well lets see i started talking to this boy and i really liked him, we had sex a couple of times. i was really attracted to him. he not a hoe or anything i know that much because he wasn't to experienced. n e ways hes going through alot of stuff at home, hes got a death n the family and hes failing in school. he knoes i want a relation but he says he won't have time for one right now because of all the stuff hes going through plus he works and stuff. so we don't really see each other much n e more. i wanna wait for him to get his stuff together u knoe, i don wanna get serious with n e one else yet, and then hes ready, and i'm going to b stuck. i really need some adive from boys and gurlz. i don't knoe wut to do, because i really like him and we've been talkin for about 3 months, and hiz problems have been going on 4 like a month. i talk 2 hiz friends about it sometimes, they say he'z just scared to get into a relationship and that hes really attracted to me but he thinks i'm going to cheat on him and he doesn't need n e more stress n hiz life. i don't knoe weather to beleive that. i juz don knoe i'm confused ya'll. please help!! thanx bye now!!

i think you should just give him time..yeah its been a month already..but maybe hes someone who needs more time..and if you realli want to be with him, i would wait for him and let him know what you will wait for him..maybe that will help boost up the trust he has of you..is there a reason he thinks you will cheat on him or is he just assuming it??

mhmz, the way i see it iz that. wellz, it seemz az if u reallie wanna b wid him? ima sry if i sound harsh but r u n a rush 2 wid him completely? but it aint rong if u feel dat way. bcz i hab been n dat issue b4. newayz, 1st ob allz wat u shuld do iz tink 2 urself wat kine ob relationship u want frm him. den wen u get dat figured outz n den tink 2 urself bout ur "tru" feelingz fo him. n den frm dat point follow ur heart n dnt second guez. go wid ur 1st thought n b happe okz? wellz, best wishez.

well i talked to alot of guys like date them and stuff but i'm not serious about n e one but him, i told him that. i don't knoe i think hes kinda scared 2 tell me how he really feels. i hope thats not the case. but i feel like i should b able to hear it from him not his friends. but i've never cheated on a guy b for, i told him about me messing with a guy who had a gurl, maybe thats y he thinks that. i don't knoe.

hey did u guys 4 get about me?? i really need help ....... more replys please ppl!!

Yeah..its possible that because you dated so many guys or because you helped a guy cheat on his gf..that he doesnt trust you..but i can kinda see why he doesnt trust you..but also..the fact that you guys had sex before you guys even had a real relationship..that gives a bad rep and he could be thinking "well heyy..she slept with me without having a relationship..so why wouldnt she sleep with someone else" or he could just be someone who is afraid of commitment..i dont know..i kind of think i rambled a bit much..but those are the things that were running thru my head..so sorrie if it didnt make sense

no it made perfect sense. ur right, itz one of the 2 but the thing is i don knoe which one and i think hes scared 2 tell me. i don't knoe i juz need 2 sit him down and talk 2 him about everything. when he has time which i knoe won't b till next weekend. . but yea thank u so much u really did help me out alot.

yeah no problem..i hope everything works out between you guys..and that is what you need to do..you need to sit and talk to him and ask him to be honest with you..even if he thinks it will hurt you ((emotionally)) he needs to tell you the truth..trust and honesty are the most important things in a relationship..sooo yeah..

I hope you didn't give him space, cuz of all times, he needs someone. He may be pushing you away a lil' cuz of all the stress and problems he's dealing with, but who's gonna comfort him in the end? As for him thinking that you'd cheat on him, does he have anything to back that up? Why would he think that? I think you just hafta ask for his trust and somehow, prove him wrong. Prove that you'd be faithful to him, no matter what comes up. Hope this helps you somehow.

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just give him more space.

::jerry::

omg maybe thas it. i gave him lots of space. i didn't wanna b all clingy beacuse i knoe guys don like that. i wanted 2 give him time 2 get through hiz problems. i mean theres nothin i can really do to help him. but ur so right, thanx alot!!

i say wait for him. i think his friends are right, with all that`s going on in his life he doesn`t want to add the risk of more pain onto it regardless of who`s fault it is [yOo cheating or him maybe acting up --just examples]. just be there for him as a friend, be there to comfort him as much as yOo can. Yeh, he`s busy but still try .. just not tOo much. SoOn things will get better, for both of yOo as long as yOo have each other.

thanx all u guys 4 ur help. alot of stuff has happened since i last wrote n here, ummm itz not gonna work. i'm sure u all already knoe this, and i did to, but i juz ignored it, that is that u shouldn't have sex with someone ur not n a relationship with. i mean i did it because i thought we would b n a relationship soon but i guess thats not the case. i got played 4 the fool. i guess he had sex with another gurl, my friend told me. i knoe i can't really b mad at him beacause thatz not my boyfriend, but i really did like him alot. and to hear about him being with another gurl iz just like him taken a knife n stabbing me in the heart. i almost cried seriously. i wuz really hurt. i mean i really thought there wuz gonna b something with him, i turned down other dudes juz so i could talk 2 him. mann i juz feel so stupid rigth now. i don knoe, 'm juz depressed, i never thought a guy would get to me like this, but he did.

jus talk- it may take a while buh waiting is the best you can do, while also being his friend and helping him! when hes put the bad away you can start to talk n chat n hang, it would be so much easier i think