Lately i have been hanging with the wrong people i think... they are bangin', have drugs, and weapons, and they treat girls like objects. but when they are just chill they are cool, but now i am starting to realize that being associated with them might get me in trouble. Cuz when they are routy we usually have police lookin' constantly or people telling us to calm down. and i have no part in anything they are doing. i mean they are my friends, but they can get me in serious trouble? i dont want to ditch them tho because they are really chill people sometimes. and i get can't tell them to stop because they would probably do something to me!
what should i do with them?

...would you trade being chill with a group of people for a few years, only to have them ditch you in the near future.....

...for a police record? These are the type of people that if they get caught...they're not going to back you up...they're going to run and leave you behind to get caught.

Also keep in mind if they get caught and even if you didn't do anything wrong, you're still considered by police law an "accessory" so that makes you equally liable and could still go on trial and get a police file in your name. If that happens, good luck getting a job, you just f**ked up your whole future ; and would a successful guy want to marry a felon? He's not going to know that you didn't do anything...he just looks at the fine print, and think of your family...if my child were hanging around those types I would have kicked all their asses myself already, and yours for hanging around them in the first place ^______^ lmao.

And who gives a shit what they say...if they were true friends you wouldn't feel that doubt about them doing something if you tell them to stop. What are they going to say? "Oh you're a sellout..." But you know deep down you're doing the right thing...and you will be successful in the future while they're still looking for a damn dead end job.

Dude go find other friends that will appreciate your opinions and good morals and heart.

You probably have a lot to offer this world...these people are holding you back and will CONTINUE to hold you back unless you do something about it. We can't do that for you.

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)-------

i think it's called "guilty be association" and if anyone doesn't take the time to see what really happened then they're not worth your time, let alone worth being your husband.

plenty of other people can be nice and cool to be around. i doubt that this is what you want. eventually down the road, they're going to pressure you into doing drugs and having sex and whatnot and when you back down they'll just make fun of you. just phase them out, tell them that you have things to do and can't hang out with them as much. or better yet, get a job or join some club, you could make plenty of new friends.

ditch these losers lol.. they arent worth the time..

you should probably think twice about hanging out with them, they aren't worth your time, and might drag you into some serious troble in the future.

If friends don't accept it when you say, "I'm not comfortable doing that," then they're not really friends. It sounds like a cliché, but I have a lot of friends who drink or do drugs too; however, if I tell them I'm not going to, they're cool with that.

On a side note, kudos to you for at least trying to stay out of trouble. A few nights ago, a friend of mine died from a drug overdose--it's not something pretty to get involved with.

^ I'm sorry about your friend.

Real friends would be okay with it if you tell them you're not going to do drugs or have sex. And if they're going to "do something to you" when you try to help them, you probably shouldn't associate with them.

Might I add from experience, if you're hanging with a bad crowd, it isn't possible to save all of them. Some people are going to go bad no matter how hard you fight to keep them out of trouble.

You know they can get you in a lot of trouble, dont hang out with them, as much. Start sparing time for other people, and eventually you will have gravitated from runnin with a crew thats too wild.

You can still be friends with these people, but just... Be careful. Don't get in situations where there's likely to be a conflict. You could just stay around them during the day when they're just hanging out, but not join in on their night life for example (if thats when they're doing these things that you're not comfortable)
When I was a teen, some of my friends got into alcohol and drugs and sleeping around etc. It didn't mean that I abandoned them as friends. What it meant was that I didn't go out with them at night if I knew that they'd be doing things that I wouldn't be ok with. I accepted them as human beings and told them I was concerned about them, but I didn't join in with them or was present when they were doing things they shouldn't.

The funny thing is that one of my friends from that group (probably my closest friend in that crowd) got pregnant when she was 16 as a result of a drunken one night stand. Most of her friends in the same crowd (doing the same things that she had been!) really shunned her and completely abandoned her. She lost a lot of friendships over it, especially when she decided to keep her baby and not have an abortion.
She's told me since then that I was one of her only friends that still stood by her even then, when so many of her friends from the fast crowd didn't want anything to do with her.

This friend of mine has since gotten out of that bad lifestyle. Her baby is gorgeous (now nearly 3!) and she's engaged to a lovely, gentle and moral man and has another baby on the way with him. We're still good friends to this day, although I don't see her very often (I live in a different city now, had to move to attend university)

Anyways, the point of all this is that if these people are really your friends, don't abandon them. Just don't get involved in the things they do that you know are wrong. In the long run, you may be a better friend for it.

that's like saying girls who talk shit behind your back are sweet when they're not talking about you. it just... doesn't make sense.
if the only reason you hang out with them is because they're cool sometimes, it's not really worth it. find other ppl who won't pressure you into doing shit or getting into trouble they bring on.

Look around for some different guys that are chill, too, then slowly hang out with your "druggie-weapon-banger" friends less and less... until you don't hang out w/them much or not at all. Your choice.

You seem like the type of guy that can be much cooler when he's around different kinds of dudes.

peace =D

aww..i'm sorry about your friend. i hope you're coping allright.

i think that maybe you should rethink your friendship with these friends of yours. and think about it, is it worth all this trouble? and, you could start hanging out with other people slowly. and start to part ways with these current druggie/banger friends of yours.

if you already kno they get into trouble and you know that you could get into trouble also, why do you still to choose to hang with them? thats Kinda weiRd, but you should just fiNd new friends. if your afraid to ditch them, cuz you think they might do sumthing to you, then right there that should tell you that you shouldn't be hangin out with them. you should be able to hang with ur friends and hang with other freinds without thinking they are gonna do sumthin to you, if you Dithched them. :/