Well my cousin Liz has the boyfriend right...and they have been together for about 5 months or more..I'm not positive..She loves him so much..she even lost her virginity to him (shes 17, hes 18). Anyways he's been acting real strange lately. Awhile ago they broke up..but they got back together..He blames his friends, school, and his financial situation for his attitude..but what does your girlfriend, the one your supposed to love have anything to do with that? He neglects her from time to time and it just sucks.. Like last week he was celebrating his b-day so Liz invited me to go with her, his friend and him to the movies. My other cousin Elvis(his friend) was supposed to come but he was running late. So her boyfriend was pissed and disappointed cause he was waiting like an hour for Elvis or whatever. So we just went to the movies and told Elvis to meet us there.. Harry Potter was sold out so my cuz asks her bf wat movie he wants to see..its his b-day and all..And he's like "whatever pick suttin i dont care"..I looked at her face and she was upset..So we just left. He was blaming her for the fact that Elvis couldnt make it. How was it her fault? Well we all took a cab to a resturant and she paid..His friend told him to change his attitude cause he's just being messed up. So he all of a sudden was acting cool like his normal self. Then he joked around and said he missed me and he hugged me and was like oo this is my girl right here (we used to go out a looong time ago) so that was just akward. I'm like okay thats not funny. He's like what I'm just playing. Okay so everything was fun and cool the rest of the night, Elvis eventually showed up so all was good. Four days later I see my cuzin Liz and she looked sad..She couldnt even hear any love songs on the radio cause she would get pissed..lol..Apparently she hasn't been able to get in contact with her bf since his b-day dinner..He hasn't called her or anything...

From what I have heard, hes been coming around my cousin Elvis' neighborhood alot and never told my cuz Liz about it..Keep in mind, her bf doesnt even live close to us..and he used to always complain that it was too far and he didnt have the money..apparently that was bs. He's been spotted with this girl that's friends with Elvis..she lives in his building..But they tried to play it off and acted like they weren't even hangin out.. He's been caught down here a couple times..by himself but still..he doesnt even try to see my cuz..his GIRLFRIEND WHOM HE "LOVES"?? Well she ended up going to where he lives..I mean she has to be on the train by herself (we live in New York) and up there where he lives, guys are a tad bit TOO flirtatious. I dunno it's just...She gives him too many chances.. I get it, she loves him..Damn love is blind.

What should I do? I wanna talk to her about it..but I don't have enough to prove anything?

hmm, guy sounds kinda like a jerk. am I right?
I would pick a right time and talk to her about it, tell her what you think of him, just don't come across too negative. Sometimes you might think you don't have enough proof, when really you do have enough, yet other times you can jump to conclusions, but from what you said it sounds like he doesn't love her. And she loves him right? hmm, I'd advise her to dump him, even though yeah she loves him but if he's not the one then nobody can change that. I think that every guy is an experience and there's a lesson to learn from it, untill eventually you find the right guy. I'm not saying push her into dumping him or anything, just tell her the facts, if you think she should know. To be honest, and speaking from experience, i think that if somehow you can arrange them to talk things over, talking does everything the world of good. Also, while talking to him, she might decide he isn't the one. And the way I see it he isn't. I would just talk to her and tell her you're concerned, it's much better if she's aware.

I hope that helps...

sometimes, people are going to resent you for butting in though. I know it sucks, but the best thing to do is probably let your cousin learn this the hard way.. and then just be there for her.

well..its like if things don't change with him ima have to talk to her..not tell her about my suspicions..because its not exactly in my place to do so..but just to tell her to really look into her relationship and to decide whether its worth gettin hurt so many times..i dunno..