Ok, well... my parents are toatlly retarted... they tell me that I'm not allowd to date or have a boyfriend until I'm 16, and they are super over-protective with me... but there's this guy, and we only met about 4 months ago, but we are already best friends and so close, much closer than I've been with anyone in my whole life. And we talked about relationships. He told me that he likes me, I told him that I like him back, but he told me that he doesn't want to go out with me or anyone yet, that he doesn't want a girlfriend. He says that once you go out, when you break up you won't be as good of friends. Which is really true. It makes me happy, because I know that it gives me more time.. he doesn't know that I can;t have a boyfriend till I'm 16. But I'm afraid that by the time I'm 16 (about a year and a half from now) that he'll already have a girlfriend and I won't be able to have him, or it'll be too late and he won't like me anymore, he'll like someone else... and if I disobey my parents, they'll know, I can't keep that a secret, so what should I do?

oh please, you do not have it so bad. my parents told me that i'm not allowed to date until i've finished college, but i've been dating since i was 14. the thing is, your parents don't want you to get so wrapped up in dating that it takes over your life and school work.

if you really like this guy and you really cannot wait then go for it. tell him how you feel. just keep your grades up and your clothes on and i'm pretty sure your parents won't care as much when they find out you have a boyfriend.

^ i thought i had it bad.
mine says not until university. but i've been dating a sweet guy for around 10 months. i think my mom has an idea. but all she ever says is dont let it affect you're school work. as in if i get into fights or break up with him.. psft. it's going great though, 10 months and no fights.

yeah and i agree with Chii on her second fact. keep up your grades. that's usually what they'd like to see.

why don't you try friends with benfits?
you can act like a couple but you're not

Most parents say that "You're not allowed to date until your 964597623"
My parents said that too
But, i told them about my boyfriend and they got over it

JUST TELL YOUR PARENTS
Talk to them about it
They'll change there minds

16, is not very far from your age now thinking that you're 14 going 15


i agree. just prove to your parents that you can do well in studies and have a bf at the same time i don't see why anything is going to make them stop you from having one

but it isn't that easy... my parents know I like this guy... and they are getting mad just when I'm calling him as friends... my grades are staying up, and right now we are just friends with benefits... but yeah, I still don't think that they'll approve, and if I tell them and they get mad they may not let me see him anymore, not even as just friends.

oh no. ur going to not have a chance with some guy. boohoo. it's the end of the world. quick, build the bomb shelters and hide.

no dammit. there are plenty more guys in the world.

when two people break up, they don't automatically become not as close anymore. it depends on the two people in the relationship. if they're both mature enough to handle the fact that they've broken up, then they should be fine. yeah, they'll be some tension, but hey, just play it off. depends on the people really.

don't whine about how ur parents won't let you date until ur 16. they have good reasons for saying so.

u really want him? date him. be more discreet about ur relationship. don't flaunt it and be like, "I LOVE HIM!!!!" all over xangas and myspaces and aim and what not. parents know more than they show. specially asian parents (nosy people). just be real hush hush about it around ur parents. don't know how? learn.

^i agree. it's not the end of the world if you can't date him til you're 16. you want him so bad tell him how you feel, go out with him secretly, what your parents don't know won't hurt them

maybe you should try talking to them? tell them that you're responsible enough to have a bf, and that you're doing great in school. they're probably just looking out for you and don't want you to get hurt

your parents aren't retarded for restricting when you can date. i'm not suppose to date till college. at first, i thought they were being overprotective. however, i changed my mind after being with my boyfriend for so long. we've gotten into rather risky situations and i even thought i was pregnant for a time (never had sex though). when your parents restrict when you can date, they are worried that you might end up making mistakes. you might say that you'll be careful but trust me, i WAS careful. they only want the best for you.

i told my parents about my boyfriend and for the moment, they are okay with it. in fact, they are happy (somewhat) for me. take the time to tell your parents about him. but honestly, if you are looking ahead and worrying about him having a girlfriend, you shouldn't really look into a relationship with him. if you think there's a possibility of him moving on, then there probably is.

Well you don't have it that bad. I'm currently dating a guy I've known since 6th grade! I'm not supposed to date at all during highschool--but I broke the rules. You like him a lot? Love him? Then just take the dive! Don't worry about your parents! They may be all "you can't date him or else!" but if it makes you happy, they'll understand. They may forbid you to call or see him, but hey if you really love/like this guy then you'd be willing to go through all that! Your parents just really love you and don't want you to get out of focus. They want the best for you. So prove to them that you can stay focused while crushing on this guy. It may take time for your parents to accept the fact you like/love this guy, because...well frankly, they care a lot and don't want you hurt.

