well like i know you should try to stay friends with your ex and stuff right? and the break up was mutual, but i still feel like i got dumped for some reason. o_o anywhooo he said he wanted to stay friends. so last nite was the day right after we dumped each other. and well the whole night he was inching me.

like if he wanted to stay friends why would he act so arrogant and stuff you know? and he kept teasing me and it was so annoying. i mean he said he wanted to stay friends so why doesnt he act that way?

my friend pointed out that maybe he's always acted that way but i never noticed his flaws. but it seemed kinda on purpose if you know what i mean.

pure bs. the whole night it was like he was trying to be the center of attention and trying to prove that hes having more fun than me being single and im thinking "wow way to stay mature"

so like should i even make an effort to maintain a friendship cause he asked for it or should i just ignore it and just keep going and dont even give an effort for a friendship.

cause i know the "right thing to do" is stay friends but when do you know its not even worth it cause hes such a prick?

sounds like an immature prick. he's prolly got some regret issues goin on if he's actin like that so openly and on purpose. if i were you, i wouldn't bother with him.

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Friends w/ exes are not usually a good idea, especially so fresh after a break up. If I were you, I wouldn't bother with him.

my theory is, and this is just a scenario:

okay. so you say you guys both dumped each other. surely you both couldn't have said it at the same time, right? so i'm guessing one of you brought it up first, and the second one just agreed to it.

my guess is that you brought it up, the whole idea, y'know "it's-not-you, it's-me" kinda thing. and just as you were proceeding to dump him, i think he told you that he was thinking the same thing. thus, having you guys "mutually dump each other."

but i don't he was being honest. he probably still liked you and had feelings for you, but because he knew you were going to dump him, he could have retaliated and lied, saying he felt the same way in order to save his own ego--not to be dumped.

and he probably said he wants to still be friends, because he still likes you.

just... based on what you wrote, i kinda inferred what would be the most valid situation for it. hopefully i'm on the right track.

so if you "both dumped each other" and he still has feelings for you, he wouldn't want to lose you. he'd probably want to win you back--although his actions conflict with what he said.

but what he said, i don't think it's what he really truly believes.

my guess is just that he doesn't want to lose you.

but hey, i could be wrong

^ that's a good theory.

but wait, what's "inching you"? maybe he just feels insecure right now. i think you should give it some time if you really want to be friends with him, because i've never known anyone, who just got out of relationship and went straight back to friends.

maybe he still likes you? i mean, sometimes guys just do that to make the girl jealous.

lols i hate arrogant guys like that! grr...i think i know how you're feeling because i have this "friend" whom i use to like or whatever and once he found out i liked him he started acting hard because he thought he could get me. and then when i dissed him like doodoo he just became an a*hole and tried to hit on me even more....

so yeah...i just think that he thinks you still like him and that he wants to temp you...get my drift? if he's doing that then the eff with him...lols

or theres always that little person inside of me saying that he might still like you...i mean if he's being an a*hole then no he doesnt like you...but from reading your story i really wasnt clear on that...im sorrie

AHHHH the aftermath. my relationship ended like a few months ago and we both agreed to be friends and sometimes it's still a little awkward for me considering how much of jerk he was being at times so now it's just so weird that he can still face me after it all but other times, it seems like we never even went out.

it's just that guys get over breakups and all a little quicker than us. well not necessarily but they dont let it get to them as much as some might and yeah, he's going want to prove to you that he's better off without you for himself and maybe to you and everyone else to seem like the tough guy. anyways, we're all still so young so he probably doesn't know how to act. he's still a little boy inside. by bothering you like that, it shows that he probably still cares for you.

all and all, i think it's worth a try. things will most likely tone down a little as time passes but if he just keeps ticking you off then you have your right to keep your distance and still remain as one of those very casual friend or acquintance types.

good luck dear

aww thanks guys haha but i've decided to act immature about it =) well for now at least. take a week or two off from him. i mean one of the reasons i broke up with him was i just needed a break ya know