Almost all young relationships (12 - 17) always have some sort of drama. Why do we adolescent people deal with it? Alot of those relationships end in about a span of one week to three months. the lucky ones go past that mark. The word love eventually plays a major role in the relationship showing that one "loves" the other. which is entirely bullshizz, or i could be wrong. but in my opinion 95% of the young relationships that take part, are eventually going to die out in that span of one week to three months. the word love is most likely tossed around more than once as a word to describe deep liking. but still.. that's not true love. What is your opinion on our relationships that we have as adolescents?

I think. it varys for every couple, and we cant put a percentage on how long they will last, or if they really do love eachother. Although most people say it is only puppy love, its still a form of love, or the real thing. And although people say its rare to find the real thing until you are older, its still not impossible.

And i really, really disagree with the one week to 3 months. Most of my friends relationships last for months at a time, and occasionally there are the few couples that end it within` a few weeks.

*my change of perspective

yes, i sort of feel the same way that you do. i always knew that i didnt want a part in all of that high school dating but then i gave in once just to see what it was like. all and all, i learned that it just wasn't meant to be at the time. there were no gurantees and i just sort of kidded myself into thinking there were.

some people will toss the "love" word around and others will actually come to mean it. i guess sometimes i view the whole high school dating thing in a negative way because i just come to see so many people abuse the whole idea of it and i don't want a part of it for awhile. BUT! there are a FEW who do it because they care for one another and want to be together.

despite all of that, i still think that it's possible to find some sort of love during your teenage years. it's rare but it does happen. i've heard about some couples who dated in high school-- broke it off for awhile and then got back together.

basically adolescent dating is a crash course to dating in the real world. we'll crash and burn a few times but one day, we'll finally get what we deserve.

ALL relationships have drama. just because you're older doesn't mean that your relationship will be great and last a long time.

i highly disagree with you on how long the relationships last. 95% is way too high of a percentage. it may apply for much younger kids but when you're like 16+ it's less likely.

sure kids are all "baby i love you" after maybe half a week, but they're young. what do they know about being in love? it's usually infatuation. if you're like 16 and you buy into that "i love you" stuff more than once, than shame on you.

Hmm, well I think that it depends. Some people's relationships last a long time (my boyfriend and I have gone out for over a year), while others do last a short time. It all depends on the couple themselves.
And, all relationships have drama.

Dramatic?

More like retarded.... (i'm sry)

Seriously I hated young relationships (like in middle school, and even freshmen in high school), it was full of crap.

I will asume that the mijority of young relationships arn't going to be successful. I believe this from observation. However I do think some people get lucky and have long lasting relationships, they may come to an end some time but it was longer and stronger than most. My friend thought she was in love and ended up sleeping with the guy and even got engaged, but just a few days ago they broke it off. I think for any realationship to work its going to need a sterdy foundation of trust and friendship and I think thats something that many young couples don't have the energy to put into it.

^ Sometimes, you cant judge just by observation. The outside, is usually never what it seems on the inside. Basically, you cant judge by looking if you dont know whats really going on in the relationship itself.

No, not completly.

But perhaps I should have made my self a bit clearer. When I said "observation" I didn't mean I was just an onlooker. However now I realize thats how it might be taken. I've talked to enough friends, and known enough couples, both close friends and acquaintenses to formulate that opinion.

I'd have to agree only because where I live, relationships tend to fly by quickly. Although, as one's age progresses, their ability to keep relationships lasting gets stronger. I mean, at age 14 I met my current boyfriend and we've been dating for 3 years and 1 month now.

I agree that the majority of relationships are usually just the usual "oh he's cute" or "he's got a nice personality" and the relationship pretty much dies after a short span of time. I think it's nice to have those because despite how "love" is tossed in there even though it's truly just infatuation, each partner in the relationship gains more knowledge on how relationships should be.

Of course, this is just based on my observations of relationships of people that I know or have met. :]

I agree with Devastation because that's how my first relationship went. After four months the "love" died out and.. nothing happened.

not always. i mean yeah some might die out after 1 week to 3 months, but some will last, mine has been 1 year and 7 months. i even know a friend who got with his gf when he was 13 and is still with her, he's 16 now.
the word love is pretty much tossed around fairly easily. but you learn from your past relationships don't you?

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.
puppy love is not a form a love, it's just a serious liking. just because it has love doesn't mean its a form of love. you'll know when you feel love as well as your partner. i wasn't saying love was impossible in young relationships, i said it was nearly impossible.

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.

^ well I think it depends on where you live, who your friends are, etc..I've seen it boths ways. age 16+ relationships can last for subsantial periods of time I think tho. As for puppy love, it just depends on how you define it and what you think "love" really means. People mature emotionally at very different rates. I don't know if you can just bunch all adolecents together...it really depends on the person. And besides, its healthy to date a bunch of different people when you're young so you know what kind of personalities to look for in the future.

I agree if u base this theory on Middle School kids...