My parents know that I have a boyfriend. I didn't even have to tell them! They know him already, but not quite fully. We have gone through so much and that proves how much we wanted to be together. It proved that we can be patient--we waited for 3 years to make it official! So be patient. Endure this piece of dilemma, and if you can pull through this, then you're ready for the real test--actually being together.

my parents actually encourage me in getting a girlfriend

and about u guys not being as good of friends...not always true....my ex and i are still like the best of friends

if you want it...go for it...talk to him about it....if he likes you enough he might understand and go for it

you're a guy.



basically you can't assume it'll be like that after a breakup.

i had two girlfriends with different results.

the first one, after our relationship, we still remained friends and are until this day.

the second one, after our relationship, we never spoke a word to each other again.

so it depends.

For some unknown reason, I find it extremely annoying when someone calls their own parents retarded, stupid or anything like that.

Anyways, don't whine. You thought you had it bad? I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend until I finish college and have a job.



I agree...

ok, some of you guys are just mean, but some of you helped alot... I will talk to him about it, that won't be hard, but telling my parents... you don't know my parents. They have the most strict rules ever! Like that I have to read an hour everyday and that I can't be on the computer for over 30 minutes... and when I break the rules they make me pay them money! It's stupid! That's not really on topic, but all I'm saying is that some parents are more understanding than others, and mine are those few who don't understand....

no. calm down. yes, ur parents are understanding. so instead of sitting around and bitching about it, coming to createblog and expecting us to pity u, u do something about. have u ever attempted to talk to ur parents about it? if not, do so. if yes, then oh well. c'est la vie. u simply sneak around behind their back. be resourceful. or prove urself to ur parents that u can handle a relationship and school at the same time.

btw, it's good that ur reading an hour everyday, it'll help u later on. it's good that u stay on the computer for short periods of times, otherwise, ur eyeballs will fall out of their sockets, and when u break the rules, it's not good/good that u pay them money, so u learn not to fcuk up again. now what was that again, negative feedback reinforcement? i can't remember. but yeah. they're just looking out for their kid.

how old are you by the way? If your like younger then 13 then its reasonable. But I would think they are being over protective if your over. My parents said the same thing but I got one anyways and they got to live through it

When I was young, my mom said I couldn't date until I was done University and have a stable job already. While my dad always say that I will be the first to marry and that would be when I'm 20 or something. Geez

Anyway, my mom said I can date, as long as it doesn't make my marks drop or anything. She told me that a few weeks ago, when I was really depressed for the past few months, over a huge crush. Well they all met him like 2 days ago, and because of my bratty sibling, they always thought there was something going on between the dude and I. Not sure what's going on between us two, but if they are teasing me and such pratically everyday, I have no clue what will happen if we do go out together. Sometimes I get the feeling that I am allowed to, while at other times, I'm not allowed to. It's so annoying!

I never had a boyfriend so I never had to worry about my parents finding out. Heh >< Good because I don't have to worry. Bad because I really like the dude I like now. He knows and such, meh..Not important to this topic.

just wait until 16, don't rush.
if he's sweet enough, he'd wait for you...
but if he doesn't, then it just wasn't meant to be.
there's plenty more.

with my parents i had to wait till i was 16...which was cool...when i was 15,14,and 13 i didnt even pay attention to boys. ( with the exception of one)

now the problems i have are with what guys i date...
im puerto rican and japanese...

my boyfriend is guatemalan...when my dad told my mom that...
she asked me a million and one questions...
after she asked her questions...my grandmother and aunt continued the interrogation...

parents suck sometimes...
this is life.

Agreed..
When 2 people break up things don't always become really different..Like me and my ex..We broke up, but we're super close friends.

And if you want him, but your parents don't allow you, then you can still go out with him, but don't tell your parents. Its one or the other. Tell your parents, and not go out with him, or don't tell your parents and go out with him..I'm going out with someone and my parents kinda know, but they don't care as long as I'm getting good grades, and I'm not having a child soon..So ya..

^^ true

if the person really did care about you....and you cared about them...
you'll stick around whether youre dating or not...
when you care about someone you find ways to keep them around...
even if it is just as a friend

thank you guys, that helps a lot... I mean, we can go out together, but with a group of people, not alone, and i guess till I'm 26 that's good enough for me! THANKS! *huggles*