Okay, so Brett* my boyfriend and I hav been together for a good amount of time. I love him with everything I have, and he says he loves me. This past summer, he started to act more like an a-hole than ever. He used to call, and he'd tell me about this girl he thinks is hot, and how he likes her. I dont know...but that got me pretty badly. Then, it started with the phone calls just to tell me goodbye, and he's walking out the door and I wouldnt hear from him in 3 weeks. In October, i found out about this girl who he'd been seeing more of, and he slept at her house, etc. Now, he started to blow me off for her....but still in all, I tried not to love him, even though I wanted him sooo badly. Meanwhile, we broke up for a month, and then he came crawling back. And since then...one day it's like "I love you" then the next day "we dont belong together" and then back to "I love you."

-So here I am, hurt and confused. We've been together for 2 years, and I would hate to break up over this. I've gotten no explanations for the way he's acting...except for the girl thing which he told me he was "kidding" - but obviously it's bullshit if it went on everyday for like, a half hour. I have ppl tellin me to stay with him, most importantly myself, and then people saying to dump him, which I want to do...I think?

I really need more opinions.

Thanks!

gahh thats really hard to say...but i think you have to call him up and just decide together...talk about it...understand EXACTLY wt is goin on...and then decide

communication is the key
-aMiT-

Y'know, I've had boy problems like that before... and seriously, it sucks. I know, but sometimes... if the problem persists, it's only healthy for you to just... end it. I know that's probably something you don't want to hear-- but in time you'll find that you're better off without that drama. And really, if he's causing all this grief to you, then he isn't worth it. And I'm thinking... sometimes, guys like that have the tendency to talk out of their ass. But who knows-- your boyfriend could actually be genuine about he feels for you. But if he has the audacity to keep leading you on like this, he just needs to burn. I don't know, I guess it's just me, but I don't have any tolerance for scumbags like that. Two years is a long time though... but if he's actually changed, like altered his behavior and personality, it might be pretty hard to change him back to the way he way. It's common for that to happen... I mean, people change, and people grow... maybe you need growth-- without him. I don't know, but if you choose to stay with him, the best of luck to you, and I'll support your decision, because you're the only one who can determine your self-happiness. But take care, and keep safe <33

He's confused. Give him some time.

hm...dunno...

i read this thing that says

"if your boyfriend/girlfriend changes...."

and it says like, to give them time, and if they dont come back to their usuall self to ditch them.... >___>

oh yeah, and to talk to him, ask him why hes changed..

hey, im a guy but if my g/f slept over some doods house, i would of got "aZn PrYdE up In DeA aNd JumPed HiS AsS" then i would dtich her...but then again...you lub him ;__;

Yeah, I can relate to this.. kinda.. Except that he didn't sleep over her place and whatnot.. It was during the first few months that started to be bf/gf. He and some other girl just talked and nothing more. That went on for like 3 months til he finally told me what was going on. Yeah eventually, we broke up and didn't talk to him for like a week or 2. We talked it out and stuff, I guess he realized what he had lost. I gave it some time to see if he changed or not like he said himself.. And I must say that he really did, now we're almost on our 3rd year and i couldn't ask for more but the past still haunts me every once in awhile and he knows that. He's been trying his best for the last year or so and I thank him for that but sometimes I do question my own love for him.. But I mean, I have a reason right?? Sometimes the past really gets to me that I just want to leave him but I can't because I feel it in my heart that I need him.. Other than our past, everything is just fine.. He's boyfriend material now.. Haha.. But whatever your decision I hope it's for the best and good luck.. It may end up like mine or maybe not. But hopefully, you'll be happy no matter what...

i kan definatly relate umm if hes a jerk leve him but if ur happy stay but tlk 2 him 1st n tell hm how u feel

i dunno this seems to b a tough one. i can relate to this, but just to mention that i was in 7th grade not knowing what the hell i was doing. itz hard to really study others. if u really think of what'll happen then just take a chance on that. personally if u don't wanna add more drama in your life, then just drop it all together. mayb u don't wanna hear bout this, but it's for the best i guess.

i don't kno, ask yourself that question. can things still work out? only u can make that choice n no one else makes it for u

forget that f0o! wth... he's a bastard that doesnt deserve you. shure, he mite be confused... but WHY is he with you then? you need someone that wont be confused and wont do that to you. i think ur too nice... if i was u, i would cheat on him and make him suffer or murder him and freeze up his body in antartica.