Cuz Middle School kids just date people who they think is hot...(most of the time) and use them as an accessory (well in my school they do)

and then dump them after 2 days...they REALLY love that person

I agree with nightowl89.
I also do think it depends where you live, because where i live relationships tend to last past your 3 month mark. And like i said, there are a few that fizzle out within weeks. And i didnt get the part where you said, not the whole young relationships as a whole. That part confused me a bit.
And i could also agree on puppy love not as a form of love, and besides, what i was saying was that you cant put a percentage based on your observations of relationships, whether puppy love, infatuation, or the real thing. And

Uhm, I have felt love. Real love. And im very sure of it. It was just too bad for me that he died. And, maybe its just me but i get the feeling your pessimistic towards love only because you either had your heart broken recently, or something along that sort. But, thats just IMO.

That is true but people do it just because of the moment. We're only young once right?

i think of young relationships as...

just...practices? well not really

like, im not saying to go out with girls as practice for ...marraige

but its just like

think about

wat if u started dating wen ur 25?

then ud get married wen ur like 40

so ...basically..its like the starting step

i think that drama is almost inevitable... because the people usually arent mature enough to handle a serious relationship without overreacting or assuming or anything. but i guess these relationships help them learn cuz it's not like they're gonna get married to these ppl (very unlikely)

Relationships in high school are about learning how to develop relationships, what you like, and just to have fun. Drama occurs because people in them often place entirely too much emphasis on them. But they do serve a useful and important purpose.

OK.. well this is my take on it. Obviously these can't be the only factors.
I think that younger people are much more insecure and "needy" than people in their 20s or 30s.. that's why the word "love" is bandied around, because they feel a need to be loved and needed and to know that they're a big part of someone's life. Drama and accusations of "you don't love me" occur when one person doesn't feel as cared for or feels like their partner is slipping away. A percieved loss of control leads to drama because teens haven't really learned communication skills yet or how to express themselves. e.g., they don't usually think to say "i'm hurt because you did ___", they say "you did ___, so you don't love me."

I agree that many relationships in high school aren't really love, just infatuation. I can't tell you how many times people want to go out with someone because they're "hot" and things like that. But there's always the rare occurence where people do stay together for very long. My parents are high school sweethearts.

However, I really do hate the way love is thrown around so easily. My boyfriend and I didn't tell each other we loved one another until about a year after we started going out, when we were really sure. That made it even more meaningful, because I knew he meant it, and didn't just say it like others do.

I completely agree.

I actually know a few ppl who have been together with their boyfriend for a year and a bit. It just varies from person to person.

But I havn't dated anyone yet, or really plan to in highschool.

True. Relationships have drama.
Drama happens because your testing out things, and figuring out things.
And it doesn't only happen during adolescence..

And yea, some peoples relationships last longer then others.
it just depends what you want out of it.. and stuff..
can't really think of what i wanted to say anymore but thats it

Well I agree with you particially. I just don't think that age should matter when it comes to this topic. An adult couple could have just as much drama as a middle school couple. True the L word is tossed around a lot amongst teens, but that doesn't mean that adults don't do that either. It's very rare to find love; that I agree. But I know a couple whos been going out since they were in their middle school years; and now they're on their way to college.

well, I am currently in one of these young relationships and yes there is drama, mainly cuz I'ma guy and he's a guy but whatever. Well be going out a week tomorrow. I hope we last longer than 3 months.

Well you're right about the drama in adolescent relationships. I'm in one of the young relationships, and I work hard trying to work it out everyday. I have friends that last over 5 months...actually one of my best friend has a relationship of one year. If "love" plays a role, then it does. It just depends on the people who say it. I say it with meaning and I don't usually say it unless I mean it.

I hope, too, that my relationship survives this super bumpy ride.

Well, I'm 15, and I've had a relationship last for around 7 months, when I was 12. I've been told I grew up fast though, I don't know if that makes me void for this or not. Just placing my imput so you have another opinion.

hehe well i think that its not only young people...you can't just pin it ALL on the young people...look around everywhere.....EVERYWHERE...young and old(er) they throw the word love around all the time...i don't care what age group you are...love is a very powerful emotion...i mean..theres a difference between loving someone..and being IN love with someone....its just simple...but the thing is...love is so simple, it's complicated...i mean..i really dislike all the young bucks out there saying "oh im so in love with him/her.." and blah blah blah...but older people do it too! and its absolutely rediculous...i just want to know why the majouratiy of the population is so obsessed with "love".....in my opinion, love AND relationships are both over-rated....

i think all relations include drama.
drama = problems = something that exist in everyone's life.
who's to say whats true love anyways?

I agree that there's drama. But that's for every relationship. I totally disagree with that relationships for couples between 12-17 only lasts a week or up to 3 months. There's a lot of those type of people, but I know people who have been together for almost a year or even more.

No no Drama, no no no no Drama!

