So my mom has become more annoying than usual lately...

I ran my cell phone bills up for the past two months and for that I was sorry. She told me to use our home line so I did, and she got mad for that because she was missing her business calls. So she told me to use our other home line, so that's exactly what I have been using for the past two weeks.

Now she's making up some stupid excuse about me not managing my time wisely.. because I spend the last two hours of my night talking to my boyfriend. I don't understand! I spend all the time before that doing my homework, and she knows. She wanted me to be honest when I started getting serious about a guy, and that is exactly what I did. Apparently that was a stupid thing for me to do, since all she ever does now is blame every bad thing that happens to me on this relationship. What did she frickin want, for me to tell her so she could have a reason for my misfortunes?!

I realize all parents are dense sometimes.. but it seems like all she ever does is NAG. I even offer for us to spend time together, watch a movie together or some sh*t like that... but no.. that's not it. I swear it's menopause or something. Every single f*cking thing she says to me is about the bathroom being dirty, me wasting my time, not doing enough work around the house...

I'm trying so hard to be a good daughter, I try to strike up conversation, but it's so much more frustrating than it seems. Everything turns into her b*tching about my latest not doing the exact right thing and I just can't believe how she can be so frickin impossible.

Do you guys have any ideas at all of how I can get through to her... I am obviously desperate. I appreciate the fact that my boyfriend respects me and my mom enough to refuse to talk to me on the phone when my mom is angry.. but it seems more often than not that she's pissed off these days. How do I get her happier so I can talk to him freely and without feeling like I have to hide something? I fear that it's gonna tamper our relationship eventually if he's scared to call or talk to me because of my anal mother...

I totally understand your situation, although in my case, my friends would be your boyfriend. My mom blames everything that I do wrong on them, and bitches at me about anything. She says that I haven't got my priorities straight, when that's totally untrue. This year I've been getting the best marks out of all my years in high school.

I've never had a strong relationship with my mother, however I still try to strike up conversations and strengthen whatever is existent in our relationship. I find that my mother is responsive when I'm genuinely trying to help, or talk about stuff at school, all that fun stuff. Mothers can tell when you're giving them attitude, and when they can't, it's usually because they're not feeling well.

I'd have to say that you should give your mom a break (as should I) when she gets angry. We've all heard this way too much, but our parents only want to help us. Also, try having a conversation with her about it, if you haven't already. She'll respect the fact that you took the time to talk to her, and she'll know that this is an issue important to you. She'll listen.

I have almost the same thing with my mom and my boyfriend. She doesn't even let me talk to him on the phone when I'm at home...
Eh, my mom and I don't really have a relationship and I'm just kinda fine with that. But maybe, you should sit her down one day and explain it to her or something?

I'm sorry about your situation =(

I think you should wait until this bad time passes. I think both of you are going through a stage. Would it be easier to wait until she returns to her normal self? If she doesn't, well, it's time to sit her down and tell her she should.

Wow, I totally understand this situation. I've def been in it before.
You almost feel like there is no way out.
About the phone, do you have a certain plan on your phone where you can talk for free nights and free weekends? If not, you might want to try considering that. Or sitting down and calmly talking to your mom about you talking to your boyfriend at night and between the hours of ___ and____ you will be on the phone.
Mothers really like plans and schedules. If you look at it from your mom's perspective she is probably really stressed and taking it out on you :( And i'm sorry about that. Best thing you can do is talk to her about it, and talk to her how much this boy means to you. I know 2 hours on the phone at night with your boyfriend can fly. i've def been there. lol I think i've talked about to 10 hours on the phone before. lol.
Things will work out :)

dude, its HER house and HER phones.

^ but she has to have a life...

I'm in SORTA the same situation, i totally understand.
I agree with gigi. Talk to her about it, talk helps everything.
Like, not that long ago, she kept going on about how she didn't like my ex, who, at the time, i still liked, so i picked the right time and told her he's not that bad when you really get to know him.
But I hate him now. ugh.
So yeah, just talk to her, that always helps.

Are you kidding me...? That does not mean she cannot have freedom in the house or with the phone.

The best advice I can give you is to talk to her. If she starts bitching or arguing with you again, try to be calm and don't argue back. Calmly explain what you feel and what's going on.

i agree talk to her. that's how the both of you will sort out your problems.

Yes, because raising children like how you'd take care of a dog is an effective parenting method.

...and that's how you get kids moving out of the house the minute they turn 18!

Thanks for the advice, though. I don't know if I'll actually talk to her, but it helps to know that there are people going through the exact same thing. =p

''Yes, because raising children like how you'd take care of a dog is an effective parenting method. ''

Dogs dont use the phone and run up the bills for hours and hours a day. smartass. have some respect for ur ma, she's the one who has to pay. stop moaning and talk to her.

ur gettin on as if its a crime not to be allowed to run up huge bills

wait, you don't get free nights and weekends ? orr..do you use your cell before it's like night ?

I understand where you're coming from...but you also have to look at it from her point of view. I'm practically in the same situatoin as you are.... and I get pissed off at my mom too...but then you stop and think about it. As much as it doesn't feel like it, she does things mostly for your own good. The cell phone bill? That money could have been used to buy food, or clothes...or gone towards a trip for the family. Missing business calls? that directly effects you too...if she loses her job...you could be screwed. The fact that you are willing to do as she asks, however, is a good step. It means you're listening, and you're starting to compromise.

Most parents are very protective about their children and relationships, because they don't want them to get hurt, and they don't want them to make rash decisions based on them. Even if you spend all day working on homework, perhaps those last two hours could be better spent?

In any situation..communication is key...I know it sounds retarded..and everyone says it. However, show that you're grown up, and show that you're listening. Communicate with her, not only with words, but with your actions. Actions speak louder than words, and if you show that you're listening, she'll be more likely to listen to you. No matter what, she's your mother, and she's trying to do things in your best interest. Sometimes she may be wrong...but I've found over the years.....my mother very often ends up being right.

What is she going to do? Kick her out of the house for using the 3 phones they have?


Just talk to her, and say, dude I'm getting serious, but are you going to bitch at me for that too?

shes prolly just wantin tobitch about sumthin cuz sumthins wrong at work or elsewhere. usually my mom acts that way when shes stressed

If respect for your ma means not using a phone, then you're wrong, my friend, you're very wrong.

As far as I know, she's respectful to her mom in every other way, and I don't see a huge problem with using a damn phone. I'm not saying that running up bills is a good idea, but she needs her freedom too.

well, i dont know how far your boyfriend lives from you, but what takes two hours to speak on the phone, you mightve just gone ahead to go on and see him at his house, or go out to a movie or something. i dont know how old you are, so i dont know your limits, but if you guys want to talk for a long period of time, do it in person out of the house, on a date. so that way, no phone bill is ran up, and you are happy because you have all this time to talk to your boyfriend. now if your mom is not cool with that, try and be like (respectfully) "wtf, i thought that i just spend more time with him rather than talk to him on the phone for two hours".