Well... in my family (just me my mom, dad, and sister) we are having some problems... mostly about my sister... a while ago i made a topic about my sisters boyfriend and how terrible he was and jsut stuff like that... well she is still with him and now this is worse than ever... my sister and mom get in arguments EVERY day... i cant take it much longer.. every time i hear them yell it makes me cringe and just really hurt.. mornings are the worst because im just all emotional and just messed up because i have both mom and sister yelling at each other (me trying to get ready or school) and im in the middle... i cant take it... my mom is very dramatic, so is my sister, so for example about 30 minutes ago they got into an argument because my sister hasn't been home all day.. she was at dance practice for school and other stuff... of course her stupid bf...

so my mom gets really angry and doesnt want her helping to put ornaments up.. so my sister says she wont do her homework till she is in bed... so they argue for about 40 minutes then my sister leaves to her room.. this is a daily thing... my sister is a senior, going to college soon.. hopefully the house will get quiter... but for now its just really stressful and im forcing myself to stay away rom other bad things that people say make u feel better... in other words my friends say i should do drugs which i will not to EVER!!! but i just want to get out of my house and go somewhere else.. i guess thats why i cant wait to grow up and move out.. im just really confused and i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on how to relieve stress...

im sick and tired of hearing them argue but theres noting i can do about it... i dont want to open up to a school counselor because they will most likley reccomend some family therapy stuff which is too embarrasing... what should i do?

have your sister and mother tried to have a quiet calm discussion where they talk about their issues?...

and also im not sure they are your friends if they encourage you to use drugs...

they arent my friends now that i think about it.. more like.. aquantinces who eavesdropped over my conversations or read my notes... but thats thing, my mom and sister CANT have a quiet disscussion because it turns into a balistic arguement

are you the only person worried about this? i really think you should seek help...

but i dont know waht to do is the thing.. i mean im only 14 and i just dont really understand this... i mean i can already know im withdrawing from my family pretty much.. i mean i prefer being alone than with others... i just want something, but i dont know what it is... by want i mean need.. missing.. i know my parents love me but thats not it...

i really urge you to get help... it WILL help... if it doesnt the person is an idiot and find another cousellor... that is what they are there for... theyll help you...

hm...family issues are always hard. Do you have a friend that you're comfortable maybe talking about this with? I have trouble actually talking about my family problems the most to friends even tho they are who i go to usually to get me through issues. I love and tlak to my parents too but u need someone to vent to. Its too bad you don't have other siblings(my brother helps a lot sometimes) If you don't have a friend ur comfortable talking to, maybe another adult? Sitting down with your mom and telling her how you hurt is also a good idea. And well...your sister is a senior then you only have a year left. its good that you're aware of teh drug issue too. they are def not your answer...good for you. Hang in there!

i deff wont go to drugs now that im more open minded (mornings) but i do have some friends that i can trust to keep my secrets, but none of the are very good at advice... im usually the one who gets talked to about problems, and i give really good advice.. but i dont know who would do that 4 me..

well i would say just talking sessions but u said it didnt work...

idk...
maybe you could do something like aim. where u just write the things you want to talk about on paper, and what u or they hink about it. then...you guys could just respond by writing on the sheet...

idk

sry about ur situation...its a very good thing that ur smart and ur not doing srugs tho

why dont you get your own boyfriend? mayeb it will make you feel better. im not sure. but dont ever do drugs as a pain killer, that will just hurt you more. you could try to talk to a school cous. it could help.

huh? im a guy... lol i dont like guys either....

^hahaa.

I suggest you seek help from a counselor. These types of situations can cause a great deal of stress that can effect you in school and overall, your ability to think or act. But I can see that you don't want to do that.

Try talking to your mother about how much it's bother you. Communication is the key. The arguments are most likely not only effect you emotionally. Your mother can be dealing with a boatload of stress and talking to her could help both you and her ease all that tension out.

You could also try talking to your sister. Ask her whether or not she believes that she would sacrifice her relationship with her family for a boy that she's seeing. She's going to college soon. Many people need their parents to help them in their beginning college months. Remind her that her parents will be with her forever, and as for this guy, will he be there if he gets her pregnant? Will he be able to support her? Or would he just leave her the minute he gets into her pants?

Your mother should also understand that your sister is going to college soon. She's going to be more independent than ever. Your mother might just be feeling more overprotective because she's going off to collge. Or really, to see what the real world is really like.

Sorry, I know that was long, but I just finished an essay for english and I'm in the mood to type.

thanx =) all of u this does mean a lot to me to hear other people helping me with my problem but ill probably talk to a counselor first... but then ill move onto my mom and my sister. but counselors make me mad because when u ask them to keep things confidential they always blab... but ya when u said it can effect me other ways rather than emotion, it is. i mean i get all A's and some B's... but i KNOW i could get all A's but i just cant stand the yelling sometimes because it just drives me.. ccrazy inside.. im sure its bad to hide my emotions... like that...