Anyways I think young relationships like 12-14 are really dumb. They have no idea how to handle a boy or girl and end up breaking up within a month.

I'm in a young relationship...we passed the 3 month mark already..haha

i think it varies for each couple<b>.</B> the sad thing is that sometimes, the girl cares much more deeply for the guy<b>.</b> :/

^Adolescents are not capable of love. Haha kidding

I bet you were playing that Chris Brown - Young Love before you said that.

LOL I'm a grown man and no longer a youngster so I can no longer relate. =]

you're right. im thirteen, ive never gone past the ONE week mark & ive mistaken infatuation for love. yeap =/ but its all good, 'cause i know im still young & i have plenty of time. (anyone who reads my poems, theyre not about my personal life, just what i observe, unless i say so then ive made my statement[:)

i agree somewhat. however i think relationships in high school are great. whether they are a week or up to three months or beyond. it's a great way to date different people and see how you react and interact. although it should not take you away from your studies. it should be your responsiblity to balance school and your love life and various other things.

i think it's adorable when couples in high school date for 1 year+ however i also think people shouldn't be so serious about one person, at least not yet. i think it's a good thing to "play the field"

but this is coming from me, i'm scared of commitment

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this isn't always the case sometimes the guy cares a lot more for the girl. it depends on the guy and girl. if the girl is flirty they may not be as into the relationship or take it as seriously

i say let them say love because it might not be "true" love like marriage but its still a form of love....like i say "i love you" to my famaly and friends and yah .

I'm almost 14...I've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months..so, are we an exception to the 3 month limit?

i kind of agree. i'm young and i think you can be in love with someone at this age. if it's right it will last. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a little over 11 months and i'd say i'm in love. i'm 13 and he's almost 14. i couldn't stand not being without him. i agree that there is a lot of drama yeahh sure there is. we get criticized all the time for our age but i don't care.

i think so as well. whats the point for dating if youre only 12? i mean, 16-17..sure, whatever. theres no point in having a boyfriend when your age just turn to double digits.

i think the only reason teen relationships are so dramatic is because teenagers look for drama and trouble. and plus with the whole highschool dealio. if someone starts a rumor, everyone wil know. so yeah, i think teens put themselves into difficult situations.

Thats so true.. I think love is used as strong like now a days.. && when you use the word love I think that your using the same word that people who are actually in love that you have the same type of relationship as them when you really don't.. I think you need to earn the title of loving someone or being in love with someone.. but I also think we all have ourown perspectives of love.. && we think we make the decision of who we love, but really our heart makes the decision for us.. I also think in order to truly love someone you have to be without them.. because really anyone can learn to live with anybody.. it's the person you can't live without when you really know you're in love.. I also think there's a reason why it's called teen love b/c it's teen love.. it's not called that for nothing.. That's why it's not called real love or true love.. it's called teen.. but it also varies what kind of relationship it is.. for it to be real love or not.. Well this question will always be asked, but honestly I think no one will ever have the perfect answer..

Heh, I've seen relationships younger than that. Most of them that I know of, were out of pity. I agree with you. "Love" is just merely a word to them.

I think you're right.. but I also think that not all relationships are like that. I'm 17 and I've been with my guy for almost a year and a half ;)

The types of relationships you're talking about are the "puppy love" type ones. It's pretty irritating to see young teenagers saying "I LOVE YOU!!!" when they don't have a clue what it means. And when you come down to it, they act like this because they want to be in love.. Which is pretty sad - I mean, enjoy being a kid.. it doesn't last.

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im still in that age range (15)but i never had a boyfriend before... however i agree with you.

-i have a friend that went out with this one guy and then a week later i find out that she broke with him and there's another guy . and then the cycle continues

-then there are young couples i know who throw around the phrase "i love you". after they say it soo many times the phrase has no deep meaning to it. To me "i love you" is a phrase that should be said when it's the right time...when you truly know your feelings for that one special person.

-then there are people who fight over this one guy.
"imm fight that b****" and stuff like that..and its just for this ONE GUY!

-also when the school has a dance...all i hear is "who are you going with"
and it goes on and on

however some relationships turn out really well.

Very, very dramatic and immature.

When I dated in eighth grade, I didn't know what the hell I was doing. I didn't know how to be mature and listen to his side of the story whenever something came up. Like, if he couldn't go somewhere with me, I'd be pissed with him for like a week. All I knew was that I liked the kid. I didn't know how to compromise.

in hs, ms, ect. you are just learning about love, and relationships. drama happens almost everywhere you go, so you can't avoid that. but the younger ages are known for drama, and of course you are gonna have some arguements/fighting as a teen in a relationship, but its just natural...

its possible to fall in love in this age range (12-17). trust me, my 1st love was when im 15 which lasted for 2 years. it dint work out cuz of some respectful reason. I think, It depends on how mature a person is and how serious the couple want to work it out for it to be some silly relationship or not. but yeah i def agree that a lot of these "kiddy" relationships are pretty funny. but hey, its interesting..