Ok so theres this guy i have a huge crush on in school. well we're good friends and im happy about that...but when it comes to talking to him in person i just break down. i no i should have eye contact but for some reason i cant look into his eyes or im gunna start smiling and it would seem obvious i like him..and if he knows i like him im afraid it will stunt our friendship. usually i would start looking in his eyes while talking and i always tend to look away and then look back....i find that really annoying but its like a habit. i really should be more confident and stuff like that...i plan for it but when its time to take action...i break down again what should i do?
and one more thing...i think i think about him too much that its interfere with my school work..even some of my friends say that its true, what do i do? its really hard to stop.

you just have to try to get focus
when you look into his eyes don't think how cute he is just think about what a giid friend he is

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the best way to be is to act normally as if the question of feelings isnt even on the table. if you act all weird, he will never really get to know the real, non-nervous you. and if you are acting like that, its probably really obvious to him that you like him and if he isnt avoiding you at that point, he MIGHT like you or he is just really doesnt care if people like him, which i find to be really mature.

Its really good that you actually try talking to him. Just try thinking about swallowing the fear and going right ahead and finally telling him.

If hes interfering with your school work, just try as hard as you can to focus not on him but your actual work. I hope it all works out :D

Don't worry girl, I'm in the same boat with you.

I have the biggest crush that I ever had on a good friend of mines. Actually, we have known one another for just over a month now. Anyway, I get what you mean by not being able to look at him in the eye. We are both like that. Like at times we would, then we won't, and then we would. Or we would catch one another looking at the other and the one who's looking will look away. I hope you know what I mean. But it's natural. So while I'm talking, I tell myself to try looking at him in the eye more or he might think I'm embarrassed to be seen with him or something. Now I'm doing a better job and at times, we actually just stare at each another when we talk or something. At times like these, try to catch his eye when he's not looking into yours. But just enough to let him now that you are looking at his face and not somewhere else.

Meanwhile about the interfering with the schoolwork thing, I'm like that, too. I have so much to do and it's my senior year of high school. Yet I spend too much time worrying about little things and such. So you know what? Force yourself to work. It really works. & since you think of him so much, do what I do: talk to friends. Or write it all out on a blog or something with code names (i do that). So after gushing about him, you will be free to do your schoolwork. At least for the time-being.

I hope this works!

lols awwhs how cute...i act the same way as you do! what a quinkie dink lols...well i just try my best to be myself...lols i mean i really SHOULD be more confident...it couldn't possibly be THAT bad righht? lols i just keep telling myself these things...haha i mean come on...you're talking to him atleast right? i think if you smile though you'll feel more confident...haha i dont think smiling makes it obvious...if it does...am i obvious i like a guy that i dont like? haha because even if i dont like a guy i still smile...because i love to smile...lols yehhh....so smiling just gives you confidence to be yourself...heehee i don't know if that helped you any...but heyy i tried..

i suggest that you ask him for his screenname. if you have a conversation over AIM you won't need to look him in the eye and you can have a nice little get to know you conversation about anything.

we've all been there, i'm 17 and i'm still kind of there. i think my crush knows that i like him, i plan to out myself to him anyway the next time i see him

thanks guys =] ill try that sometime