socialbutterfly23
Oct 23 2005, 01:56 PM
What do you do when you really like your boyfriend but your scarred to get to get to close (like fall in love) because your scarred of getting hurt.........I think that im starting to fall in love with my boyfriend and i think he feels the same way well thats what my friends say so what should I do?
Kneuklid Romance
Oct 23 2005, 02:04 PM
...Your friends say?
What do you say dear? Don't go by what your friends say, they dont know how you feel or how he feels. Listen to your heart and soul...not other people...
...in relationships you'll find that other people and outside influences tend to break more than mend.
But what I would do...I would have a nice atmosphere and a relatively quiet one...(perhaps a nice dinner) and just talk about your future being together. You can mention love and your feelings, and just ask questions and talk.
Get a conversation started about your relationship...then
Perhaps ask him light and simple questions like,
"What if I'm afraid to fall in love?"
"What does love mean to you?"
"What does committment mean to you?"
"What would it do to us in the long term?"
Those are just relative questions...you have to dig into his heart and see what / how he feels about that subject. Love is too complicated to be left in the dark...
...and if / should you ever get hurt, you will suffer immensely but it will also make you very strong inside and will answer your questions you have deep down.
^______^.
Hang in there, the road to true love is a very interesting one...believe me. But it is well worth it.
Good luck.
LHHRS
Kevyn @-)--------
Jakelvl100
Oct 23 2005, 02:04 PM
depending on your age you should show your imotions and at the same time try not to ruin your relationship.
If your of the right age legally (or not...) then see if he wants to have sex....
LittleLulu
Oct 23 2005, 05:44 PM
ok so i've let my heart out to this guy. and i ended up getting hurt...twice. yeah it was really stupid of me. but you know what? if i were to do it all over again, i wouldn't have changed a THING. Because i was brave enough to open up and let him into my world. sure things didn't turn out to be the greatest, but its still something i'll never forget.
...you cant control it. if you love him, you love him. just because your scared to, cant change the fact that you do, make sense?
much2muse
Oct 23 2005, 07:30 PM
as martina mcbride would say... love without holding back

don't have sex though.. you don't need to do that to be in love. and its okay to fall in love.. just remember everyone gets hurt sometime
_sarcastic_
Oct 24 2005, 06:12 AM
most ppl will get hurt at least once. don't be afraid to fall in love with him i mean you can't hold your feelings back, you can't change how you feel about him, just go for it
mouse_3k
Oct 24 2005, 10:31 AM
I went through that when I girst started going out with my bf. my first love just broke my heart and I was scarted of love since. but then i started to trust my bf and hes been treating me like a queen and I love him so much. next saturday is our 6th month
rockmyx
Oct 24 2005, 10:51 AM
^ wow your kucky to have a bf like that
well you have to go with the flow, if you feel love and your bf loves you too then you have to risk for it and maybe you will be like mouse_3k.
you will never know until you risk for it and maybe you will find happiness once you break free. just know your limitations in love
xFaith
Oct 24 2005, 10:55 AM
Just let him in your heart ;).. if you get hurt, well so be it, but if you really are in love with this guy, you should take the risk. it will hurt even more later on if you decide that you wont let him in just because you were afraid. ;)
topsyturvy
Oct 24 2005, 11:05 AM
^ Agreed.
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.. or something like that. You never know if you don't take a risk. Remember, the more you go through, the more you learn.
mipadi
Oct 24 2005, 11:07 AM
I think that people tend to worry too much about love and romance and their true feelings. Sometimes your feelings take you by surprise, but I think it's best to just go with the flow. Don't worry about past experiences or what the future might bring; remember that you're living in the present, the now, but the past or the future.
EddieV
Oct 24 2005, 12:03 PM
I would go emo and start doing drugs and cutting myself.
iNyCxShoRT
Oct 25 2005, 08:42 PM
Like the quote says, "Your eyes must do some watering if you're ever gonna grow." Everyone gets hurt once, or else they never mature.
c4rL4
Oct 26 2005, 09:44 PM
LET Y0UR feelings out.. just dont give your everything. i mean.. dont pour out everythin that you know. you'll get hurt. but its really up to you.
dont worry too much, dont think too much before everything goes wrong.
if anything is on your mind.. just talk to him about it. then maybe he can help you through it, you'll learn to trust him more.
[dont think too much.] trust me.. ive learned this the hard way. =//
SandRAWRz
Oct 26 2005, 10:35 PM
if you heart gets broken just let it get broken..it's life..it's about taking chances. Don't think of the future, just live your life
Genuine_Essence
Oct 29 2005, 07:57 PM
Follow your heart
swtcherriipie
Oct 31 2005, 04:42 PM
thats inda happening to me now.. =\
Hiphop d[-_-]b
Oct 31 2005, 07:17 PM
Let what happens happen. You cant HELP falling in love, it should just happen. And if you do, and if he does hurt you, then be thankful for this event in your life. Dont tread on the breakup, retrace the memories for future reference. Dont be afraid to love. :D
socialbutterfly23
Nov 4 2005, 10:42 PM
Thanks everyone so much me and my bf have been goin out for a month 2 weeks and 3days and he's a real sweet heart and i'm glad to have him around
miss-_-guitar
Nov 5 2005, 04:50 PM
ine been hurt by love before. or what i thought was love. but if i could go back in time i would make the same mistake again. sometimes u need to take risks. hope everything goes well
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