Alright well I started to go out with tom about 2 1/2 months ago? And I have to say, Ive completley fallen for him, like totally in love. We've gone out before, but I havent gotten over him. Well, there was this day that he broke up with me twice in one day. The first time was because he felt like he had to "compete" for me, since a lot of other boys like me. The second time, well, Im not sure. We got back together, though.

After that, we shook it off but he started acting a little wierd. But he got over that. Then a little later on, he started to act really wierd. Like, he would just sit next to me while we were watching a movie, and not even put his arm around me or anything. And we ALWAYS cuddle together. He wouldnt hold my hand or kiss me or ANYTHING. So we started to talk and he said that he was just tired and stuff.

Few weeks later, same thing happens again, except he DITCHES me to go hang out with his friend, mike, who left a message on my answering machine saying extremely rude things about me. Tom happens to know that his friend did this, and yet did nothing. A friend of mine told me Tom was talking negitivly about me to all the "popular girls." Tom later came back to my house that night, ONLY because some odd person egged him, and he wanted to clean himself up. He only left at 10:30 because he didnt want to be with me, he wanted to walk home with his friend.

Everyone tells me I should break up with him and that he doesnt deserve me and all that jazz, but Im so in love with him its impossible to break up with him. I mean, there are times I wish I wasnt going out with him, but there are times that I absolutly love him.

Help??

(Sorry for such a long post. I couldnt sum it up anymore.)

EDIT:: I finally broke up with him. Im now happily going out with Zach =) <33 and thnx to all that helped =)

Enter a phase in your relationship where you think "OK, I like him, but I don't think I'm getting respect that I deserve." Once you enter this phase, you must accept the fact this might not go down like a fairy tale. Think about your feelings for him and his feelings for you a couple of days. If you aren't satisfied with him yet, you have to ask him about his committment to you. If you're not satisfied with his answer, you're going to have to accept that he's weak or something and just let him go.

But I hope everything works out for you. He seems like a confused kid, and needs some guiding. Maybe you can give him some guidance for a relationship.

i think i understand what you're going through. i think everyone goes through this stage. its just wheter you pass it or not.
well yea you still have feelings and maybe he does too.
just say it out, have a talk.
and if you two have needs that the other cant bring up, maybe it just wont work out.
not everyone has to work out.
theres more than one person out there for you =)

just dumo him, hes a retard and u should tell him to go fist himself, and that u deserve better

Your in a predicament...your causing this hurt on yourself if you don't end things now. Yeah it hurts alot...but thats love. There's nothing without pain. We all say we love that someone. like love them to death and we would cry so hard. Now heres the question...do you love him that much to hurt yourself? Or love yourself in order to let things go and move on hunn. If you continue this looks like your going to get yourself some scars. Atleast be his friend, and if down the road he asks you out again and says sorry then...you decide.

thats just my opinion but whatever you choose i hope it works out.

Hes a total bitch! I wouldnt go for him! You can do wayy better than him.
your friend,
LADDluver1

this is what i do.

- make a list of good and bad
- if good > bad see if the good matters more ( ie, honesty > insert something bad and if you value honesty, overlook the small bad stuff )
- be determined with your decisions.. ( ie, PR0MiSE yourself and silently give him chances and if he breaks it, then be determined. what's meant to happen is meant to happen. )

gluck : )

OK...here is the breakdown. I used to be in a relationship with a girl that I really loved and she really loved me. Around the same thing happened, since relationships are practically all the same. The thing was that I wasn't appreciating her enough and I did start hanging out with my friends more and wasn't paying attention. She broke up with me a couple of times because we said that we would change and stop fighting, but it didn't help because we kept on doing the same things. So now she broke up with me, for good, and now I realize how much I did appreciate her while we were together and there was no need to fight. Anyway, he might really love you to like I loved her: he just wants some alone time and is probably tired from working and whatnot. What you can try to do is make him feel comforted from a hard day and give him a lot of attention. The other choice is to have a "break"- not break-up, I think that this would show him that he needs to appreciate you more because I know a break probably would have worked for me. Anyway, hopefully this helps you and if not than at least I tried.

wow that was a fast recovery
are you sure you loved Tom in the first place?