get his side of the story first...if that doesn't work out...then dump him

it seems like u already knoe that he was bs-ing... wut ppl tell u are their opinions.. wut matters most is how u feel... i understand how u dont wanna break it cuz its been so long but wut if it happens again?? if u really like him a lot i suggest another chance..but dont fall too deep the second time... and one quick advice is if u made a choice, dont look back, wish u luck

yea hard to say

only you can make a decision like that. its kinda like the music video thats called "my baby" by bow wow. if you seen it, then regard what i am saying. i mean the video was about the girl mentally and emotionally getting hurt by her boyfriend and someone came and showed her how love is suppose to be and she had the decsion to pick her xboy or bow wow and theres a split screen. in one she goes with her x and she ends up dying becuase they were fighting in the car and it was raining and if she goes to bow wow she lived a happy life. pretty much if you cant take the BS of your ex regardless of how long you have been then move on because theres no point in trying to fix someone who obviously does things behind your back. i mean the heart does play game but the mind doesnt. so think really hard whether you want to be the man or not. i mean do you see yourself with him in the future as in having kids with him and sharing a life? if you do then continue to love him and hopefully he'll learn to wise up and if you dont then i think you have already made up your mind.

its up 2 u wen kant decide 4 u kus its ur desicion i kno its hard but u gotta decid for urself its ur choice... im srry i kno its hard

sounds like hes a little CONFUSED. just give him some time to figure it out. just dont like ask him whats wrong or why ur acting like that cuz it'll just annoy him. hope that helps

it sounds like he's toying with ur feelings. i think its best to forget him and move on.. u don't deserve this. but then again its ur choice.. good luck :]

Do what you feel is right, to yourself. What is more beneficial for you, will lead to much clearer statements of justice. People can love, and you can love them, but you have to respect that love you give in order to recieve that love which you....love pretty much. You'll know what to do when the time comes. How cliche' , but true. Take care.

I know it can be hard to let go, and I can tell that you love him a lot, but I just don't think it's worth it. Just forget about this guy, and focus on your goals in life. Remember, he can end up hurting you again.

Good luck

well... u kno tha answer. ur saying that he's acting like an a-hole buh comes crawlin' back to u and isht righT? well, i cant determine if this is right or wrong because it matters of tha things that happen in between. u kno tha small things matter.. buh from tha looks of it from my eyes, i say u lose tha guy. if he's comin' back to u doesnt that prove that a man would want u. and i say u can git a so much better guy!

let's put it this way...you claim that you love him...and if you truly do...in the long run..this wouldn't matter...a simply fact with guys is that most tend to be oblivious the things they have...but once it's gone..they'll want it back...think about how you treat him...if you've done everything a girlfriend could with loving your boyfriend...then sooner or later..he'll see that he's missing out.... in time..you'll see his true self..if he's an assohole..trust me...u'll get over it....i'll end it w/ the infamous quote "no man is worth your tears and the one who does will never make you cry"

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girl...i wish da best fer you!

all of us listening are here fer you!

there MUST be some better guy out there WAITING for you!

i can feel it!

maybe the reason he still clings to you is cuz yur like his safety net which is a horrible feeling...

he didnt treat you right.

he had feelings fer another gurl.

and barely any fer you.

i say dont ever talk to him again.

neither be within reach of him.

or...

you can take some of those ppls advices and communicate wit him.

face to face wit him.

make sure you look at him DEAD in da eyes.

givin him yur confidence knowing yur not goin to back down.

men should treat their sweetie pies, girlfriend, lover, like a princess.

not some "safety net" or back-up plan.

love is soooooooo fragile...

u hav to break up with him. if he did it once, he may do it again and it'll break u more. to guys, "i luv u" don't mean all that much. so wen they say it, it may not mean wut it means. i mean, he slept at her house AND also talks about how hot she is wen u'r the gf. that's not a bf, that's just a friend. u may think that u luv him mor than anything but to me, that's not ur soulmate or bf material.

have you ever heard the song someday by mariah carey!!!!if u havent go look up the lyrics!!and i think u should dump him cuz if hes gonna act like that then hes stupid because u love him so much(as u say)!!!