship... I felt like she pushed me away so fast because she was afraid that I do the same to her because of past experiences... but she wont admit that... but i over-read a conversation with a friend of her that she didnt want to tell her friend about me because she didnt know how long it would last... so i feel like i was pushed away so she wouldnt get hurt

guys use girls because they want to go to bed with the girls.

but why do girls use guys?

you mean "played" right? nope. my gf and me are cool.

::jerry::

wellz, when i play a guy it only meanz bcz i get revenge. thatz da only time ill play some. and im honest.

ewww this guy used me once and i knew it but i still stayed with him cos i liked him so much..he said "lets tell onliee your friends we're going out but no one else" and he would act like he didnt know me in the halls and would never hold my hand let alone talk to me in the halls..he was onliee nice to me in a private area and i knew he was using me but i just brushed it off like it wasnt a thang..yeah pathetic i know..but i liked him sOoOoOoOo much...but it was my mistake and i've definetely learned from it....

...hMmM..i think i might have..nope nevermind..i've never used a guy before..i was told i led someone on once, but i didnt even realize it

yeh .. i`ve felt used a lot by the people i actually thought were my closest friends. they tOok my kindness for granted and treated me like i never existed when they don`t need anything from me. so now, i barely talk to three of them and the worst one of them all is casted away forever! i hate him! its the third time he did it to me .. i don`t know why i keep forgiving them and falling for their empty apologies

whOops .. i accidentally clicked the add reply twice i guess .. so i`ll just replace this msg

For fun?

Bah I admit it! I played a guy once He was so in love with me and I just played along, even though I had a BF. My BF knew about it and we'd laugh about the guy. I know, I'm a horrible horrible person...

Uh, m advice, just get her to talk with him!

well why do guys use girls???

jackie

i think girls use guys because they are either mad at them or they dont wanna hurt their feelings by breaking up

everything btw my friend nad her hubbie are finally clearing. so, im happy. and yea, i think most of the time a grl would cheat on a guy iz if they r mad or dnt wanna hurt them.

they want to be pimps.

::jerry::

mhmz. doez being pimpz make u guyz feel special or something?

i have felt used for sex and feel that i have used my ex for sex... ah well

i can kinda relate to that. its like when you have sex with a guy for like the first time with that person, they can feel insecure. they think you're fooling around with other people and etc. i think its all paranoia or some shet. but yea, i'm glad its getting better. but if he is cheating on her, you'll see the signs;or she will. its pretty obvious cuz something's prolly diff from what it was b4..

to: jUsT eRiCa

heya yea daz wat i told her n allz. butcha, i dont know. the way i see it i think he is cheating on her. i mean he iz really acting diiferent! butcha, thingz were going okayz but then thingz became all messed upz. dayum i wanna kick hiz ass. guyz like that piss me off. when i went through it i kicked the guyz ass. i didnt even care about me gettin hurt as long as i had to do what i had to do. i dont know i hate when the peoplez i love have to go through it. it tearz me to see all the pain they go through you know? oh wellz, thankz for the comment though. tc!

don't use me. it hurts my bum

I feel used sometimes. It's like, "I'm SO sure that he doesn't like me. I'm such a bum. Fat, ugly, stupid..." and on and on it goes...And then pretty soon, I get into a bad mOod... And then I'll like...blab everything to him, and he'll comfort me and then everything kinda goes back to normal.

i like being used. all the fun without the hastel, i say.

tell her that if she has bad feelings the relationship isn't going the way that a caring relationship should. tell her it's up to her, but make it clear that she's probobly going to get her heart broken if she messes up.

And this is.. WHY peole should WAIT until they have sex! lol Awww she shouldn't have done it with him =( I don't have any real advice for her...


But sometimes people do tell me that my boyfriedn uses me because I do sometimes do his homework and I almost always buy him a soda everyday lol and then it seems like I'M the only one being all romantic with him while he just sits there and hugs back sometimes and is like whatever lol. Once in a while people tell me I should get someone that will treat me right, but truly, Tony (my bf of course lol) does treat me right. It's just that he is lazy nowadays and he has a lot going on in his mind. I do tell him to act more romantic and such, but he just can't stay focused on me... It worries about othre things in life (but not about other girls so it's okay). It's just that, sometimes.. i wish I could turn back time and try to help him in some situations that so that his life would be easier. I try to hard to make things right, but in the end, I end up hurting myself (emotionally). So I'm just going to let it go and whatever happens, happens. But I know that he won't leave me because I love him too much and that he really does care about me alot.

Yea, a conversation for us went something like this...



Today... (ewnt SOMETHING like this)



I don't know what's going on... =(