CindyRelly
Nov 30 2005, 10:09 PM
Hi ladies
well, uhm I don't know were to start
I'm the kind of person someone can trust right, so I have all these friends telling me these problems but I HAD NEVER GOTTEN SO MAD ABOUT SOMEONE'S SITUATION! I have a friend who I've told a million times that she needs to stop making out w/ this guy she doesn't even know. She thinks there's nothing wrong with it, BUT IT IS! This guy even wants to take away her ... virginity and she's even fine with it. I've told her pretty much everything, but she just DOESN'T LISTEN ... sometimes when she gets home from work, she calls me because she's hurt because this guy she's making out with hurts her feelings???
Well also, really also wanted to say hiii to everyone who read this, i just joined and so far i think this is a great place
Looow
Nov 30 2005, 10:13 PM
moved to relationships.
i'm not sure you're asking about advice though.
hi to you too =)
_sarcastic_
Nov 30 2005, 10:24 PM
you could try telling her again, if she doesnt' listen then i guess you can just back off and let her learn it the hard way
kayemo
Nov 30 2005, 10:26 PM
Eeshh...tough situation. I've been in simliar.
All you can really do about it is offer her your advice and make sure she knows you care about her. She's going to make whatever decision she makes, but whether she makes the right one or the wrong one just be there for her as her friend.
I hope everything works out!
coconutter
Nov 30 2005, 11:00 PM
Print some pictures off the internet with people who have aids. Tell her you can get AIDS through kissing sometimes and sex. Like the pictures need to need grusome
rofl.
Chii
Dec 1 2005, 01:09 PM
since being nice about things didn't work, it's time for some tough love.
tell her that she needs to take a good look at reality. he treats her like sh*t. and her virginity is something special, she can only give it away once and it should be to someone who deserves it. not some douche bag.
ask her if this what she wants, some guy who's obviously just using her and her crying every night about it. just keep saying things like that to her, she'll have to get the message that this guy is bad news.
pinayprincess
Dec 1 2005, 02:02 PM
listen, she might be your best friend or w/e but if she doesnt listen to you, then shes gonna have to learn it on her own... my best friend used to cheat on her boyfriend soo much, i mean this guy was so nice to her, and she took advantage of it by having sex with 3 other people and fooling around with other boys, getting their numbers,etc. I tried to tell her [me and my other guy-bestfriend] that she needs to chill out b/c this shit is gonna affect her in the future, that one day this guy is gonna walk away from her, and he did! we told her this and she never listened... she then learned her lesson all by herself although it had to take atleast 3 months to realize that she shouldnt of done that shit...
mzbbc
Dec 1 2005, 04:01 PM
i agree with chii. when she complains to you, just be like, "listen. i told you that you don't even know this guy, so don't be complaining when you know by now that he's just using you."
CindyRelly
Dec 1 2005, 04:53 PM
o Thank you very much for reading this post. Basically I've done everything you ladies have said ... from the aid thing to you are going to remember every single word I've said. I'm just disappointed to see smart girls go though stuff like that, when they know all the words of advise were GIVEN. Then they regret things...
Anywho... I'm soo glad the weekend is almost here again LOL
THANX
misoshiru
Dec 2 2005, 09:58 AM
QUOTE(Chii @ Dec 2 2005, 2:09 AM)
since being nice about things didn't work, it's time for some tough love.
tell her that she needs to take a good look at reality. he treats her like sh*t. and her virginity is something special, she can only give it away once and it should be to someone who deserves it. not some douche bag.
ask her if this what she wants, some guy who's obviously just using her and her crying every night about it. just keep saying things like that to her, she'll have to get the message that this guy is bad news.
mm...very true
in this, if she won't listen to you, i guess she'll have to learn through the hard way.
Mikael
Dec 3 2005, 11:15 AM
if all else fails, use the ultimate method. i call it the "drop kick". now im not telling you to do that to your friend, and im not telling you to do that to him, im just saying that if for some reason a bunch of guys you knew just happened to "drop kick" the guy, well then thats not your fault. you had no idea. right?
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