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xFaith
Whenever it comes to liking some guy who likes me too, and i go out with him or something.. im always afraid.. dont know why, i just dont dare to kiss.. afraid that ill do it wrong or something...
How can i solve this?? i have this for about 3 years now (since my last bf), and its really getting in my way of meeting new people.
does anyone have some tips?

thanks in advance.. :)
topsyturvy
I have that problem too.. i think it's a lack of confidence. ermm.gif

Tips for me too sad.gif
_sarcastic_
it comes naturally, just go with the flow, don't get all tensed up cause you're afraid that you'd screw up.
when the time's right you'll know what to do
Chii
just tell yourself that if you don't just take a risk, nothing is going to happen.

it's true though, if you just pull away the guy is going to think that you're not interested and move on to someone else. if you want something great, you have to risk disappointment and mistakes but the reward can be incredibly delightful thumbsup.gif

basically it's like would you rather do nothing and get nothing or do something, gain a learning experience, and have a chance at suceeding?
i don't know about you but the latter soounds very appealing wink.gif
xFaith
Yeah.. i guess your right :) thnx =D
DrEaMgUy2K1
Kissing is like riding a bike, its kinda messy in the begining but then u get the hang of it and never forget.

The sooner u start the sooner ur fears will end. People need to stop thinking that the first kiss will decide everything , People arent really that shallow
megan_x3
Lol .. finding myself thinking about that last few weeks. I've started going out with my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.. and i was worried sick about kissing him .. He grabbed me and then we met each other eyes .. and then we kissed. it was like a shock to me that i kissed him .. my whole body frozed .. it was just .. woah ~ but afterwards .. i gained my confidence on kissing my boyfriend. go with the flow .. it's not that hard. [=
islandkiss
i've always been nervous around the guys that I like but I just make myself look stupid. So i've been working on it
ChEeR A HOliC Xo
I've always had that same problem untill I met this one guy. I like him, and he flirts back with me i'm just not positive if he likes me. But you have to be his friend before anything you will feel more confortable being yourself, and not have that fear anymore. wink.gif
xFaith
Thanks all, you were right, i had the best time yesterday :D
miss-_-guitar
you just need to find a guy who ur really comfortable with. try being friends first so u can get to know him. that works for me
Hiphop d[-_-]b
I used to feel that way a lot, but rarely now.

I know what you mean by liking someone so much and them liking you back and then the insecurities still pour in and all that crap. Just do exactly what Chii said, and what ive done. If you dont do something, you will never know.
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